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Jump to new posts Re: Foolish enough to think other people understand by dark empathy @ 10/26/14 01:18 PM

Sorry, I see debating this point won't help. I do not think I should be on ms anymore.
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It is just like my good friend moose, aka petercorbett here on ms, he hated and feared all women because of what 1 female did. He finally learned that making a general accusation upon all females because of what 1 female did was wrong. should you be
Male Survivors
There are many women that I know who have never been kissed. My aunt, who was in her 70's when she passed away was never kissed. Again you are making general accusations on people when that is not true. Just the fact that everyone is unique makes you
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Jump to new posts Re: Foolish enough to think other people understand by dark empathy @ 10/26/14 11:54 AM

I appologise Obi, but I still do not agree. If I met a woman who suffered abuse likely my empathy would take over, but on a social position I find it difficult to have any general sympathy at all towards women, sinse were I female I would not have
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Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Still @ 10/26/14 10:33 AM

Originally Posted By: MagellanYes. Pot and alcohol have allowed me to keep walking on this confusing planet. If I had not found pot and alcohol, I would have killed myself in my early 20's, or any number of times that I felt the need/urge/pull to tur
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I feel bad that you went through that situation and that your friend didn't think about what you were going through when the topic of sex started. there is a part of your response to Jacob that I do not agree with and that is with regards to women,
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Persisting Sex Problems by pete1973 @ 10/26/14 10:03 AM

JW1230 you just totally made me realize something else that has lingered in my mind but never really accepted until now that I would try to ejaculate as quickly as possible when the sexual act I was involved with reminded me of the abuse or I was rev
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Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Magellan @ 10/26/14 09:53 AM

I *appreciate* the brutal honesty of this post, Still. It applies to me. It still does. To be honest, I still drink at night. 4-5 beers in the evening. It kills the loneliness I carry in my bones every day, every minute. The harsh truth about my
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Not dealing with it (again) by finallyhere @ 10/26/14 09:37 AM

Bardo- Jude's suggestion sounds very intuitive. I have been through every aspect you and wiresguy speak of. The hookups over the years, just a year ago I started the male porn site which was a huge error in judgement, the 'picking out possible partn
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Don, I feel that I don't have anything of use to say to you in most cases. This is for two reasons primarily: first, your issues have been so much more "severe" than mine, at least as I see them, and I don't feel qualified to comment on you
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: more high school football "hazing" by Still @ 10/26/14 09:17 AM

Well...about once every six months we seem to see the results of general-torment in the form of very loud bangs echoing through the hallways of some school. General Torment is a bitch. I wonder when the powerful and popular will stop employing him?
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Foolish enough to think other people understand by dark empathy @ 10/26/14 09:03 AM

@Jacob, explore the reasons? I appreciate the thought, but really there's no great mystery of why I'm genophobic. My only experience of s/x was as humiliation, very crude, obvious humiliation, heck I used to mb each morning before I went to school pu
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People will surprise you like that. They are only people after all. I made myself a hard and fast rule from which to live & die. "Don't expect people to be other than what they are." That was drafted by my Rules Department while runni
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Does ssa feelings ever go away ? by pete1973 @ 10/26/14 08:41 AM

I have been in counseling and therapy now for over a year and a half, first abuse was at 11 and second at 18 followed by a suicide attempt and have alwys found since I hit puberty I had ssa and a huge penis fixation. My first abuse was allowing the g
Jump to new posts Re: My Story by sorryson @ 10/26/14 08:29 AM

Bardo that is wonderful news. I hope you find connection with your therapist. I know when I first starting going to my doctor and counselor I was scared and afraid to tell him what happened. They were able to make me comfortable. Slowly I shared a
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Jump to new posts Re: Starting recovery by Still @ 10/26/14 08:17 AM

Be mighty thankful for her. Without even meeting her, I can tell she's got heart and true grit!
Jump to new posts Re: My Story by Bardo @ 10/26/14 08:03 AM

A quick update: I have taken the plunge and made made an appointment with a therapist. We talk tonight, and I am so full of fear and apprehension over the meeting. I still have not told my wife, and that may be my biggest fear of all. I know I need t
Jump to new posts Re: member by Bardo @ 10/26/14 07:46 AM

Jay, Thank you for sharing your story. It is hard to tell, but worse to live through. Please know that you have friends here, who will listen and understand what you are saying and why. There is a huge reservoir of experience, wisdom and love here. G
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Jump to new posts Re: Starting recovery by Bardo @ 10/26/14 07:41 AM

Anura, Congratulations on taking these important first steps. As I noted in other posts, my abuse was very similar to yours and FH's, the difference being that my abuser was my brother. I am 54 and I am just now realizing the things that you mention
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Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by Bardo @ 10/26/14 07:30 AM

Can you remember a time when you were even half happy? It sounds to me like you are making real progress. I know it is hard, and I have enormous respect for you in taking this journey. Keep moving forward!
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Jump to new posts Re: Didnt get a DUI by JW1230 @ 10/26/14 07:15 AM

Inside, I lost a close family member to a drunk driving accident. In addition, I grew up in a very chaotic, alcoholic home which lead to a lot of my difficulties today. I ended up abusing alcohol for many years to numb the pain and memories of my
Male Survivors
I would only add that it seems like your friend has been a generally positive influence in the past. And I agree that it is highly unlikely that she knew she was being hurtful. If you feel the relationship is worth saving, perhaps you could tell her
Jump to new posts Re: Storm Passes by Jacob S @ 10/26/14 07:01 AM

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Jump to new posts Re: Not dealing with it (again) by Bardo @ 10/26/14 06:57 AM

All, I have my first appointment with the therapist this evening. I have no idea what I am going to say, but I guess that is the point. I will let you know how it goes. Thanks for your support and advice. Best regards, Freeman
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Foolish enough to think other people understand by finallyhere @ 10/26/14 06:56 AM

You are not being overly sensitive and you are also right she probably has no idea or recollection of the conversation or it's impact on you. Sorry you had to sit through it but you can recognize progress by the ability to do so. Also to be commende
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