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Thanks newground.
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Male Survivors
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Originally Posted By: siI'm not going to allow my anchor to drown me in the ocean, i'm not going to allow it to control my life and do what it wants with me. No, i'm going to take the anchor and make it make me stronger, i'm going to control the anch
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Good thoughts! Empathy is one strength we can reep from CSA. I remember in my late teens thinking once, "So now that these horrible things are in my past, things certainly can't get any worse then they were then." Although I don't always
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hey determined man I love that screen name and I can hear that in your writing too. I am so glad that you have found us here at MS though sorry you need to. we are very much a brotherhood here you will find support,encouragement, even some wisdom fro
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Quote:...it was you my sweet sweet boy who helped me see myself. This letter literally brought tears to my eyes. One just rolled down my cheek. Thank you thank you thank you...
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Lee, ((((Lee))))) As always, you're not alone. You have brothers the world over man. Lean on us. Jude
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You should learn as much as you can about his challenges but ultimately things will come down to his willingness to get help. Help, by the way, for guy is not always so easy to come by so it may be necessary for him to wade into that slowly. Online
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Originally Posted By: G-Scottall of the memories of the abuse I can't seem to block out as I did as a child. Many of us have managed to block out the memories for 30-40 years, and they wreaked havoc with our lives. You are to be commended for having
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Hey, Bert - Every once in awhile I read a post that I relate to quite deeply, and this is one such post. You speak to the very heart of why so many of us are here. You simply and eloquently said in a few short, emotive words what people have said
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Hi All, I am brand new to MS and am excited about being a member. I am a 48 year old male incest survivor and have struggled for a long time in finding support and resources. Finally, I found a wonderful therapist who specializes in male sexual a
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You are supposed to feel confusion and self-hate. Perps know how to activate male bodies, as sure as the doctor hitting your knee with that little hammer. He knew you'd feel this way and got off on your confusion. It is precisely why he did what h
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Quote: And warn everyone so that she is not molesting her own children and the students she's teaching (she works at an elementary school) I am surprised he doesn't have a problem with this.
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Welcome Kilo, We are here to support one another. No one among us is a therapist (well maybe one is) but we all kind of know what you've been through and how you feel about it. Post a little more detail and your buds here can respond. jude
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Maybe you can talk about the case in general terms and gently say something like "if anything like that ever happened to you please feel free to talk to me about it, I would be there for you" ....then drop it and see what happens. The chu
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Life is full of obstacles. You can turn around and give up, go around them, or rise above them!
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Matt, Welcome to MS. What a beautiful letter. We are here for you when you need us. Cant
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Lee, I'm so sorry that you weren't able to turn the page on your terms and on your timetable. Like Matt said, you and your wife have undoubtedly helped many kids by instilling skills and knowledge they need. It isn't cliche to say that teachers real
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Hi Forgive. You are not alone. When we get raped as boys, sometimes our bodies betray us and get aroused, even orgasm, while our minds know that what is happening to us is something we don't want. Then we experience confusion because we feel like
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Again thank you everyone. I have a plan and I'm at peace with it from all of your ideas. This will be another step forward now that my motive has changed, a way to keep building up with my family and inside me too.
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Thank you very much KMCINVA and John for your insight and advice- I appreciate it very much. I think I will try and talk with him without being confrontational in any way- and at the very least let him know I am always here for him no matter what. I
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Lee, You didn't leave because you thought it would teach you how to dance. You left because you weren't safe there. Because they hurt and betrayed you. And you deserve to be done with being unsafe, hurt, and betrayed. If you stayed it would happ
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Yes, Mattheal. A beautiful letter to your son. And you are a beautiful dad for loving him so. b
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CSA is probably the worst thing that has happened to me, largely because it is something that has happened to me that I couldn't really control, and not something that I involved myself in intentionally. Therefore, not only is it the worst thing that
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beautiful letter. i know you mean it. so will your son. my children were all the inspiration i needed for many years. they deserve everything we have, and stuff we don't have either. all i had to do was everything the opposite of my parents,
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T, I have learned more from you in the seven years you have been alive the anyone I have ever known. My Dad was not in the picture until I was 15, and I will probably always feel a hole in my heart for that absence. It's one of the reasons I want
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