Thanks S-n-S !!!!! I feel great about it! Again had to unwrap myself from my husband who is still trying to suck me back in, but I'm not falling for it. HE needs to fix himself and he has to do it all on his own now. Cruel sounding but he mistreated me when I was "hanging in there" for him, so now he has to travel that path on his own.
Gabrielle - I had not read the entire thread, so when I responded I did not realize that your husband had left. A few thoughts for you. I know it's hard but everyday it will get better. I played mind games with myself at one point "was it really all that bad?" - yes it was and going back to that life is NOT an option.
You said that your daughters life will be turned upside down because he's gone - her life WAS upside down when you were together. Believe me, she was not shielded by what was going on in the home, she knew.
Stay tough and stay firm - YOU CAN DO IT!!!! I swear you can. Proceed forward for you and your daughter and build a healthy life for yourselves. If you can't do it for yourself right now, do it for your daughter. Give her the tools to break the chain of abuse, don't let that be her legacy.
Get yourself in a good support group and get counseling for your daughter. Don't worry too much about how your going to afford your house, pay bills etc., that all seems to fall into place. I was and still am unemployed when my husband was arrested - it has all started to fall into place for me. If it hadn't, leaving our home would have been hard but my sons and I would be together and that's all that matters - the material things are just that - material.
Believe me, I went through it all. I'm now to the point that I'm excited about life and rebuilding for me and my sons. I'm in a great support group through my church called Celebrate Recovery which is a national program if your interested. It focuses on RECOVERING for ME. Nothing to do with him and his issues. It gets to the root of the problem so I don't repeat any of this ever again.
Be tough and be strong girl!!! I know you can do it - YOU are worth it. So is your daughter. We'll help each other get through it!!
Day by day and today is good!!!!
God has a plan for me, I trust in God's plan.