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Hey onlyakid! I think each of us has a different story and explanation, but my own understanding from my own experience, is that as an adult, one can look back and fully grasp what was going on. Many of us only feel the affects (or acknowledge them
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forgive777, welcome . I was abused at 6 for 6 years by my dad. i started therapy about a year ago. it's been difficult, challenging, painful at times. but i can say that I am no longer living inside my head, it's been the best time of my life
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** Possible triggers** Just the idea of young teens (12-13ish), thinking about sex, and girls and boobs triggers me. It gives me shame and anxiety in that maybe what happened between me and my brother when I was 13 (he was 16 1/2) wasn't abuse. Mayb
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BuffaloCO, A lot of good advice in this thread. While I can understand your hesitation about possibly restarting a bad dynamic with your family, the real question is "are they supportive now?" Because if they are, and if you think it wou
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Introductions
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GB, welcome to the site. Your T sounds like mine and he does not let me dodge anything either, but gently and safely guides me through it. There are things I don't get, but I'm making progress. I've been here since last July and I've found love, s
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Male Survivors
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That sucks to hear. I live in a metro area, and the nearest mega theater complex is like 3 blocks away. The second largest is 10 blocks away. I'm glad I made the decision to move here, sometimes. But I suffer incredibly because of how chronically l
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Male Survivors
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I suffer from severe isolation, too. I don't click with anyone. The last good friend I had was over 10 years ago. I've been severely lonely ever since. I don't know why I can't click with others. A former sponsor tried to convince me it is because
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Male Survivors
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Had a few dreams last night. In 1 of them, I found myself complimenting myself; about how intelligent and funny and sexy I was. WTF!? I've never had a dream like that before. But it felt "normal" / "natural" within the context
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I'll give an unscientific response Bobby and it's only my own unprofessional opinion. But I do have a little experience. First, if the test was only expired two months, I'd say the result was likely accurate anyway. The anonymous screening would b
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Male Survivors
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Every time you subtract negative from your life, You make more room for POSITIVE!
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BuffaloCo I envy you in having the ability to tell you parents. My father told me a story as I was driving him back from dialysis about 8 years ago of having coffee with friends. He told me one father told of his two sons who were altar boys and ha
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Male Survivors
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All your reasons are sound. This is a huge thing in your life, and you are honoring them by letting them know you, know your struggles. If the relationship with your family has any meaningful substance, it will stand up to the truth. If you are ke
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Family disclosure is always a scary thing. Your motives are pure though... to help connect the pieces of who you are. To help understand you and in turn relieve you of a secret that wasn't yours to hold. Your looking for comfort and understa
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Buffalo, Congratulations on making the decision to tell your parents. It sounds like you've put considerable time into contemplating your reasons for wanting to tell them, plus you've pondered how you will tell them. This is a big step in your re
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Male Survivors
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I've never told my family so I don't have much to offer, but I know some people have sent them a letter or email or called to say they have something they need to talk about, this gives them some time to mentally prepare for what it might be so it's
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Male Survivors
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Another scary thing, it seems like when we are all together it's for some special event like a wedding. This kind of news could ruin that.
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Male Survivors
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Last July I signed up, feeling trapped and alone and did not have a T. Since then I got one and that's helped big time, along with talking to people here. Now I'm at a place where I feel inside it's time to tell my family. At home, I got verbal an
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Male Survivors
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I looked for this post a couple of days ago and just couldn't locate it. Wanted to post my own list of favorite things from childhood. And then this morning....there it was again. Here is mine. What I Loved: First covering of snowfall Halloween
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Male Survivors
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Paul was a good man.. always had something positive to say. He loved his family and many men here. It's never too late to figure this stuff out and get some good out of life. May his memory live strong in the hearts of his friends and famil
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Hi Dan. I'm really sorry to read your story, that is indeed terrible and I do hope you can start on recovery. Well firstly, as regards getting angry and triggered by others stories, that's to be honest a reaction I've had myself. I came onto this s
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Thanks Publius. I like the reminder of the idea of the emotional self playing catch up. And since I have a new position at work, I'm probably more concerned about what others think of me there than usual. I probably need to remember to give time ti
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I'm actually quite jealous there Magellan. The nearest cinemar to me is in Newcastle, which is about an hour's commute away with one train and two taxies and would cost me about £12 for the journey. I really wish there still was! a cinemar in Durham
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Hi Dan. Firstly, have you considdered going part time with your course? I'm just finishing the final corrections for a doctorate at the moment, and after I crashed in 2007, found I couldn't work whatever the heck I did due to the depression, nightm
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HIV/AIDS
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Behavior (last July)...Thanks for responding...I suppose I can't rely on the results of that test...Are there symptoms I should be looking for?
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Introductions
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Welcome GB, Glad you made it here. MS makes life a little easier by giving you a place to express your experiences, thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement. Because we've all been through it, we all get it. So congratulations, you've just go
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