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Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Used Porn as a release by Serious Dave @ 05/01/15 11:58 AM

""real life" sexuality is no longer sufficiently stimulating." I found this true for me in that it got to the point where I would rather MB with porn than have sex with my wife. That became a problem because sometimes she would
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Jump to new posts Re: stuck dont know where to go by bluesky @ 05/01/15 11:56 AM

Mark I would like to share that I think you are growing you are becoming the person that you envision just by sharing by being willing to reach out here for support. what has worked for me many times is to forgive my self for what I think is failu
Poetry
Jump to new posts Sleeping Death by bluesky @ 05/01/15 11:05 AM

Sleeping Death There is no rhythm, no rhyme so it may seem. It fell upon me, its a crime. Leaving destruction and pain. Tears fall like leaves to the ground. Leaving the tree bare stark in its beauty. Leaving me bare shedding the old pain. Winter
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Used Porn as a release by Jay1946 @ 05/01/15 10:50 AM

Originally Posted By: Austin54 I feel it is in a grey area of being unfaithful. I will probably have to do that this weekend as Wifey is away. My most challenging and difficult times are when my wife is away and I have the house to myself. If I
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Jump to new posts Re: stuck dont know where to go by Serious Dave @ 05/01/15 10:19 AM

Mark, I have done or felt like almost everything you list. You are definitely not alone in your struggle. You have found a place where you can say what you need to say and you will receive support from those who understand exactly how you think an
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by lapchinj @ 05/01/15 09:39 AM

What irks me is that I have to say good morning to them and wish them a good night. Otherwise all hell breaks loose. I really don't know why that bothers me so much. Last night we celebrated my father's 100th birthday which was April 3. my kids and
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Jump to new posts Re: I am falling apart by bluesky @ 05/01/15 09:26 AM

Thank you all for your concern and care it means a lot and gives me strength. Mark the question you ask is a good one and I think about it a lot and I feel dishonest about it. But I feel like I am a failure and a bad little boy. So I don't tell hi
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: The Gift by Scott1962 @ 05/01/15 08:48 AM

Excellent job Alex
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Jump to new posts Re: stuck dont know where to go by KMCINVA @ 05/01/15 08:48 AM

Mark954 You need to surround yourself with kind people, you need to look at them as being there for you. You cannot do the journey alone. You have recognized your issues, a major step in the right direction. I can tell you when someone who stood b
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Jump to new posts Re: I am falling apart by KMCINVA @ 05/01/15 07:52 AM

Great to hear it went well with the T.
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Jump to new posts stuck dont know where to go by Mark954 @ 05/01/15 07:51 AM

i'm feeling so helpless , i dont know what to do ,i can't seem to be able to finish any thing that i planed ,i leanred a lot about my self in therapy , and now i'm so comfused ,it seems that not only im punishing my self ..but i'm also punishing othe
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: home by Nothing Man @ 05/01/15 07:48 AM

Well done.
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Used Porn as a release by Nothing Man @ 05/01/15 07:40 AM

I think part of the reason why masturbation becomes a release for so many of us is that it allows us to find some sexual satisfaction without having to touch another and thus, according to dysfunctional thinking, harm another. It is a very safe way
Male Survivors
I was abused by my brother as well. He groomed me for sex by making it a game. I was 11 and he was 16. It lasted for four years. I did not realize it was abuse until last fall, when I was 54. The best thing I have done is started to work with a quali
Male Survivors
Trying to live, I think you are stronger than you might think. I am not an expert, but whatever happened to your brother- if I was you I would tell him that I remembered ALL the abuse and tell him how messed up you are- hoe he I responsible for you
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Used Porn as a release by Austin54 @ 05/01/15 02:26 AM

Porn for me was/is an addiction.. wasting countless hours and entire nights. I have been married for 35 years and I also feel it is in a grey area of being unfaithful. I have been dry for two months now, and this site really does help. Horrible degr
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: SSA and my best friend by Austin54 @ 05/01/15 02:09 AM

Hi Inside, I really do admire your restraint! What feels good physically is not necessarily good for you emotionally or spiritually. I think that a lot depends on what your long-term future goals are: if you want to marry and settle down and r
Family and Friends
I took about a week between reading this to weigh in. I want to affirm any partner reading the archives that the lies are destructive and destabilizing. They set back any progress made in repairing already fragile and damaged relationships. Whether o
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Jump to new posts Re: Gunstore with special pricetags by victor-victim @ 05/01/15 01:02 AM

like, i got a leather jacket and a tattoo, i must be a criminal. profiling and prejudice and parody. was this a public service announcement? the outlaws i knew had no respect or regard for the laws. the gun shop commercial was certainly well do
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Jump to new posts Re: These people! by Still @ 05/01/15 12:10 AM

what are the "myths?"
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Jump to new posts Re: Gunstore with special pricetags by Still @ 05/01/15 12:08 AM

I'm not "getting" something here. Is this an invitation to debate? Is it an assumed consensus? I can't even discern if these messages are pro or against personal carriage of firearms? The bit about Massachusetts and "surroundin
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts just some thoughts about my situation (triggers) by Tryingtolive @ 05/01/15 12:07 AM

Did I want it? Why did I enjoy it sometimes ? Did I lead it on ? It's like my mind is telling me 2 different things .. 1 side of it that I want to hear and the other knows the truth about what happen.... I can't remember the exact details of it ..
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: SSA and my best friend by InsideTheWall @ 04/30/15 10:58 PM

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Jump to new posts Re: I am falling apart by kcinohio @ 04/30/15 10:58 PM

Glad you session with your T went so well. Hope you pull through this difficult time soon.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: home by kcinohio @ 04/30/15 10:45 PM

Nice one. thanks.
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