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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Washcloth TRIGGERS! by newground @ 1 minute 14 seconds ago

glad that you have uncovered that truth lee though truly sorry it happened. just one more in a line of challenges you have overcome. I hope that it fades soon along with other bad memories of the time of helplessness. you are a good man...always were
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Subconsciousness vs consciousness by Acorn2Oak @ 59 minutes 21 seconds ago

This may be way off base, but makes sense to me.... I look at the subconscious as beliefs I've forgotten I have and the conscious as what I'm aware of believing. Triggers, for example, can make make unconscious beliefs conscious, IF I pay attention
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Emotionally blocked by lapchinj @ Today at 07:25 AM

Hey smc I have the same problem with closeting myself in more and more. I see myself just wearing out and wanting to quit. I just want my mind to stop opening up and revealing all my shit, I just want it to stop. The things I had done to me and the
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll part 2 by traveler @ Today at 07:15 AM

Jay - it always helps to know someone else gets it. thanks for responding. good to know we are not alone! Lee
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How long did you keep it secret? by manipulated @ Today at 03:42 AM

45 years. Ignored never forgotten (though specifics were/are and rear their ugly sudden body sensation flooding head from time to time. I had hinted at it 5 years of marriage but no specifics. Forced to disclose in a break from self two years ago, th
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: expressionism by Sterling @ Yesterday at 05:22 PM

love seeing good looking men. I . do . I love when I see people who are happy. I love confidence. in people. I f I enjoy others . loving their friends or partners may be I can enjoy that while I listen to music in a library and forget myse
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Farrell's White House Council on Boys and Men by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 04:31 PM

Consider the sources of that "news." Mike
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Isolation... by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 01:37 PM

Right now I am in the depths of a pretty severe bout of depression and the thought of being around other people just sounds horrible. I just want to be alone right now.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: My husband has been using Grindr... by lovehimalways @ Yesterday at 12:53 PM

I wish I knew what to say or help, but unfortunately I don't. However,reading your post really struck home. We have had a roller coaster of a journey but had started dating in high school. It is now 12 years later and I feel like so much has been sa
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Flashbacks at the office -- *triggers* by lapchinj @ Yesterday at 12:08 PM

I can usually keep myself calm from flashbacks and panic attacks by cutting whether I'm at home or at work. I carry a razor and tissues wherever I go. Sounds kinda sick but so am I. Peace, Rainbows, Love, Healing & Hope <3 XOXO Jeff
Jump to new posts Re: Calling all angels! TRIGGERS by iaccus @ Yesterday at 10:53 AM

There are no angels, there are no devils, just corporate criminals playing with tanks.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 08:26 AM

After I was raped I lost so much self-confidence. I became a people-pleaser and as a result suffered some bullying. That just made the lack of self-confidence even worse, and it turned into a spiraling effect that took decades to get out of. But t
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll by Tryingtolive @ 08/28/15 09:18 PM

For me I picked everyone but denial ... A part of me tells me I'm in denial while another part tells me I'm not
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: god------trigger by victor-victim @ 08/28/15 08:11 PM

if God is a trigger! i say "Pull it!" Concrete Blonde says "God is a bullet"
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Films anyone? by Nothing Man @ 08/28/15 05:15 PM

Joseph Gordon-Levitt starred in a film called "Mysterious Skin" which dealt with the effects of childhood sexual abuse. It is a powerful and moving film, but features a rape scene which can be triggering and very uncomfortable to watch.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Inspiration Just for today by Nothing Man @ 08/28/15 05:09 PM

“Dissociated trauma memories don't reveal themselves like ordinary memories. Like pieces of a puzzle, they escape the primitive part of our brain where the trauma has been stored without words. These starkly vivid and detailed images are defined by
Jump to new posts Re: I thought it was the end by victor-victim @ 08/28/15 04:03 PM

this poem gives me a truth ache. how much pain can one man take. reality and fantasy collide. one hell of a crazy ride. violence is extremely intense. justice? revenge? self defense? i kept murder in my heart. but it ripped my soul apart.
Jump to new posts Re: fearless by victor-victim @ 08/28/15 03:29 PM

great sentiments, bey. i can totally relate. i fight against fear. i battle against hate. “Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared.” ~ Eddie Rickenbacker Edward Vernon Rickenbacker was an A
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: I am tired. by Nothing Man @ 08/28/15 03:21 PM

Simba, just checking back in with you. How are you doing? Mike
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll part 4 (incest survivor poll) by Nothing Man @ 08/28/15 03:16 PM

My mother, who was one of my abusers, has been dead for 17 years now and I can honestly say I do not miss her, nor do I mourn her passing. She was also physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward me. I think that even if she were alive
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Are You a Carrot, Egg or Coffee Bean by KMCINVA @ 08/28/15 12:49 PM

The egg seems like the fall back place to go. We try to protect ourselves in life and for survivors it definitely is a way of life. You said it, the egg is a false sense of strength. Undoing and reprogramming can be hard--like they say you cannot te
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: He made me gay by 1lifenow @ 08/28/15 12:49 PM

Cant The struggle is real. What is the fall out of a childhood so twisted? I have been on and off this site for almost 5 years now and I think Chase Eric's comment and insite about the Conclusions you/we can draw are DEAD ON. We do have the po
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Mankind Project? by Nothing Man @ 08/28/15 12:17 PM

I'm always skeptical of websites that offer those types of "services"
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My mind is spinning *triggers* by Nothing Man @ 08/28/15 12:12 PM

Hey (((Sven))) I am so sorry you are hurting right now. I hope it will pass quickly. Please reach out and talk to someone -- your therapist, a trusted friend, a spiritual advisor -- and remember that you are not alone. We stand behind you and man

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