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Jump to new posts Re: Stuffed Animals by Sven @ 07/17/14 12:01 PM

had something like this
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Jump to new posts Re: Stuffed Animals by tbkkfile @ 07/17/14 11:49 AM

Oh gee you've just reminded me of Fred Bear, his nose was a bit worn but when you turned him over he made this growl, I can still hear it
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Ten years of healing and counting! by Adam A Gedman @ 07/17/14 11:44 AM

Hey Luke, I am sorry for your reason to be here, but I am glad that you've found and joined us here at MS. 10 years is a great accomplishment, congratulations on your successes. Here's hoping you can both derive some additional benefit from your p
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: First two weeks after 35 yrs of secret by Hanuman @ 07/17/14 11:32 AM

JPF You've taken the first step - stand tall! I am 8 months in to the process following 42 years of secrecy and shame. I have just returned from a Dare to Dream Weekend and needless to say it was transformative. Be proud of yourself - I am - Hanu
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Jump to new posts Re: New Here. Not sure how to post by DT @ 07/17/14 11:25 AM

welcome, dykesde. can relate to what you say how past will stick with you so long sounds like you aren't alone.
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Jump to new posts Re: hello by DT @ 07/17/14 11:23 AM

dark humor is still humor like the jordan one best and yeah, marx is one of my favorites -thanks both
Humor
Jump to new posts Re: The top 20 things not to say to a cop by DT @ 07/17/14 11:21 AM

good ones-
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: self-consciousness by traveler @ 07/17/14 11:09 AM

Originally Posted By: 96789594i believed (still at some level)/ belive that it was my fault therefor i'm bad hateful and repulsive , and so i guess now i tend to re-experience that episode from my trauma, in my evryday life , even when i'm simply goi
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Stuffed Animals by concerned_husky @ 07/17/14 10:33 AM

Sorry for the bump, but: Just got him a few days ago, had to share a photo of him here. Never had a stuffed animal growing up...
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What I told my kids TRIGGER WARNING by Still @ 07/17/14 10:24 AM

Originally Posted By: focusedbody I said that someone made something more important to them than it was to me. That is the quote of the week! This is the tool of the week! Originally Posted By: focusedbodyWould love to hear from anyone with simil
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Jump to new posts Re: Why do I still feel responsible? by KMCINVA @ 07/17/14 09:29 AM

Dave These are difficult emotions to deal with as you heal. The guilt we harbor comes from being conditioned by our abuser not to tell, our secret. We begin to believe others will blame us for what happened, not Father XXX. The subject was taboo
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Porn by Castle @ 07/17/14 09:14 AM

I happen to disagree. This is a very right wing Christian blogger...and I was mostly out when he suggested we "man up" whatever that means. Yes, if you sit all day and watch porn and choose that over real life interpersonal contact there
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: self-consciousness by 96789594 @ 07/17/14 09:10 AM

Travler so much of what ur saying explains what i struggle with , i too 'am very self counsciouse , worry so much that if express my self i come accross to thers as stupid, fake or inadequate , even here sometimes it takes me hours to express my se
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Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by tbkkfile @ 07/17/14 08:39 AM

I was lucky enough to study voice full time for a couple of years along with jazz, the guy that used to teach me in singing was a huge Gilbert and Sullivan fan (he was a singer in D'Oyly Carte at one point) but it wasn't for me, my favourite was Sara
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Getting things together by Tyr @ 07/17/14 05:35 AM

Had a pretty rough betrayal from a friend today. He was someone I tried to confide a few pieces of information about some of my victimization history. Instead he went off and started saying abusive, and cruel comments. I have been working hard on mys
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by dark empathy @ 07/17/14 05:02 AM

Well I do see the problem, though it's a case of looking around. One thing you might have a go at is some of the flanders and swan stuff. Sinse Flanders himself was a low baritone, and his take off of the Mozart Horn Concerto actually hits a botto
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Some songs I recorded by don64 @ 07/17/14 01:51 AM

Hi Victor, When I tried to import songs on Chrome, my anti-virus program said there was mal-ware, my firefox uses google also so I didn't try it. But, it imported fine with no problems on Bing. Don
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Porn by Esposa @ 07/17/14 12:51 AM

Interesting article http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/11/25/married-men-your-porn-habit-is-an-adultery-habit/
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by tbkkfile @ 07/17/14 12:28 AM

I always envied tenors as there's not much written for my range, and generally it's never a lead role.
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Jump to new posts Re: Why do I still feel responsible? by kcinohio @ 07/17/14 12:17 AM

Everyone's process may take different timing. For me, from 2 years after starting this MS recovery to 8 years in, those 6 years, were the hardest part of my journey. But, over another 10 years after that, things are reasonably decent most of the time
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What I told my kids TRIGGER WARNING by kcinohio @ 07/17/14 12:03 AM

Sounds like you are finding how to share with them without making it too complicated, keeping boundaries when your process is overwhelming, and living your own life with your relationship with your kids, so good work. That's outside my experience, bu
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Why do I still feel responsible? by Jude @ 07/16/14 11:18 PM

It hurts to say this, but at least for some of us, I think we feel responsible because as kids we believed that adults were always right, and always did the right things. Its always the kids who needed correcting, not the adults. And so when this &qu
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: New Here. Not sure how to post by Jude @ 07/16/14 11:01 PM

Welcome dykesde, Relax, you're among friends who will believe you and not judge you. You will find that while we are all different, we all have this terrible experience that we share, and that allows us to understand and support each other. I too
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Jump to new posts Re: New by Jude @ 07/16/14 10:51 PM

Welcome Locarious, Dittos of all the above. Jude
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: First two weeks after 35 yrs of secret by Dave PNW @ 07/16/14 08:10 PM

Hey JPF, good work getting started. I completely relate to how you felt the first two weeks after your disclosure. It is hard in the beginning as those emotions we buried so long ago come forward. It was hard for me too at first, but keep talking and
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