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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: big breakthrough out of learned helplessness by KMCINVA @ 08/27/14 10:47 AM

Don Excellent news--great achievement. I am glad you were able to hold it together and the positive tone of your message is encouraging. Keep going. I returned to the church about 10 months ago at the urging of a wonderful friend. She made it sim
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Wife of survivor, want to introduce myself by Nicole @ 08/27/14 10:32 AM

I'm glad you found this site, you will find you are not alone. The terrible effects of what our significant others went through can cause us heart wrenching pain, and loneliness while we support them through their recovery. I don't have any great ad
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: big breakthrough out of learned helplessness by traveler @ 08/27/14 09:44 AM

Don - this is excellent news and great progress. thanks for sharing your success. it is encouraging to hear. Lee
Military Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Any "Brats" here? by I Want 2 Thrive @ 08/27/14 09:19 AM

Being a Navy Brat was my escape from my abuser.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: My recent thoughts...... by sugarbaby @ 08/27/14 07:36 AM

Thank you for the feedback. To many men live with CSA and have a mindset that "I'm bad." because I "acted out", or "let it happen", etc. That bugs me because what they need to have in their mind is "I was the vic
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Wife of survivor, want to introduce myself by sugarbaby @ 08/27/14 07:30 AM

Welcome. You have a lot on your plate. Read, post, and learn a lot. That will help you.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Give Yourself a Break by don64 @ 08/27/14 06:13 AM

Hi 1lifenow, One of the effects of my abuse was to totally disable my ability to feel love, compassion and any sense of kindness and caring for myself. In fact, one of the effects of my abuse was to set in motion a long term program of destroying a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Give Yourself a Break by 1lifenow @ 08/27/14 05:24 AM

Why can't you give yourself a break? That's what my sister asked me. We went through a shit storm as children and circumstance yet here you are she said. Loving , caring, kind, thinking of others and striving to work hard to be a better man. So w
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Jump to new posts Ebola by traveler @ 08/27/14 05:22 AM

today we got word that all schools in the country are closed until further notice because of the Ebola situation. it is hard to know if this is a justifiable precaution or an over-reaction. There have been no cases reported in our area. in the meanti
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Where to begin... by traveler @ 08/27/14 05:17 AM

VA Survivor - This is a very good place to begin - though it sounds as if you are well started already. Welcome to our community. i am sure you will find acceptance, wisdom, resources, and comradeship here. you are among those who understand and ar
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Wife of survivor, want to introduce myself by journey4two @ 08/27/14 03:59 AM

Me again. This has turned into another sleepless night for me. I would love to make connections on this forum. I guess it is late tonight, but I feel that I at least have a safe place to get my thoughts out. What is eating me alive is the not knowi
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: the concept of "playing"... by tbkkfile @ 08/27/14 12:54 AM

Hi Ethereo I've always thought that the key was unwinding and relaxing as opposed to playing to balance against work, doing something that you enjoy. For me that's labouring in my garden, cooking in the evening with the produce that I've grown, goin
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: My recent thoughts...... by journey4two @ 08/27/14 12:52 AM

New here and needed to see something strong and hopeful just about now. Thank you.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Wife of survivor, want to introduce myself by journey4two @ 08/27/14 12:47 AM

I just joined the forum this evening. I have a huge ache in my heart. I have been married to my spouse (who experienced CSA) for 15 years. The abuse was mentioned a time or two in the beginning of our marriage but never was discussed or understood
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: the concept of "playing"... by kcinohio @ 08/26/14 11:52 PM

I've had success with this at different points along the way - drawing worked for me for a time because I'm not very skilled with it, so it couldn't be anything else but play. Currently struggling with making too many activities into work (including
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: big breakthrough out of learned helplessness by kcinohio @ 08/26/14 11:46 PM

Glad you were able to have a breakthrough and stay out of isolation. Hope the progress you're seeing continues strong.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: My recent thoughts...... by focusedbody @ 08/26/14 11:08 PM

Originally Posted By: sugarbabyIt is a very jagged little pill to swallow when you find out your husband has been keeping his CSA from you. It is a painful process to come to terms with that. Both partners need to understand that. Trying to keep tha
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Self Examination is Not for the weak by victor-victim @ 08/26/14 11:02 PM

amen. a good read with good ideas. the bible is my measuring stick. I cannot discern progress without it. if I am not brutally honest with myself I will deny my own faults. being "good enough" was not good enough. I wanted mor
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My relationship towards my self by DavoSwim @ 08/26/14 10:14 PM

Justplainme, Thank you for writing this. While you wrote this about yourself, it touches all of us. By reflecting on your words, we can learn more about the truths of our individual lives. I know that for years, I have been afraid of seeking the t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts the concept of "playing"... by ethereo222 @ 08/26/14 09:53 PM

Having just read a couple of self-help books recommended on this site, I see a recurring emphasis on the need for "play" to balance our "work", and to help us get in touch more with our younger selves. This got me to thinking...hm
Introductions
Jump to new posts Where to begin... by VASurvivor @ 08/26/14 07:33 PM

Hi. I am grateful for being referred to this group. My first abuse was at age 7 by a babysitters' son, the same age as me. Then at age 15, I responded to an ad for "help with computers" and the 50+ y.o. man put in a porn video while I wa
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: The Nose Knows by Ever-fixed Mark @ 08/26/14 07:10 PM

Thanks, 1lifenow. Studies like these really make the blanket "sexual orientation is a choice" argument increasingly tougher to make. I don't think you can choose to have a different brain structure that's wired to interpret stimuli differe
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts big breakthrough out of learned helplessness by don64 @ 08/26/14 07:04 PM

I've recently started going to a church. It's taken three years of conscious personal work to feel safe coming out of my isolation and begin to attend. It feels good to be able to do this, and is meeting a number of needs for me. Sunday, there wer
Survivor Stories
Jump to new posts I'm just gonna start writing. [trigger warning] by baechynn @ 08/26/14 06:13 PM

My name's Tony, and this is the first time I tell people what happened. I've been lurking on the boards for a while now, trying to figure out what happened to me in context, all factors present. It's been hard, and the thing I've been asking myself i
Progress
Jump to new posts Five years ago.. by petercorbett @ 08/26/14 06:07 PM

Texas greetings my fraternal brothers. It was exactly five years ago when i had hit rock bottom, emotionally, mentally & physically, almost one year + to the day i found MS. I was in the middle of a 12 week PTSD group therapy at my local VA Med
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