Wow, thanks so much for mentioning me ste, I'm honored.
Thought I'd share this with you all. I know it's not by one of us... but I did put it in a message to philobat, so it technically is a quote on the board....
"We raise boys to live in a world in which they are either winners or losers, grandiose or shame filled, or, in the most extreme cases... either perpetrators or victims, the rapsit or the raped. 'I'd rather be a hammer than a nail,' Paul Simon sings. There isn't a man I have met who doesn't understand the chilling implications of that sentiment. If healthy self esteem is the experience of oneself as essentially worth neither more nor less than others, there is precious little training in the current culture of boys." (I Don't Want To Talk About It, Terrence Real p. 166-167)
"I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly, that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self...."
Healing D.H. Lawrence