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#121542 - 01/28/04 09:10 PM One big way to help
The Dean Offline
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Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
To you who want to help MS, here is a simple suggestion that I believe would help a lot.

Without having to identify yourself as a survivor, you could write to your local newspapers a simple announcement such as this:

To the Editor:

The sexual abuse of boys and men has been very much in the news the past two years. You may be surprised to know that there is a national organization that tries to help male survivors of childhood and adult sexual abuse, and help protect boys and men from abuse today.

MaleSurvivor.org provides a discussion board, a list of therapists for each State, and an array of papers to explain and assist boys and men who have been sexually assaulted as well as the family and friends of these good men.

If abused men and boys want to get help with the effects of their sexual abuse, or a family or friend needs advice, you can either go to the website at: http://www.malesurvivor.org, OR call the hotline at---(can't find this number just now)--or write to--(the WDC address.)

If this appeared in only a couple of dozen papers it might help men who are still suffering in silence, and it would get our name and website out to a lot of people who most likely do not know we exist.

That is just a thought--you guys can write a better letter than that, AND you do not need to identitfy as a survivor. Many papers allow you to be anonymous if you ask for that.

Bob

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#121543 - 01/28/04 10:22 PM Re: One big way to help
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline
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Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5780
Loc: Lambertville, NJ USA
The phone number is 800 738-4181.

Again, you may represent yourself as someone who visits the site or has joined as a member but please be clear that you are not a spokesman or representative of the org. If you get contacted by media for an interview, you can talk about your abuse, life or whatever. Any inquiries about the organization or if they ask about talking to someone from MS, please refer them to Richard Gartner, Ph.D., past president and media spokesman.

Thanks,
Ken


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#121544 - 01/29/04 12:48 PM Re: One big way to help
Leosha Offline
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Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
I can do this. And as I am to still be traveling a great deal for several more months, I will attempt to send that letter, or a similar one, to the newspaper of each city I go to. Thank you for the suggestion.

Leosha

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#121545 - 01/29/04 04:21 PM Re: One big way to help
James_dup1 Offline


Registered: 04/13/02
Posts: 1332
Loc: Wyoming
I sent a copy of this letter to every newpaper in Montana (both of them ;\) lol j.king). Lets all get on line and find the web pages to the papers in your state and email it to them.
James

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#121546 - 01/29/04 05:31 PM Re: One big way to help
Sinking Offline
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Registered: 09/26/03
Posts: 577
Loc: Took my ball and went home.
Great idea. I am one who lacks patience though, so, rather than send a letter, I called. I spoke to a woman who works at the Boston Globe on the Spotlight Team, the very same people who broke the church scandal (and probably, inadvertantly, increased traffic to this site). She said that the Spotlight Team is an investigative group but she will look into it, specifically by visiting the site. She als transferrred me to another woman, a reporter who does Human Interest types of stories. I left a rambling message, explaining my reason for the call and left her my number. Don't know if I'll hear back from anyone but maybe they will take interest regardless.
Peace


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#121547 - 01/29/04 06:56 PM Re: One big way to help
James_dup1 Offline


Registered: 04/13/02
Posts: 1332
Loc: Wyoming
Sinking,
Thats great man. Just please remember what we are asked when dealing with the news media:
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Again, you may represent yourself as someone who visits the site or has joined as a member but please be clear that you are not a spokesman or representative of the org. If you get contacted by media for an interview, you can talk about your abuse, life or whatever. Any inquiries about the organization or if they ask about talking to someone from MS, please refer them to Richard Gartner, Ph.D., past president and media spokesman
Thats great. How many news papers do they print a day? Has to be tons and tons and tons. \:D Thank you so very much for doing this. ((((hugs))))
James

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#121548 - 01/30/04 12:30 PM Re: One big way to help
James_dup1 Offline


Registered: 04/13/02
Posts: 1332
Loc: Wyoming
I got a call today from one of the paper's I set this letter too. There going to print it. Thats one. \:D
James

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#121549 - 01/30/04 12:34 PM Re: One big way to help
Sinking Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/26/03
Posts: 577
Loc: Took my ball and went home.
James - I was very clear with them that I am not a spokesperson for the site but that I have visited on numerous occassions and that I feel it provides a very necessary service. I told them that if they have questions, etc. that they should visit the board and make their contact through there. I don't know what their distributorship or readership is but I do know that it is one of the top two newspapers in the Boston area, if not the top one.
I also spoke to my counselor today about how her agency could help bring exposure to the site. Her first inclination was to see if they could add a link to the MS from her agency's webstite. She has visited here before and recognizes its value. Others here might look into the same possibility. It's a start.


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#121550 - 01/30/04 12:38 PM Re: One big way to help
James_dup1 Offline


Registered: 04/13/02
Posts: 1332
Loc: Wyoming
^5's brother. \:D

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#121551 - 01/30/04 01:58 PM Re: One big way to help
Sinking Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/26/03
Posts: 577
Loc: Took my ball and went home.
And a BIG Thumbs-up to you too James!!!
\:D


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#121552 - 01/30/04 07:49 PM Re: One big way to help
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
I think I posted this somewhere but am having a "Seniors Moment"

I got off an email to the Editor of The Toronto Star (Canada's biggest daily). I made sure to say I was not a spokesperson or Representative but that I had joined and was just a guy healing from what 1 in 6 males suffer from. I also added my story and asked that they respect my privacy. ( cant spell annonymity)

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#121553 - 03/01/04 01:54 PM Re: One big way to help
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
Bringing this back to the top.

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#121554 - 03/01/04 11:40 PM Re: One big way to help
Bill_1965 Offline
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Registered: 06/29/03
Posts: 1983
Loc: Flint, Michigan
I had a nice high anxiety level this afternoon as I called and spoke with the editor of our local newpaper. He said with MaleSurvivor being a national organization without local ties, the best way to get it in the paper was to write a letter to the editor.
I informed him of my SA, that I am a local connection, and that MS has been a great resource in my recovery. I gave him Richard Gartner's name and MS's phone number to use in regards to information about MaleSurvivor.
I should be getting a call from a reporter soon.

Now to keep strong,
Bill

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#121555 - 03/02/04 09:45 AM Re: One big way to help
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Way to go brother. If enough of us speak out the message will fill the air.

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Mikey

IT REALLY IS OK TO STUMBLE. NONE OF US ARE PERFECT.

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#121556 - 03/04/04 02:16 PM Re: One big way to help
Mike Church Offline
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MaleSurvivor
Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Hey Roland: Dont give up my brother. Be a pest. Get in their face. Ask them if they are not interested in helping the 1 in 6 males it happens to. And that these boys are children of friends, relatives and co-workers. Or ask them if they are stuck in the same mindset of the Catholic Church or whatever Organization is stonewalling. You know. The Boy Scouts and things like that.

I for one refuse to let sexual assault be one of the very few great crines that is still in the closet.

I am kind of an asshole that way. I can rationalize no but I will not tolerate being ignored.

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Mikey

IT REALLY IS OK TO STUMBLE. NONE OF US ARE PERFECT.

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