sorry if my post regarding my thoughts and attitudes toward women was too graphic, especially for a new member like me. i only meant that my abuse issues have caused my relationships with women to be very difficult and unsucessful, especialy in regards to a healthy sexual component, and my mariage was destroyed and terminated largely over sexual issues. it all goes back to being sexually tormented so many years ago. i guess the real question is how we, as male sexual survivors cope with our sexuality, which was so badly comprimised by abuse of our bodies. any input on this greatly appreciated. PS- please help me with the ground rules and codes of conduct on this site as i am new and want only to help and be helped by others sharing my issues and concerns.