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Jump to new posts Re: Abuser May Be Dying by PMGNT @ 03/29/15 07:51 AM

This has been an interesting and welcome thread. I hope it's OK if I add my bit. I've been thinking about my abuser, my mother, who would be in her mid 80's. I haven't had any contact with her in 28 years and don't know if she is still alive. I've wo
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shamed by PMGNT @ 03/29/15 07:30 AM

My T told me years ago that a difference between embarrassment and shame is that we have to have some kind of enthusiasm for something for it to create shame. My abuse was possible because I cooperated. But, I cooperated because she was my mother an
Male Survivors
It took me until I was 54 to learn that I was abused.
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Jump to new posts Re: half-sister surprise by victor-victim @ 03/29/15 06:01 AM

i finally got the courage to compose a short introductory email to my newly discovered sibling. she sent me a hello a while back, and i was afraid to answer. it took me quite a while to reply. there's no going back now... i just hit send. fee
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Inspirational Quotes by victor-victim @ 03/29/15 05:50 AM

To love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it and everything you’ve held dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands, your throat filled with the silt of it. When grief sits with you, its tropical heat thickening the air, heavy as wa
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Native American Religion by victor-victim @ 03/29/15 05:37 AM

Originally Posted By: Nothing ManAnd as we poison our good Mother Earth we are on the road to finding out just how true that last statement is. "You have been telling the people, That this is the eleventh hour. Now, you must go and tell the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Sibling abuse ( triggers ) / thoughts about it by Tryingtolive @ 03/29/15 04:07 AM

I forgot that it even happened to me.. Didn't really cross my mind that I was abused .. I became very depressed . Anxiety.. Dissociating .. Just wasn't the same .. started looking up these symptoms and it said could be caused from a traumatic even
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts asking a women out by amcoffee @ 03/29/15 03:17 AM

I recently asked a women out to a movie at work. She agreed and we did eventually did go see a movie together. I was extremely happy for about two days after her saying yes. Then for about the following three weeks it has been very difficult. Partly
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Ups Downs Forward Backward by sorryson @ 03/28/15 10:38 PM

My life in many ways has clarity about my family, but the clarity of my CSA is evolving. My family who I love including my Dad. I learned Mama's leaving a sick husband and children to tend to her mother when so many were around caused great heartac
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: *Trigger Warning* UK report reveals 500 victims by ALovingMum @ 03/28/15 10:14 PM

I am in the UK, and I am sorry to say this is just propaganda to distract from the real problem. The problem with CSA in Britain rests within the secret Family Courts and this is in 2 strands: 1. Social Services regularly pick on families and remove
Survivors of Female Abuse
Hi Lostc, It's taken me a very long time to get out of the blaming game, and I still process through lumps of blaming regularly. Blaming others and blaming myself obscures my ability to see reality and to learn. Being human, for me, involves havin
Jump to new posts Re: Facing my past by victor-victim @ 03/28/15 09:16 PM

This started as a post and startled into a poem. Purge as you feel the urge. Read as you feel the need. Share as much as you can bare. Care as much as you can bear. Dare to become more self aware. It's your decision. You make the choice. It
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Diseased child by woodenshoes @ 03/28/15 08:34 PM

This is something i think all survivors feel. I too feel like a disease that we have been inflicted with. I struggle with why my first perp picked me. Then did i have sign that said abuse me its free on my forehead. I dont know now how to talk to my
Jump to new posts Re: Facing my past by woodenshoes @ 03/28/15 08:15 PM

Smc Write what you feel it is like getting poison out of your system.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Things boys discover by intochange @ 03/28/15 07:50 PM

Erase his post. Why permit the shadow to remain over the proceedings?
Jump to new posts cologne and charisma by victor-victim @ 03/28/15 07:21 PM

i carry a deep disgust for well groomed men with lots of money and that smell and that look in the eyes. cologne and charisma. cold blooded. hard hearted. killers. premeditated. predators. community pillars. the foundation is rotten. no one w
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Diseased child by LMG @ 03/28/15 06:13 PM

Thank you all for these posts. You have helped me in a time of sadness. I also relate to feeling like a diseased person and sometimes understand how it can poison my thoughts. I wish for peaceful minds and hearts for all
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Diseased child by Bluedogone @ 03/28/15 06:10 PM

No doubt our DNA comes from our parents, and will be a part of us forever, no matter what we do or think. But I can't agree with your "logical conclusion" that you've become a diseased man because of what your parents did so long ago and b
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Diseased child by PhoenixRising @ 03/28/15 02:55 PM

My friend,my thoughts and feelings are with you, and I understand and have experienced the same. My gut tells me that we, those of us who question, know there is a better way, and wrestle, struggle with becoming vulnerable, open, fearless..but indeed
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Jump to new posts Re: Was I an adult or a child by LMG @ 03/28/15 02:00 PM

Thank you so much for the support Nothing Man I have all the same symptoms and am currently seeing a therapist. I hope one day I will feel calm inside and the people on this site are helping me.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Diseased child by bey @ 03/28/15 01:40 PM

I wish I had answers. I guess I can admit that I am flawed, as my parents were flawed, and I am broken, as they were broken, and i have made mistakes as they made mistakes. But I am not like them. I do not do what they did. I guess I find some r
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Diseased child by iaccus @ 03/28/15 01:29 PM

I just cant get past it, the feeling that I am a diseased person, the product of two diseased people. As a survivor of both my parents sexual abuse over a period of years I try to be logical. Unfortunately logic leads me over and over again to conclu
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: One big question by Mishka95673 @ 03/28/15 11:42 AM

How about instead of saying you already knew, which might make him paranoid his intimate secrets are on display for the world to see, you say something like "nothing he has been through or he shares with you will change the level of your respect
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Input from female partners of survivors wanted by Mishka95673 @ 03/28/15 11:39 AM

Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Ups Downs Forward Backward by KMCINVA @ 03/28/15 10:44 AM

Paul I did not believe your brother was a sociopath. As you said he has some personality issues to work on. I can relate to your writings, I see it and have lived some of it, and I believe there are more families out there with issues but they are
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