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#13169 - 01/19/04 08:48 PM Here I go again....
Redsongbird Offline
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Registered: 12/01/01
Posts: 209
Have not posted for a while. But I have been reading. I am just sort of out of it tonite. One of my abusers came up to me today and showed me pictures of when I was a kid and things that were going on. He also showed pictures of me at work - when I lived in another state - my wife and I getting out of the car at different places. He says I need to remember who I am. There has been nothing happening for three whole months now! These past three months have been so wonderful. I was just feeling like things were getting back to normal - whatever the **** normal is. NOw with seeing those pictures I am starting to have some flashbacks. This is just endless. He made some very crude remarks about having "fun" the next time we meet. I told him maybe the next time I would have the gun and I would have some fun! (I was scared) and he just said I was finally getting some spunk and laughed and left. My wife called and she knew immediately something was wrong. She insisted I tell her so I did. She was/is at work. I feel like here I go again. I was just feeling like I could go outside without looking everywhere before I step searching to see if it's alright. I have no clue what he meant by I need to remember who I am! I am exausted. Got to get off the compuer now.

Tobey


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#13170 - 01/19/04 10:19 PM Re: Here I go again....
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
Tobey,

Your perp really ircked me. My ire is up.

That S.O.B. stalking you, and now trying to pull you back with his intimidations and innuendoes. Nothing but low-life trickery. That dirty rotten S.O.B.

You have a new life away from that S.O.B., you are strong enough inside to say 'enough'. Do what you need to keep yourself and your family safe. Do it safe and do legal.

F.P.D. Detectives Bureau 237-6900
F.P.D. Patrol Desk 237-6800
G.C. Sheriff's Dept. Detectives Bureau 257-3460
Community Mental Health Services 24 hour crisis line 257-3740

Take care and be safe,
Bill

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Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

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#13171 - 01/19/04 11:09 PM Re: Here I go again....
blueelectron9 Offline
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Registered: 11/07/02
Posts: 387
Loc: Victoria, BC Canada
It apalls me how this perp continues to abuse. I am sorry that you have to go through this. Nobody deserves this sort of mind fucking treatment.

I wish you all the safety and care that this post can drum up in you.

Peace,
Scotty

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#13172 - 01/20/04 04:58 PM Re: Here I go again....
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Tobey Bill has given you the ammunition and I hope you fire them.

That effen perp deserves to be sent directly to hell on the express.

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#13173 - 01/20/04 05:24 PM Re: Here I go again....
Angry_youth_86_Keith Offline
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Registered: 11/06/02
Posts: 103
Loc: Olympia, Washington
Just echoin what has been said. and adding that as much as i would wnat to and i m sure you do. dont hurt him phsycialy he probably is very desperate for control so you getting arrested would give him that. If you can get ahold of those photos he showed you he will be gone for a long time. GL be safe.

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#13174 - 01/20/04 06:08 PM Re: Here I go again....
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Tobey, you can see that you have a lot of support here. Bill has given you the numbers to call. This is certainly stalking and is most likely a crime. The trouble is, that stalking usually does not carry a punishment such that it gets him away from you.

You do need to keep safe. I would wonder if a victim's advocate group, or a rape crisis center would be able to list some options for you.

Has this perp followed you from the State in which the crime occurred? If he is crossing state lines to intimidate you he may be in bigger trouble than he can imagine.

Keith is right though, do not do anything that causes you to be the criminall--as tempting as that is just now.

Bob

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#13175 - 01/20/04 06:19 PM Re: Here I go again....
Sinking Offline
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Registered: 09/26/03
Posts: 577
Loc: Took my ball and went home.
Tobey - The advice you've been given is sound. But when it comes to assholes like the one you're dealing with, it makes me want to act in a not-so-sound manner. Because of what has happened to me I find that I am fiercly protective of people I care about. Because we share a similar history, I care about you and want to help protect you from further abuse. Feel free to message me privately. I may have a suggestion or two that might be helpful.


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#13176 - 01/20/04 06:38 PM Re: Here I go again....
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
Tobey
Listen to Bill and rest of the guys. He's a stalker, a pervert, and an extortionist.

Nail him, and do it right. Get the law involved and sting him if necessary.

Dave

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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#13177 - 01/20/04 08:07 PM Re: Here I go again....
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
Yes, Tobey and Bob, Stalking is a crime here and taken very seriously by the police and our prosecutor.

Tobey, PM me if you'd like, I'm just down the street.

Bill

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Pain is Temporary; Quitting lasts Forever. - Lance Armstrong

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#13178 - 01/20/04 10:13 PM Re: Here I go again....
Angry_youth_86_Keith Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/06/02
Posts: 103
Loc: Olympia, Washington
I actualy saw my T today and brought up this incident to him. He agreed that this perp is probably very desperate and is near rock bottom. because this is desperate bevhavior. A sad attempt to get control over you again probably because his life lacks any sort of control. He also said this time would be when the perp is most dangerous to others..or him self but I dont think thts all bad to be completely honest. So protect your self well. And hey maybe we'll get lucky and he'll cut off his own arm \:D

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