This is interesting, the feeling I get is that although so many of us do accept and use all the help we can, we still feel strongly that WE do the work, which is my feeling as well.
I think that because there are more sources of help we use them to EDUCATE ourselves rather than rely on them.
Yes, there are people who fall into the trap of thinking that just because they seek help they don't have to do anything for themselves. These people think that the healing will be done for them, just as they probably believe in Santa Claus ! But I do think it's a very small minority of Survivors, and not the type of Survivor we generally see at MS. If someone makes enough effort to come here then it's reasonable to say they're making an 'all-round' effort.
I think your friend is trying to make a distinction where one doesn't exist, probably to prove he's tougher than other people.
Dan, I get this impression as well. And I know he does use many sources of 'private' help. But what he's done has worked, to a very large degree, for him. So he does have some claim to bragging rights.
I have huge admiration for his 'style', while still arguing with him strongly that we can't all do our healing in this 'go it alone' manner.
There's so much of what he does that I'd love to bottle and sell, but it's impossible to quantify. When we talk he tells me what he's done and the way he thinks, but it's beyond words.
Possibly the nearest I can get to it is to describe it as a 'fighting spirit'.
I know we all have it, but have we tapped into it as much as we could, or are we scared of unleashing our fighting spirit because we've kept it subdued for so long?