Robbie, you hit the nail on the head. I have not once picked up on the slightest hint that "unconventional" sexuality is by any means questionable.
It seems that everyone here understands that words hurt us, and judging wounds us. Whether we identify (and I believe that is an accurate word, society pressures us to "identify") as same-sex sexuality, opposite-sex sexuality, or ANYTHING in between. It all counts, and it is all worth exploring and cherishing for whomever has the opportunity and the desire to experience it. If this weren't true, it wouldn't cause such a terrific stir!
If you guys haven't seen this yet, there is an eye-opening msnbc report here: Gay animals out of the closet?
And a link to LiveScience.com
which is on that msnbc page.
However, to get back on topic, if I were never abused, I believe that at some point I would have experimented with opposite-sex sexuality. The abuse sort of hijacked my freshly discovered same-sex sexuality and wrote a sort of self-executing program in my brain that took all my mental and sexual resources and focused them on unhealthy sexual desires. In this way it made it many times more difficult for me to see myself as masculine, confident and strong. "Why can't I experience pleasure with a woman?" That question shook the very core my being. I was terrified of it, and of what I thought it meant.