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Jump to new posts Re: For the first time I am writing "my story" by victor-victim @ 07/23/14 07:09 PM

wow. heavy. i feel for you. married 23 years but very worried about it. constantly fcking things up while trying to fix things. i have many issues that are deep and confusing to the "unabused" . wishing you well as you sort thr
Jump to new posts Re: hello my brothers by victor-victim @ 07/23/14 06:52 PM

power. strength. stamina. your words and deeds demonstrate and display all those qualities. hopefully you can share with those who lack such determination. you are most definitely a SURVIVOR and you are most welcome here.
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Re: Getting things together by newground @ 07/23/14 05:31 PM

hey tyr I havent been around much but today I saw your post. I am glad to see you were able to remember your own worth. all that you said is true. you deserve good things ans I am glad that you are reaching for them. we are never able to find our se
Male Survivors
rawson, you know that whatever it is that makes you able to claim who you are, and in this case claim your body as yours and not for someone else to rape and abuse, then that is great! proud of you for taking back what is rightfully yours! and as
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Jump to new posts Re: Who's a "normal" by lostsoul824 @ 07/23/14 04:24 PM

Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Healing Circle - Cancelled Wednesday, July 23 by Anomalous @ 07/23/14 03:36 PM

Hi Guys, The Healing Circle is cancelled for this evening, Wednesday, July 23, 2014. It will resume on Sunday, July 27, 2014. Anomalous
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: what have you learned about yourself ? by NoSimpleMachine @ 07/23/14 12:43 PM

I feel like I recently learned how I spent years going through relationships and friendships seeking validation and support to fill in the hole that was left by my abuse, and how that validation and support would be like a drug hit that wore off, and
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Why do I still feel responsible? by NoSimpleMachine @ 07/23/14 12:29 PM

Originally Posted By: travelerWhen I blame myself, I am joining the perps in verbal and emotional abuse of myself. That is exactly what they did - blamed me, tried to excuse or justify their wrongdoing by putting the guilt on me. And they were succes
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Jump to new posts Re: married life t w by lostsoul824 @ 07/23/14 11:34 AM

Hi Tim07, I have been married for 26 years and I have no idea what intimacy is?I try to say in touch with her feelings. for me I am a stranger to me and she is a stranger me. I wish I new how to be normal or is this normal? I now her very well in som
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Intimacy - Feeling like I'm abusing by dark empathy @ 07/23/14 07:29 AM

If I considder this rationally and leave aside my jealousy, the problem seems to be one of expression. There seems to be something involved in changing a conversation with a friend from basic emotional friendship to attraction that I have zero possib
Survivor Stories
Jump to new posts It is time I talk about it TRIGGERS by AdawgJR @ 07/23/14 02:56 AM

Well itís late; I canít sleep, and I figured maybe this would be a good time to write about this for the first time. Maybe this is why I canít sleep, who knows. I was so nervous to write on here because I did not really think my situation compared
Jump to new posts Re: Support Group in Rhode Island by Hopein14 @ 07/23/14 02:41 AM

is this group still occurring?
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: csa and sexual dysfunction by justplainme @ 07/22/14 11:57 PM

That's normal for sexual abuse survivors. I had those same issues and still do very little now, and like you i tried various methods of mental work, until i realized it wasn't a mental thing, it was a soul, body , heart thing. Modern medicine say's t
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Attraction to specific type of men- reason? by ethereo222 @ 07/22/14 07:06 PM

Okay I'll come in from left field here, 2 years after the last message. Mets, I wonder if the "look" you are drawn to is because in those features you see something positive that you admire and perhaps want to take on some of those affecta
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: cloudyfalls by Bluedogone @ 07/22/14 03:37 PM

Thanks Chase Eric, There's not a lot anyone can do in this situation, but thanks for reaching out in this way. This is a real wake up call to me, and a reminder that I remember my signature line.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: I finally told my wife by Jim1961 @ 07/22/14 03:23 PM

I know her TOO well. lol. That's why it took 21 years... So far so good, but dang everything tells me just to keep my mouth shut! BTW, I have been reading through the Adult Children of Alcoholics (and other dysfunctions...) material (the Big Red B
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: OMG! Planet Earth is Screwed by Still @ 07/21/14 11:09 PM

I've been discussing this matter with a good number of adults. I've limited my discussion to only those adults whom 1) Greatly value their TV and its remote, 2) Are happy with all typical stuff of this shallow nation, such as their ATV, 2 new cars in
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: gay and glad and turning in! by don64 @ 07/21/14 03:11 PM

Hi Guys, I've been going through a gay movie marathon on netflix for awhile now. I'm 65, and am just now getting recovered enough to begin to retrieve some damaged early places. I'm just now retrieving myself from 17-20, a very dark time for me, a
Jump to new posts Re: poem 54 by dark empathy @ 07/21/14 08:26 AM

Glad people like. For this one blaime a rather weerd combination of Leonard cohen and the rhyme of the ancient mariner, and what I was feeling at the time.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: self-consciousness by 96789594 @ 07/21/14 06:59 AM

so - what made the difference? i didn't really work on this issue - it was a by-product of the main focus of my therapy - re-defining who i am - in light of the "big picture" of my life - and not through the lens of CSA. forgiving myself
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts A matter of dependence by dark empathy @ 07/21/14 05:13 AM

Well Castle, it is not so much that I feel I would be better for J than D. I am not romatically attracted to J, and would probably feel the same if J were male and D male or indeed if they were both the same gender. Indeed on the occasions in my lif
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Jump to new posts Re: Porn by Esposa @ 07/21/14 12:55 AM

Christian or not, the point is the point. And I think the writer is addressing infidelity and certainly we can all agree that there are certain addictions that are gateways for other addictions. While addicts may have specificity, the numbing requi
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Psychosomatic Head Pressure by justplainme @ 07/19/14 05:53 PM

Yeap i've felt this too bud! Perhaps installing a release valve in my head could help like in the cartoons? hahaha. It is a pain the motherfreaking ass. I'm sure you'll manage because from what i have read on here you got recovery pretty much down! M
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Matt sandusky Interview on Oprah by pufferfish @ 07/19/14 01:22 PM

Thank you Oprah. Thank you Matthew Sandusky. I noticed a number of parallels between this report and the details of grooming we've been given by Aaron Fisher in his book. Silent No More: Victim 1's Fight for Justice Against Jerry Sandusky by Aar
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Josť GonzŠlez Ė Stay Alive by SamV @ 07/19/14 08:48 AM Thereís a rhythm in rush these days Where the lights donít move and the colors donít fade Leaves you empty with nothing but dreams In a world gone shallow In a world gone lean Sometimes there
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