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Jump to new posts Re: Forced to be a child by kcinohio @ 07/28/14 07:28 PM

In my experience, one can only mature from where one is at. If emotionally 15 despite the number on my I.D., I couldn't expect to be emotionally 35 in 2 years time. I could expect while being as responsible as I was able to progress from emotionally
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Jump to new posts Re: It's time by kcinohio @ 07/28/14 07:09 PM

Thanks Houseofcards for your intro. Hope you do find MS helpful. Personally, I feel it has helped alleviate some of that sense of isolation, but I agree, a whole toolbox is in order for dealing with this stuff.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Perp apologizing - Your relationship afterwards by Chase Eric @ 07/28/14 06:06 PM

The truest sincerity is an apology you give without expectation of forgiveness. An apology is a deeply personal decision that reflects the greatest strength of a man's character. Forgiveness is a grace completely at the option of those we apologize
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Perp apologizing - Your relationship afterwards by blockade @ 07/28/14 05:24 PM

This might have only affected a minority on here but have any of you had a perp apologize to you? and how\what was your relationship after? I am still struggling with passing on some of my own csa to my brother and I am still working up the courage\
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ouch! by bluesky @ 07/28/14 05:16 PM

(((((Victor))))) I find that you are so awesome even how you describe the details like poetry, I don't think you meant it but you are so eloquent in the way you tell your story. I want you to know that I really enjoy you works here and give you me a
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Jump to new posts Re: TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!!! by GoodSamaritan @ 07/28/14 05:13 PM

Happy Birthday Harry! Ah, to be a youth of thirty three again! Tom R.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Compensation by Bluedogone @ 07/28/14 04:47 PM

Congratulations on the follow through and success. That's good news. It would be even more of a just victory if the perps had to provide all the money. Now, all the therapy that may be needed in the future is assured. I suppose it's only natural to
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: The small kindnesses by Greg56 @ 07/28/14 04:44 PM

I can really relate to the isolation part of your statement. I too should have gone shopping for food today. I've decided to "go tomorrow"...something that I usually do, when it comes to leaving my home. I'm not sure what started this is
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Compensation by don64 @ 07/28/14 04:27 PM

Hi Kevin, I'm happy your efforts have been rewarded, and happy for the message the ruling sends, and the effect the ruling has on building momentum and supporting our cause. For me, I have learned to take statements such as "feel badly about i
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts The small kindnesses by dark empathy @ 07/28/14 04:06 PM

I haven't had a good few days. things haven't been bad, but I can't say things have been well either. I've been cold, full of dullness and ice. Today, I should've gone shopping, but didn't, the hour's walk plus the need to deal with people just felt
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: It's time by Bluedogone @ 07/28/14 03:26 PM

Hi HouseofCards, and welcome. You've hit on two key words that so many of us on MS have dealt with - repressed and denied. I think my biggest breakthrough came when I discovered that on this site it was no longer necessary to deny or repress and to
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Do I have to forgive? by unhappycamper @ 07/28/14 02:35 PM

@wild_turky: Me too. Forgiveness is a relationship with the perp, and I don't want that. I don't even know who he was. Meanwhile, peace! John
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Anyone here who is currently writing a book? by unhappycamper @ 07/28/14 02:32 PM

Fifteen years ago, I tried writing a private narrative of what happened 40 years earlier, but I couldn't go through with it. I haven't tried since. John
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: New by JCEldrid @ 07/28/14 02:21 PM

A better welcome I could not have imagined. Thank you all for your support and encouragement. Surely with such comraderie and a bit of faith it will be a road built with equals, nay friends, and the journey is off to a positive start. Thank you al
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Simply: how the hell do I do this? by gaatt @ 07/28/14 01:13 PM

Originally Posted By: fhornsPeople admitting it is really rare for public admission. Yes, I've experienced that too. This forum is a rare exception. Yes, its a gift to me too. Did you see Pufferfish's link on the "Effects of Covert Child Abuse&q
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Effects of Covert child sexual abuse by gaatt @ 07/28/14 01:05 PM

HI Pufferfish, Thanks! This is good, no GREAT stuff! Thanks for bringing it to my attention. Sincerely, GAATT
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Guilt anyone? by gaatt @ 07/28/14 12:56 PM

Originally Posted By: fhornsPeople don't know my story ONLY since I've never shared it. Question: where might I disclose this commitment? Hi fhorns, Looks like you've already mentioned it to us. I see there is a survivor stories forum here. If y
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Guilt anyone? by gaatt @ 07/28/14 12:45 PM

HI Don, I was going to quote your message but then realized I'd be quoting the whole thing. Thank-you SOOOO MUCH. It touched me deeply. I think I've been struggling with the fear of stepping back and no longer taking on her emotional neediness. It
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: I give them all my power by gaatt @ 07/28/14 12:32 PM

Originally Posted By: Don64"For me, unfortunately, I frequently have to precipitate some mental or physical crisis to get over the fear of change." Me too! I've had severe physical illness for many years now. The connection to the way I re
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Wondering if I'm alone by gaatt @ 07/28/14 12:24 PM

Hi Fhorns, Sometimes, and particularly strongly these days, I want to be alone. I'm tired of looking for people who have some interest in my healing related needs (I understand that non-sexual touch in a safe social environment is helpful. Finding s
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Compensation by Adam A Gedman @ 07/28/14 12:18 PM

Hey all, Thought I would revive this old post because, I did it. I filled out the application, collected my receipts Participated in completing the therapist report, with my T and just this past week, I testified on my own behalf. The testimony wa
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Jump to new posts Re: TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!!! by victor-victim @ 07/28/14 09:25 AM

Poetry
Jump to new posts Another Man's Crime by victor-victim @ 07/28/14 09:20 AM

came across this survivor poetry and i wanted to share it here. it is disturbing and may trigger so please be careful. Another Man's Crime I didn't have a choice He forced his way into me Innocence stolen by the thief Stained with the remains of
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Sharing an interesting long term friendship by SamV @ 07/28/14 08:48 AM

Rhett and Link are a couple of guys who do a talk show on Youtube. These two have been friends since 1st grade and share their relationship with their listeners. I have often wondered what a healthy, supportive friendship would be like and have vicar
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Jump to new posts Re: TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!!! by traveler @ 07/28/14 07:05 AM

happy birthday, Harry! i hope this year brings better things to you. Lee
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