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#150946 - 04/15/07 11:29 AM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: FormerTexan]
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Registered: 11/12/05
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Loc: United States
I'm not surprised about your sister's lack of response. They're probably in shock over what they had obviously overlooked when you were kids still.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you have a LOT of SHIT to deal with, give Robbie some credit. It's gonna be rough for a while, but this won't last forever, ok?


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#150953 - 04/15/07 12:15 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Still]
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Registered: 08/13/01
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Loc: Northern Ohio
Rob,
I'm responding directly from your original post.

"trusted my sister and a friend with "my story" in print - no word from either of them about it...act like i never sent the link after they asked me to send it."
From my own experience, sharing this info with family/friends will, at the very least, Rock-Their-World-Concept of their lives. You have been living with this daily, they canít possibly be brought up to speed in a page. And, as in my case, they had to process the reality that so much of what they held as truth, was a lie. A lie they didn't even realize they were living.
As it is no small task to disclose our abuse to others, it's also quite a task for others to rework accepted concepts they have held all their lives.
As it takes time for us to deal with each step of our healing, it certainly will take time for the people we have entrusted with our horrors to come to terms of any kind.
We have to re-examine what we expected to get when we shared this info & ask ourselves if we are being fair to ourselves & them.


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#150961 - 04/15/07 01:28 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: blacken]
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Robbie,

I just love Shadow's typically sharp and right to the heart of things comment to you. Forget about fooldom; this is all about cooldom. \:\)

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#151284 - 04/17/07 10:24 AM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: FormerTexan]
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The friend i never heard from was just blown-away.
Literally...away. I had to reach out to him to see if he can possibly help Lorie and the kids during this flood. They are in real need of some help.
Contact with him was ALWAYS certain. You call - he asnswers. You email - he replies. Fast...you know?

Not to complain...but the things I have done for him...

fk it!

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#151285 - 04/17/07 10:27 AM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Still]
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I'm sorry, Rob. \:\(

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#151295 - 04/17/07 12:28 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: FormerTexan]
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that sucks pal

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#151305 - 04/17/07 02:09 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Logan]
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Registered: 03/24/07
Posts: 543
Loc: Boulder, Colorado
Logan said it best... it sucks. This whole deal sucks, but I'm glad we all have eachother. "They" can never know what it's like... hell, how could they?

Thinking about you Robbie. I know disclosing takes a lot of courage, and to have someone run out on you is devistating.

Love you my friend,

Danny

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#151308 - 04/17/07 02:19 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: dannym]
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You know...he probably could not have even done much for Lorie and the kids...but to discover this abanodonment now was just extra painful.

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#151312 - 04/17/07 02:51 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Still]
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Robbie,

I am so sorry your friend has let you down, but your term "blown away" probably describes how he feels right now. I'm not saying that to justify his meltdown, but I have to say I understand it. This kind of revelation is just about the LAST thing our friends expect to hear from us.

But more important is how you react to all this. Always remember that his reaction has to do with HIS failings, not yours.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#151313 - 04/17/07 02:52 PM Re: Feeling like a Fool [Re: Still]
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Registered: 04/06/07
Posts: 55
Loc: Michigan
Robbie,

What do you mean by "blown-away"?

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