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Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Family members who were abused&comfort by Kitty6 @ 09/01/14 03:49 AM

Hi, I was just curious as to survivors or family and friends who had had similar info told to them. I wasn't sure that there would be any specific data showing this as a "fact". I sometimes forget that I actually need to talk about things
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I had a set back this week by 1lifenow @ 09/01/14 03:42 AM

Its a tough thing when you feel your body and emotions betray you without you being able to stop it. I wonder if it was the touch that was unexpected or the lack of control. I dont think it was the pain you felt but the remembrance of a distant cal
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: JUST made contact with first abuser...*TRIGGERS!* by VASurvivor @ 09/01/14 12:56 AM

Thank you for saying that Castle - I second it. I would only confront with support. I am grateful for a wonderful therapist, whom I have been seeing for 2 years (an many more therapists before that). And yes, there will a whole lot to talk about
Male Survivors
While I'm happy this worked out for you I would caution others reading this to work with a trained therapist when confronting a perpetrator. You want to be prepared and have a good support network for the varying outcomes that can happen. Confronta
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: A new chapter in my sex life. by NoSimpleMachine @ 08/31/14 10:25 PM

Love it! So happy for you
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by justplainme @ 08/31/14 08:53 PM

We also have to many concepts and beliefs in society of what not being a man is, instead of what being one is. The real question is . . . What kind of a man are you?
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts A new chapter in my sex life. by justplainme @ 08/31/14 08:29 PM

I had sex with my beautiful girl and did not think about the abuse for one second, i was too involved in our lovemaking, i hope this can restore faith in all of you who have suffered PTSD with flashbacks during sex. Rape flashbacks are like a virus c
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My relationship towards my self by justplainme @ 08/31/14 08:26 PM

Thank you all for your marvelous insights
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My regret is growing everyday by justplainme @ 08/31/14 08:25 PM

My brother acted out on me as well, and all i can say from my experience is do not pressure anything, it is only he that can give you permission to be a part of his life again, trust is not something easy to regain. The pain you must be carrying. .
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by justplainme @ 08/31/14 08:20 PM

Being masculine is being yourself. I used to work on myself and seek healing based under the premise that i was somehow defective in my masculinity. Only with time did i understand that there was nothing wrong with me, what was wrong was men betrayin
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts My regret is growing everyday by blockade @ 08/31/14 07:13 PM

I've made peace of sorts when it comes to my own own abuse but I acted out on my brother when around 14. I forgot about that fact until about last year and now I am watching him suffer from the affects of my actions. My mother is struggling to commu
Family and Friends
I want to scream AMEN!! I am a spouse of a survivor of incest...cruelty to children ( cruel is with intent, mean is as we all can be at one time) I am a step parent to children that were made to chose. ..which only produces loss..death, alcoholism, p
Survivor Stories
Jump to new posts Writings, 2011-2012 by NoSimpleMachine @ 08/31/14 06:41 PM

So I re-found a whole collection of writings I did in 2011-2012...basically my first year and a half living out of state (I'm a Californian born and raised, lived in the same city through high school when I then went to a college a few hours away for
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Teen boys want TRUST relationship, not just sex by learning2remember @ 08/31/14 04:24 PM
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Why Are Families Selfish and Harm Children by sorryson @ 08/31/14 03:37 PM

I was searching for my abuser today. I saw on the headlines a story about the Gosslings fighting over visitation of the children. Why must adults cause so many problems for the children. The children need both parents. Parents can be selfish and I g
Male Survivors
That took a lot of courage. After I read what you had done I did a search on the net for my abuser. I had never thought of finding him. I found 2 people with his name, both priests. So it could be either one. I need to find out more about them. I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I had a set back this week by sorryson @ 08/31/14 03:19 PM

Take care of yourself. I know I have thinks that make me feel the little boy with the teacher and then I have those bad nightmares. I know you can make it through and the nightmares will pass. It sucks with what the abuser left us with and so many
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: aniversery by sorryson @ 08/31/14 03:15 PM

I am sorry this day brings back so many bad memories. The anniverary of abuse is terrible. I hope you have people with you to help you through it. We will be thinking of you. P.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by VASurvivor @ 08/31/14 12:16 PM

hm. yes dark_empathy. i've had that experience as well.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Another update Concerned_husky by Bluedogone @ 08/31/14 12:08 PM

Sounds good, bluesky & Sven. Thanks
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Another update Concerned_husky by Sven @ 08/31/14 10:16 AM

He's been in chat a couple of times, but haven't seen him for a while. But I'm not in chat 24/7 anymore so might have missed him. He seemed ok.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Another update Concerned_husky by bluesky @ 08/31/14 09:50 AM

I was in touch with a buddy that said he was visiting with him. He did not give me any details but from what I gathered I think he is getting some needed rest. I hope that he will be ok . (((((Hugs ))))) to all.
Male Survivors
Hey VA At least you freed up your mind from constantly thinking about those incidents. The constant thinking about what happened and then putting to rest that period of your life, you never expected the outcome to be so favorable and that's why the
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Decision by focusedbody @ 08/31/14 08:32 AM

Vedder: Sounds like you are caught between a rock and a hard place. What is always important in these situations is taking care of yourself. A dilemma that for me has been ongoing. Even though being with certain people can be difficult, I would
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: being touched by newground @ 08/31/14 08:17 AM

sometimes when that happens and the touch is uncomfortable, I just take my wifes hand off and then just hold her hand. she likes that and it gets stares and even comments sometimes because its so "cute" but in the mean time I can not crawl
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