Perhaps it would help you to try to break away from your attraction to a very specific physical type. If this was what your abuser looked like, then I would think there is a VERY close link involved here.
It also seems to me that you equating successful relations with women in terms of who will let you have sex with them. Sex is important of course, but as we all find out sooner or later it isn't enough to sustain a relationship or make us happy.
What about looking for a girl who is fun, interesting, sincere, and genuinely interested in you? If you are with someone like this it seems to me you would have a lot better prospects for a caring and lasting relationship, including a good sexual dimension.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)