just to add - to larry's idea -
with a question -
afte three years of being in therapy -
this person ought to know you now well enough
i would think that he might perceive his actions
mean to you that he doesn't believe you and there fore be hurtful - then again - it might
be growing pains in your relationship with him-
recently i argued with an old friend - and it was very hard - hurtful difficult -
and though a t is not a friend - but a healing relationship - if he is pushing a spot that hurts -
he should be told it - especially -
if you feel safe enough with him
at this point - -
but if at the crux of it - you feel he is perhaps
not safe - though three years?
and not helping?
i am with larry - i would find another -
but feel it out - trust yourself in the sense
to be rational - perhaps talk to
Ken Singer - first too
you are taking care of you well - !
you feel something is wrong
you are trusting yourself
by reaching out - that is good
i am glad you are taking care
even if right now --it isn't all perfect -
you at least are aware and working to fix it!