A couple of years ago when there were various hostage situations around the world I heard an analyst on the radio describing survival strategies for living through hostage situations. The guy talked about being the gray man, not drawing attention to oneself, blending in with the group so as not to be singled out.
That's what I've been doing my whole life, being the gray man. I thought anything that was inside me was filthy, so I just say what other people say.
Wow, Ken, that's quite an analogy out of your experience. It makes me think that yes that's what
we often tend to do, as a survival mechanism, when
we are hostages, to our perps, to a society that says don't talk about this.
To break the chains of our perps & live our own lives as our true selves, to shout out to an uncaring society until those who do or will care come forward to stand with us--that's what brings
out our true colors, so that we can shine, and make a difference in the world.
High risk, high reward. But I've found being a
"gray man" is high risk anyway, and low reward, kinda dull & empty.
For you, for me, for all of us male survivors, this is a powerful place where we can polish up & start to shine!