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#138702 - 01/23/07 05:35 AM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know About Us. [Re: beccy]
Junyah Offline
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Registered: 03/07/06
Posts: 52
Loc: Mississauga, Ont
Hello all, just wanted to say I am not an invalid, I am a survivor, just felt that was important for me to say.
Peace...

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#138704 - 01/23/07 06:04 AM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know About Us. [Re: Junyah]
beccy Offline
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Registered: 05/28/06
Posts: 449
Loc: england
It's really good to read that Junyah.

From the first moment my bf disclosed I viewed him as probably the strongest person I have ever met. I believe that would catagorise him as a survivor. That was before he started any of his therapy/recovery.

Equally I have come to realise I have a whole host of my own 'problems', stemming from certain events in my own childhood, which I could often be tempted to view as meaning I am 'incapable'. Some days I can become very wrapped up in these issues, feel hopeless, believe there's no point in even trying because everything fails anyway. (This week has been one of those weeks actually). Then tell myself, that's just the way I am and I can't do anything about it. But, what I have found recently, is that if I am kind to myself, forgive myself those shortcomings/failures/messes, give myself a little time to come around, I can get back on my feet again. Try again. Learn more about my capacity for growth. Believe I am MORE THAN THE SUM TOTAL of those negative thoughts/behaviours.


peace
Beccy


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#138749 - 01/23/07 03:47 PM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know About Us. [Re: beccy]
Junyah Offline
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Registered: 03/07/06
Posts: 52
Loc: Mississauga, Ont
very well put Beccy
same has been happening for me lately, the sooner i forgive myself for my action or lack there of I am able to recover a little faster each time...

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#139034 - 01/25/07 10:09 PM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know Abou [Re: Junyah]
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Registered: 01/07/07
Posts: 167
Loc: Australia
I hope Junyah, that you are getting the help you need. I don't know your background, but I do hope you're not trying to be a brave little boy. The partners may like it, ideologues may like it but it won't do you any favours. A kid with a broken arm can think just about anything they like, it's what others do to help them that really counts. Make sure you are getting help, specialised help, not people who through their own incompetence prop up your scared cows. This isn't an online word game, it's us vs. charlatans and people who will compund our abuse. But even a site like this can be turned into a means to hurt yourself if you are not careful.

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#139066 - 01/26/07 04:35 AM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know Abou [Re: AshSurvived]
beccy Offline
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Registered: 05/28/06
Posts: 449
Loc: england
Junyah,


I think it's great you shared your positivity. Hold onto those positive feelings,



peace
Beccy


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#139074 - 01/26/07 07:25 AM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know Abou [Re: beccy]
compassion Offline
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Registered: 12/07/06
Posts: 33
Loc: Illinois, US
I am drinking coffee right now, but I would still say..."I'd drink to that!"

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#146343 - 03/21/07 02:29 AM Re: Survivors: What We Would Like You to Know Abou [Re: compassion]
Junyah Offline
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Registered: 03/07/06
Posts: 52
Loc: Mississauga, Ont
thx beccy will do...

ashsurvived, I'm not sure what your post means, so I will only say this...nevermind,
Peace....

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