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#13185 - 10/17/02 08:53 PM grr...
rolling_is_life Offline
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Registered: 10/16/02
Posts: 53
Loc: Olympia, Washington
I loged on today in a decent mood. I then read a post by someone named jake. His story is so sad, his father inrages me enough were I wish i knew his last name and would pay to have him tourtured, i mena this is the maddest i have been in years. its under the thread the rest of my past,second 3 from the bottom. just thought id share..

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#13186 - 10/17/02 09:55 PM Re: grr...
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hello Keith!

Your last two posts are sure filled with rage--way beyond anger. We can all understand those feelings.

You are a young teen I understand. Perhaps you are not much removed from you abuse nor even safe from your perp. Can you find someone to talk to who will listen and help you get the rage out enough that you can begin to find a little peace.

Are you safe Keith? Is there anything we could do to help you in a more practical way?

Get some exercise if you can and work some of the rage out of you. I really does help--believe me, I have done it many times--just don't get hurt or hurt someone else in your exercising.

Peace to you Lad. I really am angry that you have been abused. But I am proud of you for working on it now rather than later.

Bob

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#13187 - 10/17/02 10:30 PM Re: grr...
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Registered: 09/26/02
Posts: 49
Loc: illinois
hey sorry to get you so angry. or rather, my father should be sorry for what he did. either way, i'm sorry it got you so angry.

i'm not saying that wasn't a good response. in fact, i wish i could express half the anger you did about the situation. i tend to disconnect my feelings when it comes to thinking about what happened. anger just isn't in my working mental vocabulary.

hey, but at least you realized you were angry, right? you knew it, and you knew you needed to do something about, right?

i'm with bob, try to work the anger out, okay?

again, didn't mean to get you so angry. it's a healthy response, just something i hadn't expected. you keep cool, okay?

jake


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#13188 - 10/17/02 10:33 PM Re: grr...
rolling_is_life Offline
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Registered: 10/16/02
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Loc: Olympia, Washington
im sorry jake, its not ur fault AT ALL that im mad. None of my anger is for you. I think ur brave just for handling such a situation, you have my utmost respect cus i would have gone nuts to be honest

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#13189 - 10/17/02 10:50 PM Re: grr...
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Loc: illinois
it's okay keith. i guess the phrase 'i'm sorry you're sorry' would apply, huh?

it's just that when i post things about myself, i usuaully feel guilty for posting it, for telling the secret, guilty for the thing happening, and guilty that i feel guilty. i shut off my feelings to be able to write it, and i expect others to approach with the same disconnection, that's all. so when people are moved by it, it catches me by surprise.

it's like someone's saying, 'dude, your arm's been cut off,' and i'm saying, 'oh, it's nothing, really'.

that's all. just my really backwards way of saying thanks for caring.

thanks for caring \:\)

jake


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#13190 - 10/18/02 08:14 AM Re: grr...
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...
Keith:

I get angry when I hear stories of abuse too; I can hardly listen to or read about them in the media sometimes, but I try to anyway. Reading about them here, with fellow male survivors, is for me therapeutic. Maybe for you, too?

I've decided this is one of those things that its good & natural to be angry about. but as Jake said, it's easy to just dissociate from it all, not want to think about it.

What I'm trying to learn is constructively channeling that anger toward things like self-improvement, helping other survivors, and working against further sexual abuse of anyone ever.

To do that, I think its important to get my anger out in the open, talk about it, especially with fellow survivors, especially these fellas here.

In other words, I think you're on the right track!

In fact, Keith, I think your anger and how you're already dealing with it just by your reply to Jake demonstrates a maturity beyond your years (whatever your exact age is) and a maturity beyond the years of many people way beyond you in years!

I blocked it out becuz it was too painful for me then but that was me. I'm glad, painful as it must be for you, that you're dealing with your abuse now while you're young, as The Dean said. And I reiterate what he said about being safe too. We're here for you man. Being here for each other is, well, what we're here for!

Wuame

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#13191 - 10/18/02 08:49 PM Re: grr...
rolling_is_life Offline
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Registered: 10/16/02
Posts: 53
Loc: Olympia, Washington
Yes, I do get angry as well about abuse and I strongly support the theory of the only good abusers is the one that has been tortured dismemebered and displayed as a example to all others. But my veiw im SURE will never come to be lol :p I deal with my abuse with anger *obvisously* and i guess ur right, everyone has there own ways. I don't know why but Jakes story just set me off...still gives me shivers. and Thnx for the maturity comment \:D and BTW im 16 years old for who ever asked.
-Keith

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