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Jump to new posts Re: Another meltdown in church by manipulated @ 02/01/16 02:09 PM

abused9 you are not alone. I haven't been able to sit through a service for about two years without a meltdown. My abuser was not a priest or pastor (Formerly Evangelical Christian here) but WAS my scoutmaster, elder of my parents church, (which spo
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts "Mr. Wonder" Finally caught? by manipulated @ 02/01/16 02:02 PM

http://wreg.com/2016/01/31/kids-tv-show-host-mr-wonder-alleged-louisiana-pedophile-arrested-after-decades-long-search/\ If it is him how many other kids did you abuse AFTER skipping and just how hard were they looking for him or hoping he wouldn't s
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts BOWIEROCKS! :) by Sterling @ 02/01/16 01:55 PM

I read your post Bowierocks , it was recent . I copied and pasted it in my own email account. (I hope you don't mind this.- and I hope Malesurvivor doesn't mind me posting this . I couldn't find this, don't know if you removed this post.) the fol
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Another meltdown in church by KMCINVA @ 02/01/16 01:38 PM

Abused9 I seldom attend church I have a special friend and when she is back I will go with her. She makes me feel safe and keeps me in check. She is not here often and I do not go to church. I am not sure how I would be on my own now. I think I
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts A Phoenix Will Rise by KMCINVA @ 02/01/16 01:17 PM

Friends sent me the following youtube of "A Phoenix Will Rise" as they depart on their next venture. Kind words accompanied and I think we all a Phoenix waiting to Rise from the ashes of our abuses. We will break through that wall!!! https
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: H has now started Twink Porn- Worried by Sterling @ 02/01/16 01:10 PM

I have nothing to offer. I once caught my dad having a video clip of child porn. I felt disgusted for him! I hope other men , might share their thoughts, concerns. Enjoy your day karin4him. James
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: Everyday by Sterling @ 02/01/16 01:08 PM

yur persistent Tryingtolive. I don't have a plan either. But I look forward to hear your thoughts. Maybe your path is meant to be unpredictable ! James
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Another meltdown in church by Sterling @ 02/01/16 01:05 PM

What my T has told me...and it is slowly helping me is... "I know I am feeling anxious (or angry)...I have these voices. But if I look around me nothing or nobody is triggering my emotions right now. So then I am feeling emotions back when; a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: New Roommate is Triggering (trigger warning) by Sterling @ 02/01/16 12:59 PM

I don't know what I would do... this is what I might say to both husband and his cousin. "listen cousin-in-law , and husband.... I experienced some trauma. Because I am in another person's home ; I can get edgy. Sometimes anxious...can you (
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Once more into the breach (maybe triggering) by Sterling @ 02/01/16 12:52 PM

Intelligent. I admire your strength and sympathy to all who have been abused! Hear, hear! and thanks for being a voice for all men. James
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: New Book by unhappycamper @ 02/01/16 12:10 PM

Got it! Thanx for the heads-up. John
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Abused Again by KMCINVA @ 02/01/16 10:41 AM

BFree27 I understand how you feel. You have endured much pain in your life. Your words you never felt like a victim before resonated in me. I wrote this morning how I felt like a victim in another post relating to my sense of despair and hopelessne
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: "Swift Current" documentary available in US? by unhappycamper @ 02/01/16 09:30 AM

Hey, none of these movies is "required viewing"! If you don't feel up to 'em, forget 'em! I can tolerate watching documentaries on this subject because obviously the perp in the movie got caught. There's no way I'll ever find out if the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Abused Again by Rich1967 @ 02/01/16 08:16 AM

BFree27 sorry it's painful. I totally get the "power" of taking the blame for it all. It means you have the power to keep it from happening again. I get it but I don't recommend it as a very healthy course of action. I have yet to see s
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Medications vs therapy vs natural remedies by KMCINVA @ 02/01/16 07:55 AM

Tryingtolive I believe we all heal differently and what works one may or may not work for someone else. We all have different chemical make-ups and our brains are all wired differently. One thing that is very important, and I lived and learned it t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Medications vs therapy vs natural remedies by Tryingtolive @ 02/01/16 07:31 AM

what are your thoughts on medication and therapy? I always thought it could hinder the healing process. I'm very tired of putting myself through the healing process and not giving medication a shot. What are some medications you guys have tried that
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: "Swift Current" documentary available in US? by manipulated @ 02/01/16 07:16 AM

How triggering are the movies? The book? Not wanting to be triggered so steering clear of Spotlight. Maybe a wimp but I struggle enough without paying to add to it...
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What We Focus On Expands by KMCINVA @ 02/01/16 07:14 AM

SmartShadow Wise words vent as you need and stand firm. Thank you for your support. I am trying to live those words, especially stand firm. Kevin
Male Survivors
Thank You to every one that responded for your kindness and your support. I am still in pain, but not nearly as much because I am allowing myself to take a break and not force myself to face it all at once! That is helping. I have also found out
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: appreciate this community by Shyshark @ 02/01/16 12:01 AM

We all come here hoping for help ... and it's here to find if we're only willing to do the work. It sounds like you have made a very good beginning. I've been here for 3 years ... and admittedly there have been many difficult days ... but I'll take t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Finally, I am asking for help with this.... by KMCINVA @ 01/31/16 11:52 PM

Logan I am sorry for your pain. You are here for us and no one should suffer as you. The process is not easy, it sucks from the first time of the abuse to reliving the abuse in flashbacks and memories. I feel your pain and understand you are in a t
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: "Swift Current" documentary available in US? by unhappycamper @ 01/31/16 11:34 PM

manipulated: I've seen the Sheldon Kennedy story. It's very well done. ... also, allow me to brag once again that I met SK at a (US) Senate committee hearing on child welfare, and got him to autograph my copy of his book. John
Male Survivors
Trytolive Yes many times and you capture many of the feelings I lived for many, many months if not years recently. The worst feeling was when all of a sudden this clenching feeling overcame my entire body, feeling captured and unable to respond. It
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Going to se the movie Spotlight by unhappycamper @ 01/31/16 11:29 PM

I want to see it, too. Shouldn't be too difficult for me, if only because my CSA experience didn't involve a clergyman or "grooming." And I always remind myself: It's in the news because the perv(s) got caught! Peace, all. John
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: appreciate this community by KMCINVA @ 01/31/16 11:10 PM

30something Welcome--you have come to wonderful place, a place that does not judge but supports. It is important that you acknowledged the damage done--that is an important step in healing. A child is damaged from the moment of the first abuse and
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