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#11107 - 08/18/06 12:41 AM Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
Is it common for sa survivors to have memory problems? I am so tired of them, I want to be healed!!!! Is there any quick fix for memory problems?

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#11108 - 08/18/06 12:45 AM Re: Memory problems?
WalkingSouth Offline
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Registered: 08/30/05
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Stder,

I can't speak for the other survivors, but my memory ain't worth s**t. Many SA victims repress their traumatic memories for years. I did. I am a firm believer that I got so good at forgetting that it became habit and I forget important and meaningful things as well.

Quick fix? If you find one, please let me know!

Lots of love,

John

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#11109 - 08/18/06 12:58 AM Re: Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
The only way out is through, eh? My poor wife!

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#11110 - 08/18/06 04:10 AM Re: Memory problems?
onlyakid Offline
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Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1552
Loc: New Jersey
I am horrible with my memory problems. I'm constantly messing up at work, and the anxiety that comes from my messing up doesn't help either.

If I figure something out I'll keep you posted.

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#11111 - 08/18/06 05:14 PM Re: Memory problems?
proteus Offline
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Registered: 08/11/06
Posts: 29
Loc: Louisiana
I've always had memory problems and never thought to relate it to my SA. It is not as bad as it used to be, but still pretty bad. I have to set up reminders on my computer to pay bills or for appointments. I used to write myself notes all the time. I have to leave things by my car keys if I want to remember to take it with me. If I bring movies back that I rented I have to leave them right above the steering wheel in the car or I'll drive back home and forget to return them. More often than not I even forget to fix myself a lunch to take to work. I have yet to find anything that helps. The really weird thing is that I can remember numbers very easily. I have so many numbers memorized, its crazy. Bank account numbers, routing numbers, 2 checking account numbers, social security numbers, driver's license numbers, any number that I use on a regular basis. I once had a 16 digit debit card number memorized because the bank required me to use it to log in online. Does this sound weird?

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#11112 - 08/18/06 06:03 PM Re: Memory problems?
reality2k4 Offline
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Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6838
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
My short term memory is usless, I foget where I put things, leave keys in doors, lose my wallet, forget to take books I rented back.
It does drive me crazy sometimes.

I always leave cash cards at home, and spent days looking for my library ticket which I left at the library.
Forgetting bills is also a worry.

My pdoc says it is caused by anxiety plus depression, so I suppose if you can control that your memory may return.

My long term memory certainly isnt that bad, just short term Grrrr!

ste

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#11113 - 08/18/06 11:09 PM Re: Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
I can relate to the poor performance at work. I can sometimes combat the memory problems but it takes a heckuvalot of effort.

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#11114 - 08/18/06 11:15 PM Re: Memory problems?
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Stder,

You are so right: the only way out is right through the thick of things. We don't escape, we have to cope and resolve things.

On memory problems, I have sometimes had that so bad I thought I was going insane. But what was happening was that I was overloading emotionally. When that happens all kinds of strange things can show up. For example, I have from time to time had trouble reading numbers, sorting out the order of events happening in the past, present and future, and encountered severe spelling problems. My T helped me see that this wasn't me melting down - I just needed to back off and take it easier on myself.

Much love,
Larry

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#11115 - 08/19/06 12:18 AM Re: Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
Thanks Larry,
It helps so much to know that others have gone through the same thing! I too have thought I was going insane when I couldn't sort out the order of events in my life.

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#11116 - 08/19/06 02:01 AM Re: Memory problems?
TJ jeff Offline

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I know that my short term memory is miserable

I can remember things from 25+ years ago like it was yesterday - but I can hardly remember what i did the day before yesterday...

as a young kid I had so much bad things going on in my life - I did not want to remember anything that was happening to me - I could not make any sense out of so much of what was happening - I think that my mind just kinda went into an overload mode where it just shut things out of my short term memory

even yet today the more stressed I am - the less i remember (and of course that just leads to more stress)

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#11117 - 08/19/06 02:14 AM Re: Memory problems?
mphsrvivor Offline
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Registered: 07/02/06
Posts: 33
Loc: Tennessee
It's nice to read how everyone else has these troubles. I thought I was a rare head-case with this. I can remember some things with amazing accuracy but other things slip out of mind almost instantly. There's not much logic to what stays and what goes other than the more logic-based something is the more likely my mind will clench it.

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#11118 - 08/19/06 02:28 AM Re: Memory problems?
relaxingpiano Offline
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Registered: 02/06/06
Posts: 53
Loc: Miami FL
When I was paralyzed, I lost my memory completely. I couldn't even remember what my name was at the time. I've gained a lot of it back but struggle on a daily (and minute by minute) basis to remember things. Sometimes it improves but if I'm stressed, forget it... it ain't worth a sht. And before the paralysis, I had one of the best memories. I could memorize just about anything in no time at all.

Don

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#11119 - 08/20/06 02:33 AM Re: Memory problems?
sportinrucks Offline
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Registered: 10/01/04
Posts: 422
Loc: Louisiana
Memory problems..... they used to refer to me as ''Alex in Wonderland'' at work now I see why.


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#11120 - 08/21/06 12:31 AM Re: Memory problems?
RICK57 Offline
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Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Loc: ENGLAND
I have memory problems with the inanities of life. I had no problems remembering what I had to earlier this year in court. The only problem I had with that, was knowing for 17 months that I couldn't loose a single detail because I had to 'hit the target' in court! The b*****d then pleaded guilty, then tried to withdraw that plea!

When I made my statement to the police, I had no problems remembering, even after 35 years!

Best wishes ...Rik

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#11121 - 08/25/06 05:50 AM Re: Memory problems?
brookboyman Offline
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Registered: 08/25/06
Posts: 2
Loc: New York
my t put me on adderoll which helped a lot but now i don't want to take it coz i keep yelling at people and think that might be why


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#11122 - 08/28/06 06:28 AM Re: Memory problems?
lipsticklullabies Offline
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Registered: 05/18/06
Posts: 33
Loc: washington state
memory problems here too.
mostly i just cant organize things in my head.
i was told it was cause of dissassociation (sp!?)

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#11123 - 08/28/06 01:01 PM Re: Memory problems?
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
who are u guys again?

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#11124 - 08/28/06 01:09 PM Re: Memory problems?
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Trev,

I haven't the slightest clue. And in any case, do we know you?

Much love,
Larry (I think)

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
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#11125 - 08/28/06 01:18 PM Re: Memory problems?
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
\:\) funny

but wait wher am i again?

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#11126 - 08/28/06 02:00 PM Re: Memory problems?
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
"I don't think this is Kansas, Toto."

L.

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#11127 - 08/28/06 02:04 PM Re: Memory problems?
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
wat were we talking
about?

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#11128 - 08/28/06 02:08 PM Re: Memory problems?
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Were we talking about something?

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
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#11129 - 08/28/06 03:02 PM Re: Memory problems?
Trevor Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 778
Loc: Rhode Island
i cant remember

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#11130 - 09/04/06 06:09 PM Re: Memory problems?
DeafDavid Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 07/17/06
Posts: 38
Loc: NM
You guys are funny, thanks for the laugh. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in issues I forget to have fun. At least I think I don't have fun, I forget.

David


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#11131 - 09/04/06 08:05 PM Re: Memory problems?
klab Offline
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Registered: 08/30/06
Posts: 8
add the lot of you ;\) they make meds for thathmmmmm for what do they make meds?
lol


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#11132 - 09/04/06 08:05 PM Re: Memory problems?
klab Offline
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Registered: 08/30/06
Posts: 8
make that a.d.d. the lot of you i forgot the .'s ;\)


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