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Survivors of Female Abuse
She came back from her honeymoon recently and visited. She always makes a scene or complains loudly if I don't hug her and though I tried to avoid it she hugged me, and she always presses me hard against her which I hate the feeling of, and kissed me
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Jump to new posts Re: good news! by Banjo596 @ 03/26/15 05:02 AM

Congratulations Lee!!
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Guilt over not stopping it by smc1972 @ 03/26/15 01:07 AM

Bey, My abuse came frome both my parents from your age until late teens. I myself even have a hard time with the word abuse. I for a long time convinceed myself it was not abuse even now the word bother me. Now at 43 I know it was but I have only st
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Ribbon Campaign for Male Survivors? by Chase Eric @ 03/25/15 11:26 PM

Blue ribbons designate child abuse awareness, something that was highlighted during the Penn State sex abuse scandal. In fact, a depiction of Sandusky on a campus mural was temporarily replaced with a blue ribbon (ultimately, that was replaced by a
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Jump to new posts Re: Cooks Corner a Male Survivors Guide to Food by bluesky @ 03/25/15 11:11 PM

Tomorrow is the big day me and a friend are going to share so home brewed mead and some fermented fish called Garum. It is a fermented fish sauce used as a condiment that was eaten in roman times we have been fermenting them for about 4 months. Let y
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Jump to new posts Re: Sortah Disturbing by victor-victim @ 03/25/15 10:09 PM

don't try this at home, kids! ice + skates + chainsaw = mortal wound | grievous injury looks like an emergency about to emerge. 50 year old victor does not approve. 15 year old victor says "why didn't i think of that?"
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: someone please stop the flashbacks by LMG @ 03/25/15 08:46 PM

I too went to SA for years and never got more that a few months sobriety ... It is a good group of people who are also hurting but I found it had a negative affect on me and often triggering. I re-enact my trauma and am regularly triggered by men wit
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Resource for SSA resolution by wareagle @ 03/25/15 08:07 PM

I don't know if this site has been mentioned before. I have spent a fair amount of time today reading the information presented and feel that it is pretty much dead on target. It is spiritually based so if that isn't your thing then just absorb the r
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by petercorbett @ 03/25/15 03:47 PM

(((Jeff))), One thing my NEW YAWK brother, you are going to have to translate what goog means. Then the coded=fpm dkddd stuff. Yep, all those what if's, & why's about our youth sure puts us in a living hell at times. Especially if your tormento
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Question about my abuse? So Many Questions by iaccus @ 03/25/15 11:11 AM

you are not alone by friend, we all have these questions and carry these burdens. I wish I had all the answers but allas I have none.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What are we here for? by woodenshoes @ 03/25/15 08:50 AM

Phoenixrising I can relate. Hope the sun shine gives you warm of us around you. We support and care for you. One step at a time and we are here for you. Keep writing we want progress for you. If you need a ear i have two, i will lend you one.
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Prejudice towards non christians by GonnaBalright @ 03/25/15 08:21 AM

Austin, I like your signature - thumbs up
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Does ssa feelings ever go away ? by don64 @ 03/24/15 10:31 PM

Hi SmartShadow, Thanks for the encouragement. I do know my true nature does not reside in labels, so it is interesting for me to observe how this develops. I know it involves freedom, and I know the key is to continue the work I'm doing. I just d
Jump to new posts the little self esteem engine that could by victor-victim @ 03/24/15 06:42 PM

i felt abandoned, abused and neglected. it was my pride that helped me survive. i never listened when i was rejected. it was my ego that kept me alive. i know i am. i know i am. i know i am.
Discussion Board Questions
Jump to new posts Re: Parenting Forum - Another Bid by Obi @ 03/24/15 05:58 PM

thanks still and nothing man... we'll see.. i've got soooooo many issues to work through first, but i do believe i would make a great dad.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Stress and cutting by Frustrated @ 03/24/15 05:27 PM

I use to burn myself with cigarettes I then scolding hot water then I started cutting found the cuts hard to hide so I started stabbing the pain was amazing made everything else go away the scars are small and easy to hide or explain. So what I'm say
Jump to new posts Re: peanuts by victor-victim @ 03/24/15 05:25 PM

i guess i am a bit nuts about gifs.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: New to MS&to a relationship with a survivor (Help) by Robert1000 @ 03/24/15 03:06 PM

I don't know... as a survivor myself, and as someone who turn into himself to a pretty large degree, I'm not sure what to say to you, except I feel your pain! It's not easy. But then, is any relationship easy? I don't know. I'm a survivor and also a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Rough work week -> insecurity by Rich1967 @ 03/24/15 09:31 AM

I've only been at this real recovery effort for 3 years now. Before that it was all about the mask to hid the secret from everyone including myself. Since I've taken the mask off it's been a lot of highs and lows. Like a sea all churned up from a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What if you don't remember? by KMCINVA @ 03/24/15 08:17 AM

Unsure42 It may take time. I always had memories but as I faced the past the intensity and clarity of the memories improved. Additional memories also came back. When I had to return to the place of the abuse the other boys images were so real. One
Jump to new posts Re: The Fraternity SAVED me ... by GoodKiwi @ 03/24/15 06:41 AM

Thanks for the tip. Breaking it down into manageable chunks is definitely the way to go. I spent a lot of time on recovery forums but never got to the root of the porn addiction. ED was a fairly common topic. Owning my past on this forum has given me
Jump to new posts Re: I don't know how to introduce myself just now. by MusicMan @ 03/24/15 02:22 AM

Hi jaklumen, I'm glad that you found us. I remember when I first came here and I was afraid and unsure what to say or do, but it's OK and it gets better. The more you are here, the more you feel at home. You will relate to us and what we have to sha
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Used Porn as a release by wareagle @ 03/24/15 02:09 AM

Michgem, The porn use has probably affected all of us at some time ... it usually goes with masturbation but not always. Congratulations on stopping the cycle!! For the rest of us the cycle continues. Breaking it is the hard part. You have to peel
Male Survivors
Congratulates on taking that step. Glad it was met with such support (particularly from your wife). Thanks for sharing that with us.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts A letter to my old self by Tryingtolive @ 03/23/15 10:27 PM

Im writing this to my old self. Remember how fun life use to be? So many goals You had. So much ambition. All the friends you had? Never had to pretend to be happy. Never had to pretend nothing was wrong? Never had a worry in the world. How confident
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