John,
I am beginning to experience longer and longer periods of time without nightmares. I believe what is helping me is to talk about them with my therapist...talk,talk,talk. I have been in intensive analysis for over two years - three times a week - and some of the things we talk most about are my nightmares which I have had all my life. The more talking we do the less power they have, and I even have begun to have what I think normal people have - normal dreams! So from my experience there is hope - don't give up. Talking about them brings them out in the open and they lose their secret, scary power, and I learn so much about myself and my history from my dreams that I can never remember awake. That's my experience.
I'm glad talking to your T has worked so well for you. I think you are so right - the more we can talk about things the less power they have over us.
But mainly, hey, welcome to Male Survivor. I hope the site can help you. There's a great bunch of guys here and you will find a lot of understanding and support here.
Much love,
Larry