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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: depressed .. Isolated .. Anxiety ....more rambling by Nothing Man @ 05/23/15 08:17 AM

Tryingtolive, you are absolutely not alone. Many of us have felt exactly as you do right now. Please try to remember that your abuse did not just happen, your brother chose to do it to you. Children cannot consent, they can only comply, and having
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Difficult Day, Terrible Thoughts by sorryson @ 05/23/15 07:22 AM

Banterings that was beautiful. He has helped so many here. I just hope they have not pushed him into one of those dissociative episodes where he disappears for a few days. I know his family took delight in putting him in those conditions, we loved t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: depressed .. Isolated .. Anxiety ....more rambling by manipulated @ 05/23/15 07:01 AM

Trying, You are among friends here. I, and many others have been in the darkness too. Please feel free to post what you feel. It helps to get it out and NO ONE here doubts you, or the abuse. Your brother violated your youth and it is a big deal. I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts depressed .. Isolated .. Anxiety ....more rambling by Tryingtolive @ 05/23/15 04:49 AM

Still haven't really improved on any of these symptoms ... . I'll have a really good day I'm motivated and my mind is clear and the next I'm a different person . A different mind set . I have days where All I want to do is sleep then I have days whe
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Duggars and the minimization of Incest & Abuse by tbkkfile @ 05/23/15 01:50 AM

For anyone interested in what a politician thinks scroll down https://www.facebook.com/mikehuckabee?fref=nf
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Difficult Day, Terrible Thoughts by banterings @ 05/23/15 12:02 AM

Kevin, I know that you are checking this thread looking for a hand to pull you out of that dark place that you are in. I know this because I have been there before. We all have. I too was having a bad day and came to Male Survivors to post because
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: survivors forgiving perps need not be swift by Mishka95673 @ 05/23/15 12:01 AM

Wow...you went through hell. I am so glad to see how well you have worked your way through it - very inspirational. Thanks for sharing.
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Guided Imagery/Affirmations? by focusedbody @ 05/22/15 11:58 PM

Gaatt: Wendy Maltz's book "The Sexual Healing Journey" has a good list of ways to think about sex that are healthy. I'm not sure they are affirmations exactly, but they do help guide one's thinking in a good direction. I think I have als
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: survivors forgiving perps need not be swift by victor-victim @ 05/22/15 10:01 PM

i, too, believe that i understand forgiveness. this is my own experience. full of triggers and trauma! READ AT YOUR OWN RISK! Healing Through Forgiveness http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...2551#Post432551 (all comments are welcome)
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Difficult Day, Terrible Thoughts by sorryson @ 05/22/15 09:43 PM

If anyone hears from Kevin please let me know. His email, we had given each other emails when we met at another site dealing with PSA. We used it this week and today when I emailed it was returned unknown recipient. I am concerned. I showed my sist
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: survivors forgiving perps need not be swift by Mishka95673 @ 05/22/15 08:55 PM

Great post Victor! I understand forgiveness. It took me 25 years to forgive someone for something stupid she did as a teenager (had a one night stand with my boyfriend at the time). She is back in my life but I keep her at a distance; we are too dif
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: visions/flashbacks poss. triggers be warned by Bluedogone @ 05/22/15 08:48 PM

Hi betrayed boy, Sorry to hear you're having these flashbacks. Unfortunately, they happen too often, and it's almost like going through the abuse all over again. I'm always so glad when they're over, and I can get grounded in the reality of NOW. I
Male Survivors
Unfortunately not all that uncommon, such flashbacks.. Have had plenty myself both about things i had and hadn't forgotten about.Take your time writing this out... Doesn't have to be all at once Take care BB!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ouch again! by txb @ 05/22/15 06:28 PM

I had surgery on my hand to repair tendons and it was done with some kind of a block anaesthetic. They injected it into the top of my arm. Maybe you could ask them about that? I think they probably prefer people to be under general anaesthetic becaus
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts visions/flashbacks poss. triggers be warned by betrayed boy @ 05/22/15 06:14 PM

a month or so ago I had my 1st flashback during HC, it was so very shocking to me, now I've had a couple more centered around my abuse (sexual) around 1964-1966, in all of them I was like a 3rd party watching myself in them, powerless to do anythin
U.S. & World News
They just cancelled the show, you can read that here. http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/201...m-tlc-schedule/
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ouch again! by bluesky @ 05/22/15 05:25 PM

VV My prayers and my thoughts are with you. I hope that the surgery gos well and that the angel Rafael be with you and bring you health and healing from the one above.
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Free on-line healing journey coming up June 10 by gaatt @ 05/22/15 04:16 PM

Hi Guys, I thought that this free on-line healing journey event might interest some of you. I have no idea how good it will be but am checking it out for myself. It was developed by Brandon Bayes and is hosted by the Mentor's Channel. It starts Ju
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts .gay for me. by Sterling @ 05/22/15 03:40 PM

why do I have to be gay. I feel angry. I feel ugly. I never have had a girlfriend. I remember jenny st. ___ I had a crush on her. But I didn't know who I was, and b/c of him (sperm-donor) - I feel so scared. Fascinating I have this fear and i
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Duggars and the minimization of Incest & Abuse by Nothing Man @ 05/22/15 03:01 PM

Yeah, Josh Duggar said that his god had forgiven him so all is good. Nice for him. I wonder if his victims have forgiven him yet.
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Husky's Piano Lounge by Nothing Man @ 05/22/15 03:00 PM

I love listening to the piano and I must confess that on those occasions I have to drive a truck, I have a fistful of piano CDs that I play. This is very nice.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I got a conviction against my abuser Today. by victor-victim @ 05/22/15 02:59 PM

Dear taking it slow. Thanks for the update. Sometimes life just don't seem fair. Karma is slow and justice is rare. Always need to hear positive news. I am happy you are happy with the outcome. Day by day, a new life begins for you. Embrace
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: 50 somthing and trying to grow up by Magellan @ 05/22/15 02:27 PM

Almost exactly the same boat. I used to be very loud about my desparation, and developed some horrible coping mechanisms in the past. I became controlling and abusive in an effort to get my own needs met. Once I realized I was doing that, I stopped
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: 50 somthing and trying to grow up by Winhamness @ 05/22/15 02:05 PM

Hi there, I just want you to know you are not alone with those feelings. I struggle to connect with others as well. I am too busy hiding the things in myself I think they would disapprove of to make true connections. It makes life very difficult
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: survivors forgiving perps need not be swift by victor-victim @ 05/22/15 01:34 PM

In my case, I was raped in 1977 and was full of hate until 2011. it took me that long to forgive. I was not ready. I did not want to. I was unable to consider it. The very idea was infuriating. I refused to consider or discuss forgiveness.
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