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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What is this forgiveness crap? by victor-victim @ Today at 04:31 AM

every so often i come across these threads which explore our mixed feelings about forgiveness. the concept of forgiveness was one of my major obstacles in life. it was foreign to me, and i despised it. i lived in a paradigm of resentment and re
Humor
Jump to new posts Re: kitty rage by victor-victim @ Today at 04:07 AM

cat wii? cat ufc? forget the fakes… here is the real dog fight.
Poetry
Jump to new posts delusions of grandeur by victor-victim @ Today at 01:27 AM

do stars lament our trials and errors? do planets, in our downfall, quake? do furious flames of solar fire, burn with grief in our wake? do mountains weep in our passing? do skies, in silent cries, mourn our fate? do oceans, in all their magnifi
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: to tell or not to tell, is that the question? by tbkkfile @ Today at 01:09 AM

Hi Victor I have to agree with you I believe that silence was a pivotal part of my abuse. Realising that they could carry out these acts with impunity, after all the guys in charge didn't care, in fact they'd encouraged it either vocally or standin
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: The startle response by focusedbody @ Today at 12:51 AM

Gaatt: Your pointing a "double standard" is key to this pain and this dilemma. I've asked my mother to consider the impact of my father on her relationship with me. It raises the bar on how we relate to each other. If we were to talk ab
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Simply: how the hell do I do this? by gaatt @ Today at 12:08 AM

Originally Posted By: focusedbody I acknowledge what is painful, it helps me look it in the eye, deal with it, and feel a little stronger. Thanks FB for this. I'm seeing a pattern of taking out my anger on the wrong people. I didn't get the early ch
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: to tell or not to tell, is that the question? by victor-victim @ Today at 12:01 AM

your story resonates with me. i was terrified that people would find out that i was a "victim". i had my reasons, but the bottom line is… i chose not to disclose simply to protect myself. it was the wrong decision, i now realize, but i
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Guilt anyone? by gaatt @ Yesterday at 11:48 PM

Originally Posted By: don64It's a way my subconscious has to release suppressed and unexpressed stuff... Wonderfully releases and satisfies pent-up rage... it sure does help bring some balance to my interior world. Hi Don, Thanks. Yes. I think I've
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Effects of Covert child sexual abuse by gaatt @ Yesterday at 11:22 PM

Hi Fhorns, Actually, I kind of admire your courage. I wish had had parents who recognized that what they were doing to me was hurtful. My mother sort of does, occasionally, but not convincingly and not in a way that inspires her enough to do her own
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: going through a rough time by don64 @ Yesterday at 10:42 PM

I've had a long and cleansing cry. I'm coming out of this feeling I may be a part of the human race, and it feels very peaceful right at the moment. I haven't felt this way before, and don't know how long it will last. I'm actually chuckling at my
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: to tell or not to tell, is that the question? by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 10:26 PM

Very good question. I still have a disturbing memory of a physical abuse of an adult daughter by her father and a mother watching and yelling at the daughter. Then I went into the home after driving around until the outside abuse was over. I entered
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: going through a rough time by don64 @ Yesterday at 10:22 PM

Hi Keith and Eirik, Your words are just bringing tears and great wracking sobs from me. Not bad sobs. This process I'm going through right now is allowing me to feel, and to feel your intentions. I've not been able to do this before. Thank you f
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How to bury oneself and arise anew? by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 10:15 PM

the phoenix rises from the ashes.
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: New by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 09:46 PM

JCEldrid Welcome and I know this has to be difficult for you. You have taken a courageous step in facing the past. Whatever your story you are amongst friends who understand your pain and hurt. We understand what has happened to you and how the abu
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: New by randombreeze @ Yesterday at 09:32 PM

JC, If I might, I'd like to add one more welcome to your post. It's a HUGE step just getting here! There's a palpable sense of brotherhood among fellow survivors who understand and "get it." A kinship and, if I may be so bold, special kind
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How to bury oneself and arise anew? by Jude @ Yesterday at 09:25 PM

Originally Posted By: cosmos...if only a truly horrible monster can do these kinds of things to kids then I must have deserved it, I must be worse than him, it’s all my fault right. Chris, I can relate very deeply to the belief that I was the bad o
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: It's time by randombreeze @ Yesterday at 09:18 PM

Welcome HOC, Sorry you need to be here, but like other's have stated, it's a safe place. Just knowing I wasn't the only one "like me" has made an immeasurable difference in helping to make sense the chaos that seemed to have been my shadow
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts to tell or not to tell, is that the question? by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 09:16 PM

i came across this today during my daily bible studies. it appears to be clear. what do you think? "If anyone sins in that he is sworn to testify and has knowledge of the matter, either by seeing or hearing of it, but fails to report it,
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Conspiracy of Silence by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 08:30 PM

"A conspiracy of silence is just as bad as a conspiracy of action." ~ Joseph Soloveitchik “The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people” ~ Napoleon Bonaparte
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Perp apologizing - Your relationship afterwards by blockade @ Yesterday at 08:27 PM

Thank you for your words Eric. I understand and I do not want to apologize to appease myself but only to make my brother feel at some sort of ease.. the timing to do so is difficult to get right in case it disrupts or shakes him up. I'm almost waiti
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: "unspeakable"? by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:50 PM

Speak out. “Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.” ~ Brené Brown "A conspiracy of silence is just as bad as a conspiracy of action." ~ Joseph Soloveitchik “The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts ONLINE STUDY SEEKING PEOPLE by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:40 PM

ONLINE STUDY SEEKING PEOPLE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED STRESSFUL OR TRAUMATIC LIFE EVENT* DETAILS: http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=468226#Post468226 did it. thanks for the notice, Kaylin. *You are eligible
Humor
Jump to new posts Re: smart funny science humour by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:27 PM

Dr.Heisenberg gets stopped by the police for speeding. The cop says, "Do you have any idea how fast you were going?" The physicist answers, "No, but I know where I am."
Humor
Jump to new posts Re: smart funny science humour by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:20 PM

Two bacteria walk into a bar. The bartender says, "Get out!" One replies, "But we're staph."
Humor
Jump to new posts Re: smart funny science humour by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:19 PM

A parasite walks into a bar. The bartender says, "Get out!" The parasite says, "Well, you're not a very good host."
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