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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Feeling so much old sadness as things improve by tbkkfile @ Today at 05:06 AM

Don - I envy your ability to bring music back into your life, it was a double edged sword to me and it was a battle that I ultimately lost I'm afraid. It's strange but I only ever listened to music that mean't something and that I associated with go
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by tbkkfile @ Today at 04:53 AM

Still You're definately not alone in this, mine changed over the years, pot to LSD, to cocaine, to speed, to alcahol. People used to joke that I had a defective Gene in that I enjoyed getting off of my face, fuck I used to say the same to them but i
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapy -- Does/did it "work" for you? by traveler @ Today at 02:55 AM

i have had 2 Ts - decades apart - and struck gold with both. only now do i realize how fortunate i was. both were male. i don't think either had ever personally experienced CSA - but both certainly understood it. i would not have been able to talk to
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shame Binding by justplainme @ Today at 02:40 AM

Originally Posted By: Nothing ManI keep telling myself every day it was not my fault. While I understand it in principle, I still do not accept it in fact -- and I know that my thought process there is completely wrong. There are so many barriers p
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Jump to new posts Nightmares by TW16 @ Today at 01:00 AM

I have been having nightmares almost every night for about the last three or four weeks. I am not sure exactly why as nothing out of the ordinary has happened in my life. Although I have been having memories surface from my abuse as a teenager for
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Can coffee aggravate PTSD? by Still @ Today at 12:35 AM

I attended one of the Los Angeles MS support group meetings once. There, one member said he was always to never go out Hungry, Tired, Angry and something else. I have discovered going out like that can and will cause some serious upset and possible
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by finallyhere @ Today at 12:18 AM

Sounds like things moved forward. Good to hear about the breakthroughs with mama and most of all the positive direction for your brother. I know we all hurt when those we love are in such pain as your brother. But don't neglect yourself in the meanti
Jump to new posts To a dying old man by kcinohio @ Today at 12:07 AM

Just breathe easy You're almost there Glad for this time With you to share Not easy now, But was not then Abused and hurt You chose love when You could have died Or hurt others But love pulled you Away from lures Of bitter bile Wasted regret, Inst
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Jump to new posts Re: Love Driving Stick by Suwanee @ Yesterday at 10:47 PM

This thread popped up as "being viewed." I like manual transmissions, so I had to click on it. It's getting harder and harder to find cars with manual transmissions. In some cases, all the literature indicates a model comes in such and suc
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Speaking to my son (before he was born) by focusedbody @ Yesterday at 09:16 PM

In my journey of understanding how I grew and didn't grow, sometimes I recall how over the years I would talk to the son I would someday want to have. When it came time to have children, actually having son didn't even occur to me. Then it happene
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Am I the only one......? by don64 @ Yesterday at 09:08 PM

Hi fhorns, Tears are VERY cleansing, IMO. It sounds to me like your prayers are being answered. My experience is I'm always getting exactly what I need for my growth, it's just that I frequently don't understand it at the time, and that when it hu
U.S. & World News
BTW: Sayreville Police Department has no mode of contact on their home-page. But they DO have a very open facebook page. Some police departments need a little encouragement to do the right things.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Starting recovery by Anura @ Yesterday at 05:47 PM

Just being able to see that I am so far from alone in this, and having people to share with, is already making all of this less difficult. I have been in tears so many times lately, and I'm not usually that emotional of a person. For most of my life
Military Survivors
Jump to new posts I just called an MST's what happened by GeorgeMartin @ Yesterday at 04:48 PM

I called an MST personnel (a woman) who was nice and seemed to listen. They she gives me another phone number to contact (safehelpline)... Then I get another 1 (800) number ... and then another, and another and another. Finally, I get to yet another
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Jump to new posts Re: bull shit- taking responsibility by Sterling @ Yesterday at 03:25 PM

hey ". hey! "what is going on?" not much. I have been trying to focus on too much. I don't know what to ....I am working hard to want to do something with my life. Pissed off that I have these injuries, have a big debt and am sca
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Distressing morning ahead. by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 10:51 AM

I'm glad you are feeling better. I am sending you my support as well. Mike
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I had a bad feeling today....... by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 10:45 AM

We have already been through and survived the hardest thing ever, the abuse. Now we just have to learn to heal and you just gave us a great exemplar of how we should deal with our feelings. Thank you. Mike
Jump to new posts Re: My intro by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 10:22 AM

Dave, I'm sorry for the reasons you are here but glad that you found us. We have all suffered in one way or the other but what we do have in common is a sense of comradeship and a strong gift of support to each other. Congratulations on your first
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Under aged sexual exploitation or art by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 07:29 AM

Wow, a very interesting topic and I appreciate the thoughts of people here. @David I can tell you, separating individual reactions to things from moral judgements is not easy. I am genophobic, any depiction of s/x at all I find bothers me, indeed if
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by lapchinj @ 10/20/14 11:00 PM

I've always had a problem with holding my kids and now my grandkids or even getting involved with them. I couldn't do homework with them or other things that a dad does with his kids. This past Saturday I asked my wife how old my son's oldest boy is.
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Songs for survivors by Suwanee @ 10/20/14 10:55 PM

Incubus: "Drive" Back when the song was released, it hit me at just the right time. After a few years of post-college doldrums (and some pretty stupid csa-driven behavior), I was ready to take the wheel again; I was ready to drive and not b
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Giving back by pow @ 10/20/14 06:39 PM

Rich, Its an interesting topic that you bring up. I "give back" a lot. I don't think I could keep a balance otherwise. I question my motivation though.. I think about it a lot. I am drawn to conflict areas in the world. I go there to h
Jump to new posts Re: Sponsor & Weekend conference by Jude @ 10/20/14 04:51 PM

Welcome Reynel, No sponsor, just 12,000+ guys who get it and are here for you when you need us. Jude
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts CDC Study on Physical and Psychological Abuse by KMCINVA @ 10/20/14 04:42 PM

Just thought it had some interesting findings.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Why posting is cathartic by KMCINVA @ 10/20/14 11:15 AM

Writing for me was a lifesaver. I do not post frequently to my journal currently. The horrific memories and thoughts are at bay--thankfully. It was during the really bad period that I relied on the journal as well as MS postings. But today many of
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