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#141248 - 02/12/07 09:23 AM Breakup songs help you grieve the loss of self?
cbfull Offline
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Registered: 01/26/07
Posts: 386
Loc: Ohio
Okay, I hope this doesn't sound too corny, but I decided to purchase Nick Lachey's What's Left of Me CD, basically because I think J. Simpson is a real loser for leaving him, and I wanted to support his music. I hope he gets over her and never takes her back (Uh-oh I think my celebrity crush is showing).

I have gradually been noticing that these "heartache" and "getting over you" songs are helping me to tune into my own personal grief due to the loss of my childhood innocence. I have been finding a certain amount of strength to continue my recovery in several of the songs on his CD.

Here is a track listing, it should give you an idea of how it could apply:

What's Left Of Me
I Can't Hate You Anymore
On Your Own
Outside Looking In
Shades Of Blue
Beautiful
Everywhere But Here
I Do It For You
Run To Me
Ghosts
You're Not Alone
Resolution

I thought it was worth mentioning, although I am a LITTLE embarassed by it, but then again who gives a crap... whatever helps counts.

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#141524 - 02/14/07 07:20 AM Re: Breakup songs help you grieve the loss of self? [Re: cbfull]
duncanUK Offline
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cbfull,

Do not feel embarassed. You must continue to use songs to help you heal. Have you ever tried listening to classical music? Bach, Gustev Holtz etc...

Duncan

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#141766 - 02/15/07 11:24 PM Re: Breakup songs help you grieve the loss of self? [Re: duncanUK]
philobat Offline
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Registered: 01/31/07
Posts: 293
Loc: California
Music is very healing for me and I am not embarrassed at all.


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#141777 - 02/16/07 01:01 AM Re: Breakup songs help you grieve the loss of self? [Re: philobat]
markgreyblue Offline
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
CB,

Please keep expressing all you need and want to -

I read this post yesterday - and it didn't register to me -

but I woke up a short while ago

and there's like this internal battle and discomfort

within me right now -

and the post 'spoke to me' more -

Definitely - I should look at music for more of it's healing qualities -

Thanks -

Mgb



Edited by markgreyblue (02/16/07 01:02 AM)
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#142316 - 02/19/07 08:04 AM Re: Breakup songs help you grieve the loss of self? [Re: markgreyblue]
cbfull Offline
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On first glance, they just seem like breakup songs, but if you listen to the words they can directly address your pain as a survivor of CSA.

It also helps that it is a male voice.

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#142390 - 02/19/07 07:29 PM Re: Breakup songs help you grieve the loss of self? [Re: cbfull]
froggy12 Offline
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Registered: 11/12/06
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Loc: Marlboro, MA 01752
Try some Jack Johnson - my inner self reverberates.

froggy

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