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Jump to new posts Not dealing with it (again) by Bardo @ 10/25/14 02:41 PM

Hi guys, This site has been a great help me so far, in the few weeks that I have been here. I am in the early stages of understanding the impact of the abuse that I suffered at the hands of my older brother (described in other posts), and I have been
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Pushy People and Boundaries by concerned_husky @ 10/25/14 02:34 PM

Hey guys, Thanks for the responses. I've been meaning to get back into contributing on MS again but it's been hard to "get back in the groove" I guess, especially after I took about a month's break from here. Sorry for responding so late.
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: more high school football "hazing" by KMCINVA @ 10/25/14 02:05 PM

I would venture to guess hazing has been apart of the culture for decades. Many of these so called "traditions" were just accepted and never spoken of. It is sad so much abuse has been swept under the rug. No one ever thought of the effect
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Naive optimism or realism by dark empathy @ 10/25/14 05:25 AM

@Bluedogone, I use the phrase "the collective!" to mean culture as a hole, those forces that are not controllable. I don't think there is a huge conspiracy behind everything as I said, but increasingly we live in a world where individuals m
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Creative Full Stop by dark empathy @ 10/25/14 04:41 AM

Hi Bloom and welcome. I very much understand this feeling. I've been at university trying to complete a doctorate in philosophy for the last 7 years, and have also maintained a high level interest and practice of voice and performance, indeed writ
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: more high school football "hazing" by traveler @ 10/25/14 03:09 AM

Originally Posted By: tbkkfileThose that stay quiet provide encouragement and validation to those who carry it out. YES! That is exactly how it was with me. i now realize that those who actually perpetrated the abuse and bullying when i was in sch
Humor
Jump to new posts Eternal Consequences For Men.... by Jude @ 10/25/14 01:51 AM

Takes a minute or two to get it.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by finallyhere @ 10/25/14 01:23 AM

Sorry son- I can't help but be encouraged by your strength and at the same time happy for the progress you all are making. Your words "because adults are more childlike than children" speaks volumes about how some people never grow into th
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Starting recovery by finallyhere @ 10/25/14 01:03 AM

Anura - welcome. Several similarities exist in our stories. You though are ahead of me by posting yours. Good job. I too was 12 when a new friend came on to me. I thought we were just wrestling around. It was exciting, after all my brother never show
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: Nightmares by kcinohio @ 10/25/14 12:36 AM

tw, hard to know whether something's triggering that ongoing or you're just in the thick of something from your post. Challenging time of year media-advertising wise for that right now, but should be past that in a couple of weeks. Maybe if you sh
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Creative Full Stop by kcinohio @ 10/25/14 12:26 AM

Good topic. I found I could try something new or different where I wasn't expecting anything of myself (for me, was drawing at one difficult time). Got at things in a different way. I can write decently enough, but not very talented in drawing, so I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Creative Full Stop by tbkkfile @ 10/25/14 12:16 AM

Hi Bloom, first of all welcome. I was a professional musician for a number of years and ended up having what I now know was a breakdown which ended my career, 44 years on and I'm now trying to heal from the trauma that I suffered as an 11 year old.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Creative Full Stop by Jacob S @ 10/24/14 11:49 PM

A powerful exercise for me has been to try to get out of your own head. Describe the experience from the point of view of someone coming upon it with no prior knowledge. That can help to strip away the negative self-talk and the preconceptions. My
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by sorryson @ 10/24/14 10:38 PM

Today we had another family session. I was reluctant to go but Mama had promised she would be honest and open. Knowing her I was skeptical she would resort to her old ways. I was in shock she did not, I guess you can teach old dogs new tricks, jus
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by lapchinj @ 10/24/14 10:18 PM

Hey txb If you go to a restaurant and spill something on the floor the waiter is not supposed to call you an idiot he is there to treat you like he would treat anyone else. I've been having a 3 year battle with cutting. I haven't cut in around the p
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Does ssa feelings ever go away ? by don64 @ 10/24/14 07:46 PM

Hi Wiresguy1, Congratulations on getting to a place where you can begin to uncover your abuse, and begin to release it and make sense of the consequences of it. The only answer that makes sense to me in your question "...is this all a part of
Male Survivors
Thank tbkkfile, Mike and Bloom. I feel the good vibrations you all are sending me. It makes me feel part of a family that sees me and values me. It's very special. Don
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Creative Full Stop by don64 @ 10/24/14 06:57 PM

Hi Bloom, My experience is the only avenue to fully embracing personal passion is working/walking through the trauma. My personal passion has been playing piano and singing for my whole life. BUT, it has been so blocked all my life. Now, in my 60
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Creative Full Stop by Bloom @ 10/24/14 06:22 PM

(Just for some background information, I'm a writer and dancer who's a year out of college, and the summer after I graduated I was raped by my boyfriend at the time.) Lately I've been struggling to know where my boundaries are within my creative pur
Male Survivors
Don, I can very much relate to your thoughts. I have found that with every step forward I take, I find myself feeling more of the original burden, if that makes sense. As I feel healthier and more stable it's as if my mind opens up a little more of
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Picking Up the Pieces by Bloom @ 10/24/14 05:58 PM

All of your well wishes are sincerely appreciated. I can definitely see how such an open and supportive community can lead to healing. It's still overwhelming at this point to process how this affects so many people, but I think coming here has been
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Picking Up the Pieces by KMCINVA @ 10/24/14 05:49 PM

Bloom Welcome and MS is a great resource. Share what and when you are comfortable. We are a group who understands your pain and hurt. We are not judgmental and aim to support all the people who come here. You have taken a brave step by joining and
Men Abused/Assaulted as Adults
Possible Triggers: So I got into it on twitter with Chris Anderson? on this topic, and I've noticed that since I last logged in some of the forum sections have had their names changed, in a good direction I might add. I'm posting here Chris because
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by txb @ 10/24/14 04:03 PM

JayBro, Iím sorry that you are feeling bad. I usually tell myself that porn is fake. The people are actors, not related, usually way older than they are pretending to be, they have agreed to do whatever it is, and are getting paid for it. Maybe it mi
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Picking Up the Pieces by Jay1159 @ 10/24/14 03:39 PM

Welcome Bloom. I'm sorry to hear of what you went through. I hope that you find the support and healing that you need to start. No one will judge you here.
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