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Thanks guys... Reading it again today it was somewhat disconcerting to realize there was this side to me...I wish there wasn't such negativity but I guess it needed to be addressed. About sending it - think they'd ask me why I used the same rhyme t
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Introductions
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Originally Posted By: pnutbttrjlly1 - Has anybody been shunned by a friend when you discussed your story with them? And how did you salvage the relationship or not? (I'm also anxious, because he may not have even read it yet.) Yes, sadly it happens
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Male Survivors
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Matt, I don't have much to offer. I'm really sorry you had to go through all of this. If you are really searching for that answer, simplistically, I would say it was profound envy and jealousy on part of your perpetrator that motivated him to brutall
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Originally Posted By: lapchinj Thanks for the pic, it puts a face to the abuse and shows a normal kid trying to live life all the while he was trying to grow up. Thanks, lapchinj. The pic also shows a kid eating Chef Boyardee Ravioli. That's funn
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These are some amazing replies. Thanks so much guys. Originally Posted By: GT13568Do you mean like a deferral, Husky? Like focusing outward to something one can't save, instead of taking care of the manageable (hopefully) business of saving oneself
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Introductions
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Hey pnutbttrjlly, welcome. Sounds like you've already done some good work in figuring things out. That's great. As far as your questions . . . all I can say for all of them is "yes, and still working on it!" I've had friends who weren'
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Hey learning, That's pretty brave of you to post your picture and thanks for adding to the collection. When I came to the site I was also paranoid about putting up my face and I changed it a few times. All my pictures from 10-18 were not so nice but
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Originally Posted By: ShysharkBF ... you're not a vampire ... you're a ham! You have no idea.... At age 12. Summer of 1987... Oh, and by the way, in another thread I just mentioned that I have a somewhat twisted and depraved sense of humor. Yea
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**applause**
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You have nothing to be ashamed of. You survived. You are strong. This was hard for me to read so I apologize if I missed it, but the abusive relationship is entirely over now, right? Then you are even stronger. Focus on what is different now fr
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Male Survivors
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I think it is not just that nothing is sacred. Somethings are not funny in this culture. The idea of a woman getting raped is very rarely seen as funny, and when someone tries to joke about it, they get ridiculed by the media and by fellow comedian
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Thank you for the reply. Im just getting frustrated with myself
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When I went to this thread, I wasn't expecting it to be about photos. I NEVER thought I'd post my own, but I am. I'm 13 in this photo, in my favouriteshirt at the time. Outside of thr frame in this cropped shot is my abuser. Itscares me to compromise
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Hey txb, I also don't have many happy pictures of me but any picture of anyone I see here is not stupid. It shows a picture of a kid who wanted to be just a kid and at some point took a turn for the worse. Sorry I missed the pic when it did go up.
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hey pnutbttrjlly the questions you ask are all very common ones and I am sure that many here have wrestled with them. for me personally I can answer a couple from my experiences 1 - Has anybody been shunned by a friend when you discussed your story w
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Yes, Fabio. There is nothing in my area.
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I made it for approximately 24 hrs before I deleted. Was a big move to just post ....and Jacob, thanks for the words of wisdom and support. I can't answer the question immediately, but I have seen the past behaviors. Rationally, I think yo
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Matt, I struggle to come up with any adequate words I can offer to help you answer this question. That part of us that sees a child as a beautiful, trusting, innocent person must have been dead and gone inside this man. For you, a loving father and
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Male Survivors
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BF ... you're not a vampire ... you're a ham! lol
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To tough to respond, Matt, but wanted you to know I also hear you. Your story does trigger and I am so very sorry and you are right... you are safe now. b
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Some days I feel like I know myself very well. Other days I don’t recognize myself at all. I don’t act like the man who wants to be truly loved. I say I want a loving and honest friendship but I pervert my friendships and seem to always find a way to
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Male Survivors
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Hi Matt. Why did he hurt you? This Mr. L was an opportunistic sexual predator. When he had you in that situation, I don't believe he saw little Matt, or even saw a person before him at all. He only saw a fleeting opportunity to act on his sick compu
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Live life the way u want so when u get old you'll be saying remember when instead of what if!
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Matt, Howl away, man! Get it out there. You may never know the answers to those questions you are asking. But, that doesn't mean they shouldn't be asked and put out there to the universe. I have been right where you are, asking those same quest
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Male Survivors
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Hi Bill. Thanks for taking the time to read and reply to my post. As I feared, it obviously didn't really resonate with anybody but that's ok. I didn't really expect it to. I'm kind of a freak and there are certain things that go on with me that are
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