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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: cloudyfalls by KMCINVA @ Today at 06:25 AM

Please keep us posted. Reading cloudyfalls posts reminds me how fragile life can be and the importance of reaching out to someone who is struggling. I will be thinking of cloudfalls and wishing the best for him. I do hope we hear from him.
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: calling all christians by pufferfish @ Today at 01:24 AM

Now that I reflect backward on my life - journey, I realize that God tried maybe a half-dozen times that I can think of, to pry open the door of my heart and let some light shine in. As a 6-year-old in Sunday School, there was some kind of an enligh
Jump to new posts Re: For the first time I am writing "my story" by traveler @ Yesterday at 11:37 PM

be my guest. i hope and pray that it helps in some way. LEE
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: OMG! Planet Earth is Screwed by Still @ Yesterday at 11:09 PM

I've been discussing this matter with a good number of adults. I've limited my discussion to only those adults whom 1) Greatly value their TV and its remote, 2) Are happy with all typical stuff of this shallow nation, such as their ATV, 2 new cars in
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: yearning to hold the boy I was by Rustam @ Yesterday at 09:31 PM

It is a very healing impulse to have, sounds like you have an intuitive understanding of how healing it can be. There are books and stuff online about getting in touch with the inner child. Common techniques include writing letters back and fourth b
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Intimacy - Feeling like I'm abusing by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 07:18 PM

"no man who is too nice can write that way" I'm afraid you've lost me with that one Justplaneme. Do you mean me in the previo0us post, the rather scummy Percy Shelly, or Frankenstein marrying his sister? I am also utterly confused about
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: gay and glad and turning in! by don64 @ Yesterday at 03:11 PM

Hi Guys, I've been going through a gay movie marathon on netflix for awhile now. I'm 65, and am just now getting recovered enough to begin to retrieve some damaged early places. I'm just now retrieving myself from 17-20, a very dark time for me, a
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: I finally told my wife by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 12:49 PM

Jim1961 I happy it went well for you and have found support from your wife. I hope this takes some of the burden of the whole CSA off your shoulders of not having to hide it from your wife. You must know your wife well--to have been able to share
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bitterness... by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 09:44 AM

I understand your need to protect yourself. Shutting out the world only locks you in your own world. Someone gave a Friedrich Nietzsche quote to me “Growth in wisdom may be exactly measured by decrease in bitterness”. I believe this to be true, we
Jump to new posts Re: poem 54 by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 08:26 AM

Glad people like. For this one blaime a rather weerd combination of Leonard cohen and the rhyme of the ancient mariner, and what I was feeling at the time.
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Re: Getting things together by Tyr @ Yesterday at 08:22 AM

np thank u .... wish others would chime in - its a bit irritating that no one ever (read rarely) replies
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: self-consciousness by 96789594 @ Yesterday at 06:59 AM

so - what made the difference? i didn't really work on this issue - it was a by-product of the main focus of my therapy - re-defining who i am - in light of the "big picture" of my life - and not through the lens of CSA. forgiving myself
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts A matter of dependence by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 05:13 AM

Well Castle, it is not so much that I feel I would be better for J than D. I am not romatically attracted to J, and would probably feel the same if J were male and D male or indeed if they were both the same gender. Indeed on the occasions in my lif
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Porn by Esposa @ Yesterday at 12:55 AM

Christian or not, the point is the point. And I think the writer is addressing infidelity and certainly we can all agree that there are certain addictions that are gateways for other addictions. While addicts may have specificity, the numbing requi
Jump to new posts Re: another invisible boy by traveler @ 07/20/14 10:02 PM

Originally Posted By: ethereo222I learned a long time ago that what happened to me as a kid was not my fault. But can I say the same thing about what happened as an adult? I mean, I played a conscious role in creating the situations that lead to the
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Urges by Nate @ 07/20/14 12:18 PM

Yes that would be helpful Taro!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Escape #2: An Update by Rich1967 @ 07/20/14 10:20 AM

Husky I hope you were able to get out of there. At this point in your life just get away from them as fast as possible. The sooner you are out from under them the sooner you will be able to begin thinking straight. While you are there, under their
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Psychosomatic Head Pressure by justplainme @ 07/19/14 05:53 PM

Yeap i've felt this too bud! Perhaps installing a release valve in my head could help like in the cartoons? hahaha. It is a pain the motherfreaking ass. I'm sure you'll manage because from what i have read on here you got recovery pretty much down! M
Jump to new posts Re: Brief Introduction by Bluedogone @ 07/19/14 03:47 PM

Hi Darby and welcome, You've made a wise and courageous decision to put in writing exactly what happened. And to recognize abuse for what it is, and to recognize it as something that must be dealt with. MS, and it's resources, can be a great help
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Matt sandusky Interview on Oprah by pufferfish @ 07/19/14 01:22 PM

Thank you Oprah. Thank you Matthew Sandusky. I noticed a number of parallels between this report and the details of grooming we've been given by Aaron Fisher in his book. Silent No More: Victim 1's Fight for Justice Against Jerry Sandusky by Aar
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: The Circle of Life by sorryson @ 07/19/14 09:26 AM

It has been a difficult week. I am trying to focus on getting better and resolving my issues with CSA and my Dad. The family drama has heightened. My brother overheard several conversations about Mama, her family and how he is living his life. He
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts José González – Stay Alive by SamV @ 07/19/14 08:48 AM There’s a rhythm in rush these days Where the lights don’t move and the colors don’t fade Leaves you empty with nothing but dreams In a world gone shallow In a world gone lean Sometimes there
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: SWEET Justice! by tbkkfile @ 07/19/14 02:02 AM

The Fathers a better man than me being able to stop when he did
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Songs for survivors by jj78 @ 07/18/14 11:29 PM

Thanks Pattom and Blue Sky for the recent songs. And thanks to everyone for the 90,000 views! Here is a new song I heard recently: "Human" Christina Perri
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Not So Fast by justplainme @ 07/18/14 08:52 PM

Hey don't sweat it so much, i've dealt with this as well, so i hear were you're coming from, every time i had a girlfriend i almost turned her into my mother. Just remember that it's only a part of you that thinks that way, and most likely it was a
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