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#140610 - 02/07/07 01:54 PM Normal Reaction?
usccabum1985 Offline
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Registered: 06/22/06
Posts: 43
Loc: Illinois
So I dont know if this falls under sexual identity but it is sex related and I dont know where else to turn. I recently met a girl that I like a lot. We have been spending a lot of time togeather, Its alomst like we are kinda dating. Well yesterday things took a turn towards the more serous type of relationship. But when I went to well "do It" I lost my erection. Gone, done, finished. The foreplay was doin it for me, and I was redy to go on. but the mechanics wouldnt work. I was starting to wonder if it was the first time willys or somthing to worry about. ( I havnt had this problome before) ( also I am still a virgin, trying to work on that) Any feedback would be welcome, and yes I want her.

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#140615 - 02/07/07 02:11 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: usccabum1985]
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Loc: NYC
usccabum
Put it down to too much pressure on the first time. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT!! Despite stories, it happens to all guys. If I could make a suggestion...tell her you'd like to just do foreplay for a while and not initiate THE sex act for a while. That takes the pressure of you to perform. Keep it all fun, exploring, oral, kiss, lick, touch, all that fun stuff. No actual intercourse for a while - weeks or months. THEN when you are really comfortable with each other and feel very intimate, trusting and not feel like you have to "prove" yourself, then think about intercourse. But listen to your body. If you go for it, and something doesn't feel right, or if you feel anxiety, then don't do it.
My guess is that once you establish this sort of intimacy and sex play, the actual intercourse will be fine and fun. She will probably go for it big time since often the foreplay is more intimate in some ways than the intercourse. You can focus on HER needs a lot. My two cents.
Paul


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#142941 - 02/23/07 02:11 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: Paul1959]
usccabum1985 Offline
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Well at this point its usless, she died in a car wreck on friday. I have learnd my lesson, never get close to another girl. When I did, I was only hurt. Love is the worst thing that has ever happend to me

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#142943 - 02/23/07 02:15 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: usccabum1985]
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I am so, so sorry.


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#142944 - 02/23/07 02:25 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: Kathryn]
shadowkid Offline
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sorry for you dude, and for her

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#142965 - 02/23/07 03:57 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: shadowkid]
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Registered: 11/12/05
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Loc: United States
OMG

Take care of yourself ok? This is tragic. I'm so sorry to hear it. How long had you known eachother?


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#142966 - 02/23/07 04:03 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: Hauser]
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You're not alone, my friend. We're here to listen if you need us.


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#143058 - 02/24/07 02:08 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: Dewey2k]
Paul1959 Offline
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OMG - I am so sorry. words don't begin to say it. Don't give up on life or love. Keep your memory of her and let it lead you. come here to talk.
Paul


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#143244 - 02/25/07 08:24 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: Paul1959]
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We're here when you need us, My Friend. Any time.

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#143670 - 03/01/07 01:27 PM Re: Normal Reaction? [Re: WalkingSouth]
usccabum1985 Offline
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Registered: 06/22/06
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Loc: Illinois
Thanks for the suport guys!
I dont know, I havent been feeling well at all. I have all but lost the ability to sleep. I havent been able to eat. I went to the funeral and couldnt take it. It was sooo hard to see her and her son laying there. I broke down bad. I realy am having a hard time geting past this. I never thought the first person I loved would die on me. This is cural. Im sooo lost in a pit of depression. I dont know what to do

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