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#11350 - 01/10/07 03:57 AM libido
SJ Offline
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Registered: 06/28/06
Posts: 9
As the events of remembering my CSA by my father began to unfold and reveal themself, my sex drive went from being normal to no interest/desire whatsoever. It has completely changed my relationship with my wife because she initially took it personally( when I began having problems and didn't know at the time what the hell was going on with me). Now I feel that the love that she had for me that was once there has gone. Every once in a while there will be a small spark in my sex drive which gets me back to thinking how things were with me and my wife before remembering all of the terrible crap that he did to me. It is during this short time that I become frustrate at my sexual dysfunction and wish things could go back normal. Does anyone know how to get your sex drive/interest in sex/sexual function recovered or am I going to just accept the fact that this is one more aspect of my life that the bastard stole from me.
-Shawn


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#11351 - 01/10/07 05:55 AM Re: libido
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Registered: 11/03/05
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I'm sorry; I've got the same problem, but I haven't figured it out yet either. I've never been married, but everytime I try to start some kind of relationship with a woman, it never lasts long, and in large part because of that.

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#11352 - 01/10/07 05:25 PM Re: libido
batcountry Offline
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Registered: 09/20/06
Posts: 263
Loc: the ether
yeah i think pretty much the same thing here...

lately i dont want sex at all, in fact i specifically DONT want it. well except for one person but that's different... in general i dont give a shit anymore... i feel like it's something BAD almost. maybe it is for the better

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#11353 - 01/10/07 06:04 PM Re: libido
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Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
Pretty much the same here, but the drugs I am on make it even harder
I think its down to lack of confidence, lethargy, low self esteem and a thousand other things that I coule mention \:\(

ste

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#11354 - 01/11/07 03:26 AM Re: libido
Koveri Offline
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Registered: 11/07/06
Posts: 80
Loc: Dallas, TX
I'll add my chip to the table here. I would say that the anti-depressant meds are a major factor for me. It's to the point where I can't even jack off anymore, let alone do anything with anyone. It makes one feel distinctly abnormal when before there was a libido. Maybe there is something to say for suppression/repression??? When it was all buried I knew what it was like to be horney. Now ......

Koveri


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#11355 - 01/11/07 05:18 AM Re: libido
OKIE MIKE Offline
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Registered: 02/13/04
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Loc: HULBERT OK
MY SEX DRIVE QUIT WHEN I STARTED TAKEING ANTIDEPRESENTS , THAT IS DEPRESING IN IT SELF

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#11356 - 01/11/07 07:49 PM Re: libido
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Registered: 05/31/05
Posts: 499
Loc: Shrewsbury UK
Yep sexually dysfunctional here too.

Kirk
"Lets grab this bull by the horns and swing it about a bit".


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#11357 - 01/13/07 11:06 PM Re: libido
Cooljule Offline
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Registered: 08/10/06
Posts: 69
Loc: New Jersey
I take anti-depression..it have the reverse affect on me...anyway for me it is not about the sex( that is the iceing on the cake)but the lack on affection,intimacy and love...but i have the hope that this part of my life will come to me....this all was taken away from me when i was abducted and raped

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#11358 - 01/15/07 01:53 AM Re: libido
SJ Offline
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Registered: 06/28/06
Posts: 9
Thanks for posting guys.
It is good (not in a way that is any benefit to us) to know that others out there are having the same sexual problems as me. The only thing that bothers me is that I am NOT on any type of antidepressant medication which could affect me. I am only on antianxiety medication which does not affect the libido. That makes me feel even that less of a man. I wish things would have stayed repressed because I wouldn't have the problems I do now.
-Shawn


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#11359 - 01/15/07 02:04 AM Re: libido
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Registered: 08/08/06
Posts: 1948
i dont really care about my sex drive...gets in te way of my journey...yet it is on the low scale steve


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