Little Red...I too attended the Mike Lew Institute on Thursday and yes it was incredable! There is nothing more powerful than when a survivor who has suffered many years of shame, guilt and isolation, realizes there are other men, many other men who have suffered this same fate as a child. Who has been dealing with the same after affects and is finally begining to deal with all the pain, confusion, shame and mistrust. Finally taking the time to heal.
I know because I too once felt this way. I attended the NOMSV conference two years ago in Vancouver and I know how empowering this experience was. It was so very important to me that I wanted to help bring this conference to New York and became part of the committee which put this conference together.
In addition to Mike Lew's institute I also attended the workshop you spoke of. The FBI agent, Jim Clemente who told his own story of abuse, I also sat there and cried as it hit close to home. I too am a survivor, I was abused by a catholic priest for years. I was told later that afternoon about a man who attended this workshop and the fact that he revealed he had the same perpatrator. Was I moved to hear this! I later came to know it was you. I am glad that you found this conference so empowering and I also hope that you will continue to keep in touch with all of us who shared so much that day. All those who have begun to walk down this (often) painful path of healing and recovery....well I think...no I know these are couragous men! Thank you for being such an important part of this awesome conference.
FYI....the 2003 conference may be held in Minneapolis...but this is not set in stone yet. Also, NOMSV is holding its 3rd survivor retreat this April about 30 minutes south of San Francisco. I met some individuals at the conference who attended the most recent retreat just outside of Chicago. They said it was a most powerful experience, and one where they felt totally safe. I am working on a site here in the New Jersey, New York area for later in the year....I know that some of the guys from Mike Lews institute said they were very interested in attending...perhaps you will join us...thank you for sharing your experience at the conference and I hope you will continue to visit here and post your thoughts often. There are many men who care and can relate...we need to walk this road together! Thanks again...Mark Crawford