By your timeline you're on the middle of the conversation now. I jsut want you to know that I'm thinking abotu you and hopeing for the best. I have had a very positive day here (got my union card after 10+ years working in my field! woo-hoo!) and I am sending some of that energy your way.
Regardless of how the confrontation goes, I hpe that you come out of it feeling affirmed in yourself, closer to yourself, and more loving of yourself. It is a very big step to stand up and say this is what I need. I don't even particularly care what the old man has to say fro himself, all I care about is how you feel coming out of it.
"I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
Healing D.H. Lawrence