ToT,

Yes, that is it, at least as a foundation. Learning to be true to yourself and to LOVE yourself like that will surely make everything else look a lot less difficult.

Much love,
Larry

I was thinking and Authenticity is really about how to be a descent person and is not really masculine or feminine. Again I get tired of the labeling process; I want to be lovable, desirable and attractive to women and I want respect from other men.....I guess I want to be liked and cared for and who doesn't want that? I want to be loved for me, unconditionally and I did not get that as a child and don't supppose it is very realistic to expect that from an adult relationship. People cheat, lie, and betray...Am I just setting myself up for more emotional pain by wanting these things? ......Sorry, thought just came pouring out.
ToT

ToT,

No need for an apology. Your thoughts are right on the money.

I think we are all easily tempted to accommodate what we think other people want, because this way we will receive immediate approval and validation. I think this is the situation that has you troubled.

And good thing too! What a heavy price for approval! To be approved for one's acting rather than for one's self? To disrespect oneself or betray one's values for the sake of rewards from other people? I think that is always a danger when we push too hard: on each other and on ourselves.

Much love,
Larry

I have finally discovered that no other persons love matters as much as my love towards myself. It has to start there or I will have nothing to share with another. I will forever be chasing externals for self validation if I don't love myself faults, flaws and all. I choose to give myself the love I never had as a child and to stop waiting for someone else to do it for me!!!
I understand that what happened and the things that were said really were lies....what sweet release!!!
ToT