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#123703 - 01/21/07 12:22 PM a theory on parents and children
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Registered: 12/19/03
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Loc: Pasadena, CA
i feel like domineering parents -

devistate and stunt their children's psychologies.

their talent - that might have been for themselves -

contorts - to something - completely other -

sometimes this results in great achievement -

but - at what cost - as well -
it

begs what would be better -

to treat little ones - with a personal boundary is crucial -

as the enlightenment era parents did -

they treated kids - as small adults -

now- i will not say "adult" in the full sense

but in the implied - personal space -

the implied - space specific to them

- with the recognition that their reactions -

will be appropriate to them and - their age -

what they know -

a child needs it's space but also needs examples and discourse - to guide it

to learning to take care of itself and survive -

be -

it's a blank slate - if you will -

look at the success of the enlightenment era

on the generation of adults 30 40 50 years after the turn of the 18th to 19th century

the world exploded with ideas and development -

likewise it was during this time

or soon there after that

Louisa May Alcott wrote and
said in Little Women
vis a vis the mother figure as

she to spoke to her girls:

"If a mother
teaches her daughters (children) to focus
on pretty - on being pretty
and not themselves
then this is how they will value themselves...
in so many words"

?

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#123704 - 01/21/07 12:25 PM Re: a theory on parents and children
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a parents need should not eclipse it's children

and then the parent -

so self invovled might say "why on earth did this child do this?"

well it couldn't be me - ....or my fault.

-- guess again.

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#123705 - 01/21/07 12:28 PM Re: a theory on parents and children
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if you did this at any job -

or venture

wouldn't you be fired?

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-wisdom of the hopi elders

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#123706 - 01/21/07 12:29 PM Re: a theory on parents and children
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or fail

or not expect

great results -

?

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

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#123707 - 01/21/07 05:22 PM Re: a theory on parents and children
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Quote:
a parents need should not eclipse it's children
I am 34 and my parents have STILL not learned that... \:\(

YES - they can very much devistate and stunt their childrens psychologies - I know for fact they did mine

TJ jeff

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