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Jump to new posts Re: i need your help guys... by Nothing Man @ 08/22/14 03:02 PM

Pattom, one of my perps was my mother. Not only did she molest me but she also was physically and mentally abusive toward me. Even now she haunts my dreams -- the most recent was her being verbally abusive toward me over nothing, which was her SOP.
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: New guy by 96789594 @ 08/22/14 02:15 PM

welcome to MS ,just like to say that what ur experiencing are things that many survivors struggle with , i'm glaad that you'v made progress .Simply being on the path of recovery takes incredible strength and courage , so be gentle and kind and patien
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: SWEET Justice! by victor-victim @ 08/22/14 02:04 PM

I don't trust my own feelings. I would have likely lost it and acted violently under the circumstances. regardless of my ideals and ethics. sometimes the animal takes over. how I would feel later is another story. the father will need counsellin
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: i need your help guys... by NoSimpleMachine @ 08/22/14 01:58 PM

pattom My CSA, while relatively contained in time (it wasn't ongoing for very long), was violent and was a rape. It took me awhile to call it rape. I called it "being taken advantage of" at first and when I finally called it rape, it was i
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Counseling Session Strange Reaction and Being Gone by NoSimpleMachine @ 08/22/14 01:52 PM

Working with my lifetime integration therapist (LIT), I had a session where we did worked on some feelings I had for well over our normal hour of time, up to about an hour and 40 minutes. It didn't feel that long. It didn't feel like time at all. But
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: New guy by Frm73 @ 08/22/14 01:49 PM

Thank you all for welcoming me to MaleSurvivor. I'm not doing so good lately. This past week I've been having panic attacks in bed again just when I'm about to fall asleep, and it kind of worries me because it has been quite some time since the last
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: A surprising realization by GT13568 @ 08/22/14 01:37 PM

Yay. I'm so glad I logged in today and found this post of yours, Magellan. Congratulations. You rock. Geoff
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: The meanings of our "pen names" by Ocellaris @ 08/22/14 01:21 PM

Ocellaris is a species of clownfish. "Nemo" from the popular animated movie is an ocellaris clownfish. I originally chose the name because I keep a saltwater fish tank and the ocellaris clownfish was one of the first ones I kept. But I also
Military Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Any "Brats" here? by gaatt @ 08/22/14 01:07 PM

Hi Pufferfish, Originally Posted By: pufferfishThere was a constant struggle for dominance between father and mother. Who would be the boss? This sounds close to what I experienced too. My mother was generally the winner when it came to what when o
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: X-Men director Bryan Singer accused of abuse by Ocellaris @ 08/22/14 10:55 AM

As a follow up to the Bryan Singer case, we have another survivor who can't find justice in the legal system. I feel for Michael Egan. If anyone wonders why so few survivors every report their abuse, it's because of outcomes like this one: http://ww
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: learning to embrace loneliness help plese by Nicole @ 08/22/14 10:12 AM

md4e, Very well said. I live with a lot of uncertainty. I wish I could read his mind for just long enough to see what he really wants from me, because it seems to change faster than I can keep up. There's only snippets of a loving, intimate relations
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: SWEET Justice! by traveler @ 08/22/14 09:47 AM

i have very mixed feelings on this. my mind tells me i ought to maintain a pacifist, idealistic, philosophical, legal neutrality. BUT my gut feelings are with you, Still, and the dad! lee
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Lesson We Can Learn by KMCINVA @ 08/22/14 09:46 AM

The Lesson We Can Learn From Dave Gordon Of Blessed Memory For a few hours on Tuesday, the Jewish world’s attention was focused on a missing IDF soldier. David Menachem Gordon was reported as missing and Jews around the world were fearful that he ha
Male Survivors
not exactly the same - but i have "lost time" before. "spacing out" is what my wife calls it. but i don't think i talked - just went distant and silent on her. and i can remember when i did not remember the passing of time and wha
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Counseling Session Strange Reaction and Being Gone by sorryson @ 08/22/14 07:50 AM

This week I had an appointment with psychiatrist and counselor. The doctor says I am making progress but in time I need to dig deeper. Yesterday at the counselor session something weird happened. He was asking me about the abuse and words I may hav
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: SWEET Justice! by lostc @ 08/22/14 06:51 AM

I agree entirely Still. The huge injustice is that nowadays sex offenders in prison are specifically placed Apart from other/non-sex offenders because of the very fact that they will get targeted for their crimes by the other offenders.
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: SWEET Justice! by Still @ 08/22/14 06:43 AM

Originally Posted By: SvenThere was no sweet justice for anyone here. It's just another sad case. And no.. life ain't fair. There's always someone better of or worse off. Doesn't help anyone to compare.. And all this rage and anger i see here isn't
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Recognising Manipulation and Blaming the Abuser by traveler @ 08/22/14 04:49 AM

Learning - i think that this is a hugely important post for you. Originally Posted By: learning2rememberabout what my brother had done to me and how, when I asked him about it, he said he didn'T remember. He questioned my sanity, which made sense to
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: spanking in school still legal in some states by traveler @ 08/22/14 04:11 AM

i attended a public secondary school in the UK. they used a leather strap about a quarter inch thick and about 2 feet long with a split in the last 8-10 inches. it was smacked down overhand across the open palms of the "offender." it hurt l
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: A surprising realization by traveler @ 08/22/14 03:53 AM

great news, Magellan! i am so happy to hear this. you are very perceptive to have worked this our - despite your claim of not understanding "politics." glad you have the support of other sane ones in the department. Lee
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: The meanings of our "pen names" by traveler @ 08/22/14 03:43 AM

Originally Posted By: travelerJosh & all - i too am a traveler. i second what you said about the sense of adventure and the excitement of discovery and learning. i've lived at over 30 addresses in 7 states, 6 countries and 4 continents. i have
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Recognising Manipulation and Blaming the Abuser by learning2remember @ 08/22/14 02:27 AM

Way, way back in my recovery I was talking to my therapist about what my brother had done to me and how, when I asked him about it, he said he didn'T remember. He questioned my sanity, which made sense to me, because I was questioning my sanity, too.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: The meanings of our "pen names" by learning2remember @ 08/22/14 02:03 AM

When I started facing the abuse, teh thing that worried me most was not remembering all of it. There was one incident particularly where I just block out. (Now that I think about it, if there is any one incident where the memory gaps are pretty obvio
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: being touched by learning2remember @ 08/22/14 01:58 AM

I'm sure my mother would insist that her touching me was only affectionate, nothing erotic involved. I never questioned that for years. Then, as an adult, I realised that I had been uncomfortable with her touches. It was also true once that I saw a c
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what r ur accomplishments? by pufferfish @ 08/22/14 01:37 AM

Obi I think highly of you. Puffer
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