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#115715 - 04/17/03 06:00 PM men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am in great need of support from fellow men and hope to locate others wanting to form a men's support group locally. i live in the US, in Lake County Indiana, right near the city of Hammond. if you are interested please let me know. i was a member of such a group for two years and it was definitely helpful to me and the other male members. sincerely,


bec \:\)


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#115716 - 04/17/03 07:11 PM Re: men's support group
Ivanhoe Offline
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Posts: 1907
Bec,
I too have thought about forming such a group. I'm sorry I'm not in your area--but I suppose we could meet via private jet somewhere in between Hammond,IN and Portland, OR. Did your other group have a therapist leader or responsible participant observer? The counselor that my wife and I are seeing has suggested a men's group for me. I don't know if it's primarily SA survivors, but I do know that you can't mention what you do for a living. Sounds restrictive but at least one wouldn't have to worry about that pissing contest. Good luck, keep us informed--and don't forget to mention your group formation in the chat room every once in while--I will, too.
David

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"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
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#115717 - 04/21/03 10:40 PM Re: men's support group
RickL Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/16/02
Posts: 84
Loc: Oregon
David,

If you start a men's support group in Portland, I'll make the drive over from Bend as often as I can. Portland does have an SIA group, as we also have one in Bend.

Rick


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#115718 - 04/22/03 06:13 AM Re: men's support group
Ivanhoe Offline
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Rick,
There are two leads over here for possible leaders of a men's group. I will be checking into that when I get back from Chicago next week--Wed., the 30th. Thanks for your interest.
David

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"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
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#115719 - 04/25/03 12:31 AM Re: men's support group
Ken Followell Offline
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Posts: 989
Loc: Bradenton, FL
BEC,

I am from Crown point but now I live in FL. If you get a group started I would love to visit it when i visit my family. A supportive group sure would be a help at those visits.

Ken

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Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

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#115720 - 04/25/03 03:30 PM Re: men's support group
michaelb Offline
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Registered: 04/21/01
Posts: 211
Loc: cincinnati, ohio
KEN.....it sounds like those visits home are very difficult for you.....sounds like you need all the support you can get??? it sounds way too familiar (no pun intended).....michael


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#115721 - 05/14/03 12:36 AM Re: men's support group
John Ireland Offline
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Registered: 11/12/02
Posts: 155
Loc: Chicago
Hey Bec! Wonder if you have started a group yet? I am in Chicago, close to Indiana border. I am in need for a support group----survivor road is bumpy right now.... feel free to contact me at Ireland719@aol.com Hope all is going well for you... John!!


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#115722 - 05/16/03 12:10 AM Re: men's support group
Ken Followell Offline
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Loc: Bradenton, FL
HI John, glad to see you are still sround this site. I am attending the retreat this coming weekend. Hope you can find a support group near you.

Ken

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Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

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#115723 - 07/08/03 09:07 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am still hoping to find others to form a men's/survivor support group in lake county, indiana. if interested please send me a private message at this site. thanks!

bec


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#115724 - 08/05/03 08:54 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
fellow men:

i am still seeking others to form a group. send a private message if you are interested. sincerely,


bec


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#115725 - 09/08/03 01:41 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
fellow men:

i continue seeking others to form a men's group with. if interested please send me a private message at this site. thanks,

bec


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#115726 - 09/08/03 01:59 PM Re: men's support group
Ivanhoe Offline
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Posts: 1907
Bec,

If they have a post for this sorta thing at the conference in MN, I'll post your info if that's alright with you...Lake County, near Hammond, ID.
I still haven't done anything about checking out situation here.
I will check it out through the 3 leads I have....therapists and an SIA Group, even though I'm primarily looking for a group for males only who have experienced CSA.

Good luck,

David

_________________________
"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
George Eliot

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#115727 - 09/22/03 10:13 AM Re: men's support group
john24 Offline
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Registered: 09/22/03
Posts: 8
Loc: USA
I'm starting to wonder if I am a survivor or just existing......and reading all these posts about the difficulty of finding a support group is only more discouraging. I am desperately seeking a support group for SA survivors in the Worcester, MA area. Therapists and counselors have been of little help. I feel the need to be heard by others who have experienced what I have. Can anyone help?

_________________________
It wasn't for you to decide,
That I was done being a child.
Your moment of pleasure has dirtied my whole life.
Where's my bed of Roses?
Where's my wine?
Will I find salvation in my time?
The fault wasn't mine!
'Bed of Roses'. Lyrics by Me.

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#115728 - 10/15/03 10:01 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

it is the third week of October and i continue looking for men to start a support group with. if interested please reply here or better still send me a private message. sincerely,


bec


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#115729 - 11/20/03 08:24 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

still searching for others to form a group. if interested please send me a private message. thanks

bec


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#115730 - 11/21/03 01:28 AM Re: men's support group
Ken Followell Offline
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Registered: 12/30/01
Posts: 989
Loc: Bradenton, FL
Don't give up hope. It took me a long time, but my group is finally up and running and worth the effort.

Ken

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Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

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#115731 - 12/17/03 06:42 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello fellow survivors:

i continue hoping to find men to start a support/survivors group in lake county indiana. if interested please send me a private message at this site. thanks!

bec


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#115732 - 01/06/04 11:38 PM Re: men's support group
MusicMan Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 11/23/03
Posts: 144
Loc: Elmira, NY
bec, I'm definitely interested in a support group. I need all of the help that I can get. However, I live in New York State.

What do you think of this? How would it be if all of us who are interested in a support group find a place to meet once per month and spend a weekend together. Possibly we could find a counselor to in whatever area we choose to facilitate the group. I'm game. I would love to meet all of you guys, give you support and get support. It would be something that i would always look forward to once per month. Thoughts?


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#115733 - 02/02/04 06:13 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue seeking fellow survivors to form a support group with in Lake County, Indiana. if interested please private message me. sincerely,


bec


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#115734 - 03/01/04 05:19 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
fellow survivors:

i continue searching for others to form a group with. if interested please private message me. sincerely,


bec


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#115735 - 03/16/04 09:33 PM Re: men's support group
MikeNY Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/07/04
Posts: 927
Loc: NY
Have you thought about forming a non profit, or not for profit organization, educating, and advertising things locally yourself? Your local chamber of commerce or whatever equivalent you have should be able to help with it. Sexual assault and abuse are far more common than most people even realize. If you can educate them locally, I'm sure that a group will form. I'm thinking about doing exactly that.
If we start doing that, we can gain in strenght and numbers to have our voices heard.

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"Every child asks the questions which hold the answers to the secrets of the universe, WHAT?, and WHY?". --Me

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#115736 - 04/14/04 03:41 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
dear men:

i continue looking for men/survivors to form a support group with in northwest indiana or the south suburbs of chicago. if interested please send me a private message at this site. thanks


bec


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#115737 - 06/07/04 10:00 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue looking for others to form a support group with. if interested private message me at malesurvivor or reply here on the board. thanks!


bec \:\)


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#115738 - 07/01/04 12:27 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i still seek others to form a support group with. if interested leave a message on this board or send me a private message. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115739 - 07/01/04 03:24 PM Re: men's support group
Ivanhoe Offline
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Registered: 03/19/03
Posts: 1907
Hey, Bec, sorry that I haven't been in contact, but I was just thinking that one of the retreats is going to take place in Ohio, I think.
What a great place to meet potential other guys who might be interested in gathering together with you.
Just a thought.

David

_________________________
"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
George Eliot

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#115740 - 07/26/04 09:25 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i refuse to give up hope. i am holding out for a support group. am i foolish? if interested please pm me at this site or reply here. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115741 - 08/18/04 04:35 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue seeking others to form a support group with. it is sad that so many wounded men keep their pain inside or share it only with a spouse for example. i was a member of a such a group before and it was a good experience. if interested pm me at this site. sincerely,


bec


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#115742 - 09/09/04 07:45 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
dear men:

i continue searching for survivors interested in forming a support group. if you seek the same please reply here or send me a private message at this site. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115743 - 09/09/04 11:52 PM Re: men's support group
Ivanhoe Offline
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Registered: 03/19/03
Posts: 1907
bec,

I'm hoping that this comes together for you. I'm about to try organizing a group here, in NW Oregon. I've heard that some guys have driven a couple of hours to be with their group, once per week, once every two weeks, whatever they have decided the frequency would be. I'll let you know if I discover any "tricks to the trade," so to speak, in finding others who would be interested.
One woman therapist advertised an 8 week mens group with subject matter and everything and no response. I don't know if it would have made any difference if the leader/therapist would have been male, but it was discouraging to know that it didn't fly in this area with over one million men.
Maybe we should engage Ken Singer in this endeavor, maybe he's got some ideas.

David

_________________________
"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
George Eliot

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#115744 - 10/06/04 12:15 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am still searching. contact me at this site. thanks!


bec


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#115745 - 11/13/04 08:31 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue seeking others to form a support group with. if interested please send me a private message at this site. thanks,

bec \:\)


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#115746 - 12/09/04 11:32 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue searching. if interested please let me know. thanks!


bec \:\)


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#115747 - 12/10/04 09:16 AM Re: men's support group
Ivanhoe Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/19/03
Posts: 1907
bec,

Have you tried Howard Fradkin? He's located in Columbus, and he may have a suggestion or two for you. If you don't have his name and address from the directory, send me a PM and I'll respond with his name and number.

David

_________________________
"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
George Eliot

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#115748 - 01/03/05 11:30 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue searching for group members. if interested please contact me here at this site. thanks!


bec \:\)


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#115749 - 02/02/05 01:37 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i keep searching. if interested please private message me here at this site. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115750 - 02/02/05 02:38 AM Re: men's support group
sadanddown Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/26/04
Posts: 191
Loc: Gaboogistan
I need one too in oregon \:\) good luck Bec...I'm at the point where I will drive 5 hours to get to a support group...I need help

Jon

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#115751 - 03/17/05 01:23 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
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Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hey men:

i keep hoping to hear from guys interestd in a group. you can reach me here at this site. thanks!


bec \:\)


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#115752 - 03/17/05 06:27 PM Re: men's support group
Curtis St. John Offline
Past President
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 01/20/04
Posts: 1796
Loc: Westchester, N.Y.
Jeepers Bec, I really admire your persistence. Have you tried starting a group with meetup.com? I don't think they have an abuse group in your area yet so you may be able to start one.

Good luck,


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#115753 - 05/04/05 02:09 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i keep searching. if interested please let me know. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115754 - 05/16/05 04:26 AM Re: men's support group
FormerTexan Offline
Site Administrator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 11025
Loc: Denver, CO
For those in Colorado...

There is a support group in Denver that assists with SA survivors. It's not dedicated solely to this, but that's one of its functions. They have a website: http://www.wheregraceabounds.org .

_________________________
List of things ain't nobody got time for:

1. That


If I could meet myself as a boy...

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#115755 - 06/05/05 03:46 PM Re: men's support group
brennus Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 04/03/05
Posts: 6
Loc: Milwaukee
I am also interested in a men's group. But instead of focusuing on abuse suffered (I suffered emotional abuse by my dad, not sexual abuse of any kind by any one), I want to know are there groups where men as men with all the attributes we bring to the table can meet in the Milwaukee area. I'm not talking about PK or Christian men's groups, but men's groups focused on men from different orientations, backgrounds, and with the sole purpose of bring men together.


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#115756 - 07/02/05 09:44 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am still searching. if interested please contact me here or with a private message. thanks!


bec


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#115757 - 07/27/05 01:00 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue seeking out others to form a group with. send me a private message at this site if interersted. sincerely,


bec


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#115758 - 09/02/05 11:34 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i keep searching. if interested please send me a private message here at this site. thanks,


bec


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#115759 - 10/05/05 05:36 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am still seeking others. if interested, please send me a private message here at this site. thanks,


bec


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#115760 - 11/07/05 12:01 AM Re: men's support group
Stray Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 07/10/05
Posts: 4
Loc: Oregon
Hi all. I live in eastern Oregon and know there are others from Oregon here as well. Are there any groups in the vicinity?


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#115761 - 01/11/06 12:38 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue searching. if interested please send me a private message through this site. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115762 - 03/13/06 11:23 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i keep searching. if interested please send me a private message at this site. thanks,


bec \:\)


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#115763 - 04/05/06 11:18 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hey men:

i continue searching. if interested please let me know. thanks,


bec


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#115764 - 05/19/06 05:27 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am still searching. contact me if interested. thanks,


bec


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#115765 - 05/22/06 04:55 AM Re: men's support group
Ken Followell Offline
President
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 12/30/01
Posts: 989
Loc: Bradenton, FL
keep looking bec it is worth the effort.

_________________________
Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

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#115766 - 07/08/06 10:46 PM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

if interested please contact me. sincerely,


bec


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#115767 - 08/16/06 02:23 AM Re: men's support group
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hey men:

i am still searching. if interested let me know. thanks,


bec


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#115768 - 08/20/06 06:43 AM Re: men's support group
grayson Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 19
Loc: central new york
I am looking for a support group in the capital region of new york state. is anything out there???

_________________________
"being fearless when you're winning isn't courage."
http://www.mensurviving.com

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#138758 - 01/23/07 05:41 PM Re: men's support group [Re: grayson]
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i am still searching for guys to form a group with. send me a private message if interested. thanks,


bec


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#148417 - 04/02/07 06:06 PM Re: men's support group [Re: bec]
bec Offline
Member

Registered: 10/03/02
Posts: 187
Loc: chicagoland area
hello men:

i continue hopeing to form a group near me. if interested please drop me a line. thanks,


bec


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#148425 - 04/02/07 07:44 PM Re: men's support group [Re: bec]
buzz_key Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/31/07
Posts: 635
Loc: USA
Bec,
I too am in the midwest and desiring to start or at least find a group.


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#222034 - 05/01/08 09:29 PM Re: men's support group [Re: buzz_key]
Curtis St. John Offline
Past President
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 01/20/04
Posts: 1796
Loc: Westchester, N.Y.
Bringing this to the top. I saw bec in chat tonight and I remembered this post... In all my years here it has always given me a sense of hope... He never gave up.

He had no idea how he has inspired me.

I hope he finds his group some day.

Cheers!


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