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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Does society care? by Winhamness @ 26 minutes 31 seconds ago

I can't speak to society as a whole, but I can tell you without a doubt that by personally facing the truth of my abuse and no longer hiding it, that I could take someone seriously, listen to them, and treat them compassionately. It dosent fix the p
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Does society care? by dark empathy @ 46 minutes 52 seconds ago

Removed for reason of not really contributing anything.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Interesting quick article...kids/sleepovers by Mishka95673 @ 58 minutes 43 seconds ago

I am very much a fan of Viktor Frankl and logotherapy, Target. I am the first person to throw myself in the mix in order to protect innocent lives, human or animal. I wouldn't have the attitude, fortitude, and skill sets if it wasn't for the bumps an
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Old dog,new trick by dark empathy @ Today at 10:46 AM

I agree with you on a general level, but specifically I just find no purpose. Ultimately, how do I tell someone "This will get better" when for me it hasn't, and failing my number finally coming up in the good luck lottery, it probably won'
Moving Forward: Research Studies
Jump to new posts Research on the impacts of abuse on attachment by Chris Anderson @ Today at 09:55 AM

Are you a male 18 or older who has experience physical or sexual abuse prior t the age of 18? If so, you are invited to take part in a research study on how childhood abuse affects adult attachment and relationship satisfaction among men. Attachment
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: 50 somthing and trying to grow up by Magellan @ Today at 09:38 AM

Sorry to hijack your thread. I will bow out now.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: 50 somthing and trying to grow up by Magellan @ Today at 09:32 AM

Thanks for the book suggestions, guys. I won't be reading any books anymore. Read dozens of them. None of them helped. I have to accept that I'm fundamentally stupid, naive, clueless. No amount of effort I've made over the last 32 years have gained
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Anniversaries by BDD @ Today at 09:15 AM

I know what I want. When my husband gets home I am going to ask him to snuggle (which we don't do). And after a moment of just enjoying each other I will calmly say "this week, this night is hard for me can you watch my back?" Hopefully he'
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Parenting and Prevention by bluesky @ Today at 09:12 AM

Me and my wife are very carful where we let our kids go and if they have a sleepover its at very specific relatives homes. People we really know and trust. But it's not an easy thing to balance and my kids and other relatives don't understand us but
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Does society care? by BDD @ Today at 09:11 AM

No, there was no talking to anyone in my family. A man I knew at the time just said about my rape "some tricks go wrong". BUT, I am hopeful that kids today stand a better chance of getting what they need. I think because of so many brave m
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by Mishka95673 @ Today at 09:09 AM

Hey Target, I can relate to what you are saying. My man in the past has told me that he needs me to tell him what to do but the reason is because sometimes his thoughts are a mess. I refuse to tell him how to manage his own affairs - he isn't a child
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Sexual Assault and Discrepencies by KMCINVA @ Today at 07:42 AM

Reading about what happens to the mind helps me better understand what has happened.It is estimate 1/3rd of all sexual assault victims will develop some symptoms of PTSD. I cannot win the lottery but I won PTSD. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cogni
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Difficult Day, Terrible Thoughts by sorryson @ Today at 06:04 AM

Thank you for let us know Kevin is ok. There is no need for him to be embarrassed, we all have setbacks and with his family they are bound to happen. He is lucky to have you in his life. You wrote of the the adult body and child mind. My brother a
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts BUSHIDO - Way of the Warrior by victor-victim @ Today at 06:01 AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zqoGDVed8A BUSHIDO: The Way of the Warrior | Samurai Code The Soul of Japan by Inazo Nitobe + http://www.sacred-texts.com/shi/bsd/ + http://www.gutenberg.org/files/12096/12096-h/12096-h.htm + http://w
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: Nagging Little Voices... by victor-victim @ Today at 05:36 AM

excellent poem. thank you for telling it like it is, kellygtx. we all suffer from intrusive thoughts. i tell them to go to hell where they came from.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: faces and masks by victor-victim @ Today at 05:34 AM

thank you. masks are one of my favourite themes, although they are triggering for me. i love this poem. it made me feel...
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Shame by lostc @ Today at 05:33 AM

Sometimes I feel goddamned ashamed about this, thinking things like "what kind of man am I that I'm trying to understand and say that females abused me, and that I didn't just like it and see it as sexual experience", like I'm some kind of
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: Self Examination by victor-victim @ Today at 05:31 AM

hard. cold. heavy. serious. powerful. thank you.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: "To strive, to seek, to find..." by victor-victim @ Today at 05:28 AM

very nice, bobcat. thank you.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: Crash and Burn by victor-victim @ Today at 05:25 AM

adapt. overcome. survive. evolve. mutate. or die. i can relate. i crash. i burn. Ignore the heart, splitting in two, Time to march, and time to move. Feel the tears, but don't let them fall, Clenching of fists, the rage swallows all.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: The innocent child by victor-victim @ Today at 05:14 AM

one day i shall emerge victorious. nice to meet you too, gentle soul. thanks for the uplift. much needed and appreciated.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: victory by victor-victim @ Today at 05:11 AM

thanks for the reminder of hope and inspiration, weapher.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: Until by victor-victim @ Today at 05:09 AM

beautiful.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Ego collapse? by GoodKiwi @ Today at 05:07 AM

Tryingtolive, I found that as I started facing the past many of the effects of CSA which were acute in my teens have started to resurface. My hope was that in facing this they would disappear altogether but they’re getting worse. For now I am happy
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Does society care? by GoodKiwi @ Today at 04:46 AM

As far as abuse goes, my case was by no means the worst and I wonder sometimes how it managed to turn my entire life upside down. Looking back, I think much of the damage was done not by the abuse itself but by the blanket denial of it. Me because I
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