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#140074 - 02/02/07 07:47 PM Re: my father died [Re: reality2k4]
sabata Offline
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sorry john


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#140108 - 02/02/07 11:19 PM Re: my father died [Re: reality2k4]
Mark Antony Offline
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Registered: 01/03/07
Posts: 34
Loc: Michigan
John

With the situation being that your father had been ill and you knew he was going to die. You probably did your grieving before he actually passed. With chronic illness it is very common for someone to grieve an upcoming death. When the death occurs the grieving process is already complete and the survivor feels relief as the suffering is over. You are not abnormal you probably have completed the grieving process already.

Mark Antony


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#140132 - 02/03/07 10:52 AM Re: my father died [Re: Mark Antony]
Stefan012 Offline
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Registered: 12/18/06
Posts: 281
Loc: The Netherlands
Sorry everyone, Dutch lyrics. I'm to lazy to translate em atm. :-)

Zo fout als Marco Borsato ook is, dit liedje deed me toch wat:

Afscheid nemen bestaat niet
Ik ga wel weg maar verlaat je niet
Mijn lief, je moet me geloven
Al doet het pijn

Ik wil dat je me los laat
En dat je morgen weer verder gaat
Maar als je eenzaam of bang bent
Zal ik er zijn

Ik kom als de wind die je voelt en de regen
Volg wat je doet als het licht van de maan
Zoek me in alles dan kom je me tegen
Fluister mijn naam
En ik kom er aan

Zie wat onzichtbaar is
Wat je gelooft is waar
Open je ogen maar
En dan zal ik bij je zijn
Alles wat jij moet doen
Is mij op mijn woord geloven

Afscheid nemen bestaat niet

Ik kom als de wind die je voelt en de regen
Volg wat je doet als het licht van de maan
Zoek me in alles dan kom je me tegen
Fluister mijn naam
En ik kom er aan

Kijk in de lucht
Kijk naar de zee
Waar je ook zult lopen, ja, ik loop met je mee
Iedere stap en ieder moment
Waar je dan ook bent

Wat je ook doet
Waar je ook gaat
Wanneer je me nodig hebt
Fluister gewoon mijn naam
En ik kom eraan

Afscheid nemen bestaat niet

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#140244 - 02/03/07 11:47 PM Re: my father died [Re: Stefan012]
john22 Offline
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Registered: 10/16/06
Posts: 173
Loc: Europe-Belgium
thx for all your reactions.

Maybe you're right Mark Antony, but i still feel the need to grief, its still on the surface. I just can't, I think.

And of course Stefan its a nice song and Marco Borsato is not that wrong ;\)


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#140351 - 02/05/07 01:33 AM Re: my father died [Re: john22]
WalkingSouth Offline
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Posts: 16264
Hugs to you John. So sorry to hear of your loss.

Take good care of you and know we'll be here to care for and support you if you need.

John

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#142179 - 02/18/07 11:31 AM Re: my father died [Re: reality2k4]
Alexander Offline
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Registered: 10/17/06
Posts: 223
Loc: The Netherlands
how are you?

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And I see no chance of release
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#142180 - 02/18/07 11:35 AM Re: my father died [Re: Alexander]
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Registered: 01/31/07
Posts: 293
Loc: California
Sorry to hear of your loss.

-Philo


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#142194 - 02/18/07 12:20 PM Re: my father died [Re: john22]
outis Offline
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Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2259
Loc: Maryland USA
John,

I'm sorry to hear about your father's death. The numbness of feeling at a time like this is pretty normal, I think, for a lot of people, survivors or not.

Prayers,

Joe

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#142204 - 02/18/07 12:47 PM Re: my father died [Re: reality2k4]
john22 Offline
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Registered: 10/16/06
Posts: 173
Loc: Europe-Belgium
hi

Thx for the reply's.
Life just going as it always goes. I don't think to often at my loss. It will be hard at some special moments, like graduation, but I will see then how I should react on those emotions.

John22


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#142231 - 02/18/07 04:28 PM Re: my father died [Re: john22]
dillon Offline
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Registered: 02/02/07
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Loc: california,san deigo
bro im sorry to here that..stuff happens sometimes its good and sometimes its bad.... but the good thing is that theres more good than bad

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