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#11107 - 08/18/06 12:41 AM Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
Is it common for sa survivors to have memory problems? I am so tired of them, I want to be healed!!!! Is there any quick fix for memory problems?

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#11108 - 08/18/06 12:45 AM Re: Memory problems?
WalkingSouth Offline
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Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16265
Stder,

I can't speak for the other survivors, but my memory ain't worth s**t. Many SA victims repress their traumatic memories for years. I did. I am a firm believer that I got so good at forgetting that it became habit and I forget important and meaningful things as well.

Quick fix? If you find one, please let me know!

Lots of love,

John

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#11109 - 08/18/06 12:58 AM Re: Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
The only way out is through, eh? My poor wife!

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#11110 - 08/18/06 04:10 AM Re: Memory problems?
onlyakid Offline
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Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1552
Loc: New Jersey
I am horrible with my memory problems. I'm constantly messing up at work, and the anxiety that comes from my messing up doesn't help either.

If I figure something out I'll keep you posted.

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#11111 - 08/18/06 05:14 PM Re: Memory problems?
proteus Offline
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Registered: 08/11/06
Posts: 29
Loc: Louisiana
I've always had memory problems and never thought to relate it to my SA. It is not as bad as it used to be, but still pretty bad. I have to set up reminders on my computer to pay bills or for appointments. I used to write myself notes all the time. I have to leave things by my car keys if I want to remember to take it with me. If I bring movies back that I rented I have to leave them right above the steering wheel in the car or I'll drive back home and forget to return them. More often than not I even forget to fix myself a lunch to take to work. I have yet to find anything that helps. The really weird thing is that I can remember numbers very easily. I have so many numbers memorized, its crazy. Bank account numbers, routing numbers, 2 checking account numbers, social security numbers, driver's license numbers, any number that I use on a regular basis. I once had a 16 digit debit card number memorized because the bank required me to use it to log in online. Does this sound weird?

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#11112 - 08/18/06 06:03 PM Re: Memory problems?
reality2k4 Offline
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Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6838
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My short term memory is usless, I foget where I put things, leave keys in doors, lose my wallet, forget to take books I rented back.
It does drive me crazy sometimes.

I always leave cash cards at home, and spent days looking for my library ticket which I left at the library.
Forgetting bills is also a worry.

My pdoc says it is caused by anxiety plus depression, so I suppose if you can control that your memory may return.

My long term memory certainly isnt that bad, just short term Grrrr!

ste

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#11113 - 08/18/06 11:09 PM Re: Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
I can relate to the poor performance at work. I can sometimes combat the memory problems but it takes a heckuvalot of effort.

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#11114 - 08/18/06 11:15 PM Re: Memory problems?
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
Stder,

You are so right: the only way out is right through the thick of things. We don't escape, we have to cope and resolve things.

On memory problems, I have sometimes had that so bad I thought I was going insane. But what was happening was that I was overloading emotionally. When that happens all kinds of strange things can show up. For example, I have from time to time had trouble reading numbers, sorting out the order of events happening in the past, present and future, and encountered severe spelling problems. My T helped me see that this wasn't me melting down - I just needed to back off and take it easier on myself.

Much love,
Larry

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#11115 - 08/19/06 12:18 AM Re: Memory problems?
Stder Offline
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Registered: 08/16/06
Posts: 17
Loc: Albion, Mi
Thanks Larry,
It helps so much to know that others have gone through the same thing! I too have thought I was going insane when I couldn't sort out the order of events in my life.

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#11116 - 08/19/06 02:01 AM Re: Memory problems?
TJ jeff Offline

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Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3369
Loc: Northern Wisconsin
I know that my short term memory is miserable

I can remember things from 25+ years ago like it was yesterday - but I can hardly remember what i did the day before yesterday...

as a young kid I had so much bad things going on in my life - I did not want to remember anything that was happening to me - I could not make any sense out of so much of what was happening - I think that my mind just kinda went into an overload mode where it just shut things out of my short term memory

even yet today the more stressed I am - the less i remember (and of course that just leads to more stress)

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