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Jump to new posts Re: Greetings & some thoughts by Sailor John @ 09/18/14 07:28 PM

Hi BobdaFarmer, Believe it or not, you have just done the hardest thing you will ever do. Telling somebody the first time is the worst. John
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Jump to new posts Re: Scottish Independence referendum by txb @ 09/18/14 06:39 PM

Traveler, itís really interesting to know that you lived here! This is my first time not being so incognito on here. I never posted where I lived before, (paranoia that someone might somehow know me) but I was kind of excited about being part of some
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I don't know what I'm doing with my life by JW1230 @ 09/18/14 06:14 PM

Hi SilentNoLonger, It may not seem like it, but you are on the path to healing...I related to the steps being too small to see sometimes, but when I am honest with myself, I am getting better a little at a time. I would love for there to be a begin
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Hypnotherapy? by pufferfish @ 09/18/14 06:00 PM

Hypnotism can be very powerful. I have a therapist who used hypnotherapy to great advantage in healing of dissociation caused by child abuse when I was very young. It worked with alters resulting from early child sexual abuse. It was easy to learn
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I do not want to do this by newground @ 09/18/14 05:47 PM

hey guys I wanted to post real quick to say it went ...well lol it was bad i suppose but not NEARLY as bad as it was in my head which is usually the case. It is not over yet but the surgery did happen and it was a success. now there is the healing
Male Survivors
NoSimpleMachine I understand where you are coming from. I sat in front of the abuser's house on two separate occasions. One time it was at least two hours and the second after my Mom passed and I was to go to the church where the abuse took place,
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Finally kicking my abuser in the teeth (in mind) by NoSimpleMachine @ 09/18/14 02:59 PM

So for months I've been feeling like I should want to hate my abuser. Express some outrage. Vent some. But it was all emotionally dead. I even tried to imagine going to his home and having it out with him, but it was just images, no real emotional im
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Will it ever get better by journey4two @ 09/18/14 12:56 PM

I try to be mindful of my "self care' (something my T and everything I read really stresses). Falling under that category for me is also reading books/articles on my issues. (Head knowledge has always been my "refuge"...often to a fa
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Public to the rescue! ****TRIGGERS***** by Obi @ 09/18/14 12:06 PM

i should really stop reading the news. the more i read the more depressed and upset i get... the arizona cardinals deactivated one of their players for domestic abuse... *shakes head*.... and people are still wondering why this is happening. why i
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Facebook by KMCINVA @ 09/18/14 11:04 AM

I am on Facebook. I too am a member of pages that talk about my hometown. One of the sites posts pictures and stories of yesteryear. I had tracked down my abuser, knowing where he lived and also sat in my car outside his home on two occasions. Wel
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Priest Abuse / Recovered Memory Question by tbkkfile @ 09/18/14 11:04 AM

OxfordArms I'm 56 and even now my memory will let something out that before was hidden. I had a really bad episode earlier this week, triggered by being put in a situation that I couldn't get out of or control and I remembered vividly the actual pr
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Facebook by tbkkfile @ 09/18/14 10:50 AM

Facebook scares the crap out of me, it's just so public. My kids keep telling me that I should register but after building this wall around me for the last 44 years I ain't about to let anyone that I don't know inside. As for using it to track down
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Facebook by GT13568 @ 09/18/14 10:48 AM

Good luck with this, Jude. Be careful, of course. I haven't searched for my perp - mine was my dad - but I have had no luck in finding people who were around when I was young, and who I suspect knew something was going on. A lot of us are engaged
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Facebook by Still @ 09/18/14 08:49 AM

Yes. Be careful of what you seek there. My hometown has a FB wall just for those who feel some attachment to the town. I'm meeting people who never knew I existed. As adults, they are pretty cool for the most part. Literally NO ONE from my HS Class
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I don't know what I'm doing with my life by Still @ 09/18/14 08:41 AM

SNL: I could have written much of that myself today, one year ago, or 6 years ago. Seemingly, within minutes of losing the mask and falling apart, I lost everything that I had worked so hard to attain. I'm still there. Still stripped of all of it, i
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Jump to new posts Re: Scottish Independence referendum by tbkkfile @ 09/18/14 08:37 AM

Hi txb Congratulations on the new job. Living at the opposite end of the country this Sassenach has mixed feelings as to yes or no but I guess you're not going to get another chance at independence, it's taken since 1707 to get this far. David
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Will it ever get better by Nicole @ 09/18/14 08:22 AM

Going forward, That is exactly how I feel this morning. Not feeling very hopeful, not sure why, just very worried and sad. Just trying to salvage a day that hasn't even started yet. I wonder with all he has to deal with, if he has any idea how all t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I don't know what I'm doing with my life by randombreeze @ 09/18/14 08:13 AM

SNL, I am so sorry to hear of your pain and YES you've come to the right place to vent. Your post touched a nerve as I too have battled depression and self loathing for decades. There are 12,637 registered members that get it. There are many, many
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Will it ever get better by Going forward @ 09/18/14 08:04 AM

Yesterday and today I continue to be sad and worried; not really sure why because nothing specific has happened. Maybe it's just the thought of wondering about the life we have had and where it's going. I just want piece of mind and that seems too mu
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Hello Everyone!! by txb @ 09/18/14 06:22 AM

Stuff that happened to me was recorded and uploaded to the internet. But for some reason I donít feel like I belong in this forum. Iím unimpressed with the disclaimer too, about posting links to porn sites or whatever. Who would do that? Why is it ev
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Jump to new posts Re: Scottish Independence referendum by traveler @ 09/18/14 06:21 AM

txb - congratulations on the new job - and best wishes for great success. i am following the vote closely, too. i lived in Scotland for part of my formative years - in my teens - and it was a good time for me. i had friends who i know are certain t
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Jump to new posts Scottish Independence referendum by txb @ 09/18/14 06:06 AM

Itís a big day here in Scotland. We are having a referendum on whether we should separate from the rest of the UK. I really really want this, so Iím voting yes. My whole family are voting yes, though my uncleís mother phoned him first thing this mo
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bible Study (notes) by nltsaved @ 09/18/14 02:41 AM

Bible study 9/18/2014 Long Suffering Long suffering is something that is hard to wrap our heads around more so than the other ingredients of the fruit of the spirit. Excepting pain without complaining is hard to do but if you begin to focus on over
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bible Study (notes) by nltsaved @ 09/18/14 02:41 AM

That is awesome ,I love it .
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Your fallen nature is not a toy by nltsaved @ 09/18/14 02:00 AM

Playing with your fallen nature ,sin as if it a toy that you get to pick up and put down when ever you feel like it is very dangerous and is blatantly denying the power in Which Christ died for you to have . This can become very costly to you. God wa
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