I was not in recovery when we had our only child. She was 20 years old when my recovery began. I will say tho that if anything having a child was a major plus in helping me (even tho I had no real understanding of the issues) to work through some of the things from my childhood. I think it would have had even greater effect had our child been a boy.
In answer to BH, I feel that had I begun recovery when my daughter was small or before she was born, I'd probably have been quite vigilant, perhaps hyper vigilant, hard to tell at this point.
I do know that when I see a child on the street or in any other situation, I have this urge to make sure they are OK and nothing bad is happening to them.
“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson