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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Forgiving Myself by Bluedogone @ 6 minutes 41 seconds ago

Emotionally Powerful - very powerful. Thanks for sharing this post. This is a very moving reminder that forgiveness only comes when it flows from within our very being, when we can forgive ourselves, when we can forgive ourselves at the most diffic
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: 1981 !!! ******TRIGGER WARNING****** by Nothing Man @ 43 minutes 56 seconds ago

This crime needs a fair trial with a vigorous prosecution and defense. Once the jury decides the truth of the matter, if this person is guilty he needs the maximum sentence permitted by law. But let us stay within the bounds of law and civil societ
Jump to new posts Re: Fun with I puns by Sterling @ Today at 03:54 PM

always make room for laughter. G
Jump to new posts Re: Facing my past by Sterling @ Today at 03:52 PM

I don't know if a person can make money thru poetry... but I would definitely buy your book V.V ! Much to you , friends to you and all! Goran
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: A Code for Life by victor-victim @ Today at 03:21 PM

1. Acknowledge negative emotions Thereís a misconception that stoics train themselves not to feel any emotions at all. Of course this isnít true -- as a stoic, you still experience all manner of negative emotions like rage and anxiety, says Pigliucc
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by WontGiveUp @ Today at 02:13 PM

So my husband and I have actually been doing really good... or so I thought. He has been going to therapy, been acting like all is well, etc. He has struggled a little finding direction since leaving his job (we are getting ready for a big move out
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Native American Religion by Nothing Man @ Today at 11:19 AM

Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Re: Was I an adult or a child by Nothing Man @ Today at 11:09 AM

Absolutely. As young people we complied but did not consent. Accepting this truth is hard, and I am still working on it, but I think acceptance of this is one of the keys to recovery: realizing and understanding and truly getting it that the abuse
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Anger and Emotions by PhoenixRising @ Today at 09:26 AM

Sorryson, I identify so much with what you are saying. The fear of my own anger. The fear of what I might do. What it might do. When I was a child I was rageful for many reasons, and yet I was taught to shut it down, and indeed my father, who I was a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: asking a women out by Acorn2Oak @ Today at 08:12 AM

Hi amcoffee, Gosh, social interactions - casual or romantic - are hard for me too. Your post brings to mind similar feelings, misgivings. My head would become filled with expectations (mine and what I imagined hers to be), following by how I knew I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Incest survivor anyone else? by PMGNT @ Today at 08:05 AM

Yep, mom abused me from about 10 to about 14. Father was a suicide right in the middle of that, which made my involvement with my mother much worse in my mind. The biggest therapy for me was dating a very messed up lady for less than a year. She was
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Jump to new posts Re: half-sister surprise by manipulated @ Today at 08:04 AM

Regardless of what she or her family are like they will be blessed to have met and know you. Your poetry and affirmations show you to be a brother/uncle with much care, concern and wisdom you willingly share with those who ask. Even your gut wrenchin
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Abuser May Be Dying by PMGNT @ Today at 07:51 AM

This has been an interesting and welcome thread. I hope it's OK if I add my bit. I've been thinking about my abuser, my mother, who would be in her mid 80's. I haven't had any contact with her in 28 years and don't know if she is still alive. I've wo
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shamed by PMGNT @ Today at 07:30 AM

My T told me years ago that a difference between embarrassment and shame is that we have to have some kind of enthusiasm for something for it to create shame. My abuse was possible because I cooperated. But, I cooperated because she was my mother an
Male Survivors
It took me until I was 54 to learn that I was abused.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Inspirational Quotes by victor-victim @ Today at 05:50 AM

To love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it and everything youíve held dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands, your throat filled with the silt of it. When grief sits with you, its tropical heat thickening the air, heavy as wa
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Ups Downs Forward Backward by sorryson @ Yesterday at 10:38 PM

My life in many ways has clarity about my family, but the clarity of my CSA is evolving. My family who I love including my Dad. I learned Mama's leaving a sick husband and children to tend to her mother when so many were around caused great heartac
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: *Trigger Warning* UK report reveals 500 victims by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 10:14 PM

I am in the UK, and I am sorry to say this is just propaganda to distract from the real problem. The problem with CSA in Britain rests within the secret Family Courts and this is in 2 strands: 1. Social Services regularly pick on families and remove
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: When the abuser has mostly been a "good" person? by don64 @ Yesterday at 09:47 PM

Hi Lostc, It's taken me a very long time to get out of the blaming game, and I still process through lumps of blaming regularly. Blaming others and blaming myself obscures my ability to see reality and to learn. Being human, for me, involves havin
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Diseased child by woodenshoes @ Yesterday at 08:34 PM

This is something i think all survivors feel. I too feel like a disease that we have been inflicted with. I struggle with why my first perp picked me. Then did i have sign that said abuse me its free on my forehead. I dont know now how to talk to my
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Things boys discover by intochange @ Yesterday at 07:50 PM

Erase his post. Why permit the shadow to remain over the proceedings?
Jump to new posts cologne and charisma by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:21 PM

i carry a deep disgust for well groomed men with lots of money and that smell and that look in the eyes. cologne and charisma. cold blooded. hard hearted. killers. premeditated. predators. community pillars. the foundation is rotten. no one w
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: One big question by Mishka95673 @ Yesterday at 11:42 AM

How about instead of saying you already knew, which might make him paranoid his intimate secrets are on display for the world to see, you say something like "nothing he has been through or he shares with you will change the level of your respect
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Input from female partners of survivors wanted by Mishka95673 @ Yesterday at 11:39 AM

Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Your Spiritual Journey by Bardo @ Yesterday at 09:41 AM

Acorn2Oak, You stand on a precipice. If you let yourself fall, you don't know what will happen. If you stay on the ledge, you know that nothing will. I can't tell you what is right. I was lucky, so lucky. In fact, my wife saved my life without either
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