Another line of thought on this... I've been having more and more powerful dreams ever since I returned from Napa. My T and I feel that what's going on is that I'm beginning to process a lot of hte feelings that I have kept under wraps for so long. It is beginnign to affect my ability to sleep thorugh the night, and I often find myself staying up later and later to "read" or "watch that show I've been meaning to". In fact, I think I'm simply trying to avoid some of the dreams.
I wonder if the bf isn't going through something similar? Perhaps some of the nightmares are relly very powerful attemtps by his mind to process feeelings that need to be accepted and moved through in order to continue healing. If so, it may help him to talk about the dreams and his feelings. Also, I feel that being on an anti-depressant has been very helpful to me in helping me process some of the feelings. The drug I'm on does not inhibit any emotions at all, rather it sort of raises the threshold at which I can handle everything, so I don't get overwhelemd like I used to. It also has helpful side effect of amplifying my natural body rhythms and, for instance, making me more tired which helps me fall asleep also.
"I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
Healing D.H. Lawrence