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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Reconnecting with the Church Myself on This Easter by traveler @ 51 minutes 47 seconds ago

(((Kevin))) - your progress is so amazing as to approach the level of miraculous. i know that there was a lot of work and pain and difficulty along the way - but the change in you is so remarkable when you compare the before and after. there are tw
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Privacy - a question by traveler @ Today at 08:09 AM

have you asked him how much he wants to share with others? is that something he is able to discuss with you? have you asked his therapist what would be appropriate? as a male survivor, when i first started treatment - not in a hospital, but weekly c
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Sexual charge post trauma by dark empathy @ Today at 06:31 AM

Well Gaat, I can accept different people feel different things. This is part of my genophobia I suspect, sinse to me all those sorts of reactions bring a sense of disgust or utter panic. I can't actually analyse my own state during mb sinse it's pre
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: What is Health? by dark empathy @ Today at 06:24 AM

My problem gaat is I've been trying for years to come to peace with inner objectives and it doesn't work, or at least it doesn't for me sinse in the end I'm still alone with myself, indeed how well I cope is almost tangentially tied to how much I can
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: This American Life: Interview With A Pedophile by pufferfish @ Yesterday at 11:30 PM

Hey JayBro Most who experienced MKUltra either do not realize it yet, as was my case until recently, or they are terrified to say anything. They may have experienced several forms of control to keep them quiet. Types of control might have included
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to understand masculinity by JayBro @ Yesterday at 11:25 PM

Originally Posted By: TheBobcatAgain JayBro - You wrote, " is through vulnerability and other non-stereotypical male traits that I have been able to re-affirm my masculinity." Can you explain that to me? It sounds useful. Your idea of
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bumps Along the Way by JayBro @ Yesterday at 10:15 PM

Thank you everyone so much for your really insightful and helpful commentary. I absolutely agree with the image of our wiring being overloaded and getting mixed up while we try to get things in the "right" order. And yes, sexuality is a bea
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to Start by BuffaloCO @ Yesterday at 08:37 PM

Wow, awesome and kind words, they mean a lot. Each of you helped me too, and you can know that this new me is in part because of people like you and others here. I will never forget that. I hope this change for me has not hurt anyone either as I d
Jump to new posts Re: WOR by thevision @ Yesterday at 07:28 PM

Matt, I want them back, too I want to watch all 6'6" of you to play with abandon again I want to hear your laugh again I want to see your joy again I want you to still be here with your brothers I'll treasure the short time we had I'll miss yo
Survivor Stories
Jump to new posts Trash Sex by Jed777 @ Yesterday at 06:49 PM

I need a way to get this out that is safe. I am grateful that I can put this out here. It was my birthday. It was a Sunday afternoon. I went to a gay bar where someone was playing the piano. I love to sing. I remember singing at the piano. I ended
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My Brother Shot His Head Off by Jed777 @ Yesterday at 06:35 PM

Thank you all for your support!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Healing Circle Cancelled - Sunday April 20, 2014 by Anomalous @ Yesterday at 04:54 PM

Hi Guys, Out of consideration for those observing the holiday, the Healing Circle will be cancelled this evening, Sunday, April 20, 2014. It is scheduled to resume on Wednesday, April 23rd. Anomalous
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Penn State in the news for all the wrong reasons by ShortedDiode @ Yesterday at 02:22 PM

This was emailed to me by my best friend who is a Penn State graduate. Yet again, Penn State's in the news for all the wrong reasons: Florida State Case Unneded Distraction For Penn State So it sounds like Florida State did a total whitewash job
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: New MJ Album Includes Song About Child Sex Abuse by catfish86 @ Yesterday at 10:35 AM

There are certain hallmarks and patterns that can tell you the truth. Studies of pedophiles generally find that the vast majority are not "one-time" perps. In fact one study suggests that the average pedophile racks up over 100 victims in
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: The Bar Keeps Moving by Airmid @ Yesterday at 10:29 AM

Thank you both. What really gets me is that while I know re-entering the family dynamic is piecemeal, it hurts. His involvement with the family as a whole is coming first, and he wants my admiration for that. (I give it, absolutely.) Meanwhile, I'm
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: My Story. by concerned_husky @ Yesterday at 09:43 AM

Teba, There is a definition of child sexual abuse that has helped me a lot in conceptualizing and properly labeling my past: "Inappropriate sexual remarks made to a minor by an adult; ogling of a child or teenager by an adult; an adult's expos
U.S. & World News
I didn't read the article, and I want to make it perfectly clear that I believe this person was raped, however there have been cases where people have made up stories of rape/abuse. I know firsthand because my folks were falsely accused of abuse upon
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Therapist speaks on damaging effect of pornography by pufferfish @ Yesterday at 12:28 AM

Therapist Trish Murphy: Quote: The growing use of online pornography and addiction is causing huge problems for individuals, families, and children as
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: crucifix = me by I Want 2 Thrive @ 04/19/14 09:00 PM

AMEN my brother from another mother!
Sexual Identity Issues
That's awesome Buster Jones!! I know how that feels, when something really bothering you is expressed by other people in your shoes. It is quite liberating! I wish you all the best in your recovery!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Big side effects to a small problem? by Jay1946 @ 04/19/14 05:09 PM

Green Lantern: I would describe my feelings exactly as Lee did. The fascination with early adolescence is a longing to go back to that age and enjoy it in the way one was not able to enjoy. For a variety of reasons I was robbed of that experience.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Am I Gay? Part 4 by On The Fringe @ 04/19/14 02:08 PM

It took all the beatings I got to get some sense in my head. There were no differences in sex, money, responsibility. It was my way. I am satisfied with life right now. I own my type of thinking and living. It is strange to some, but I don't c
Jump to new posts Re: Hello all. Confused and new to this. by traveler @ 04/19/14 02:02 PM

teba - welcome and best wishes for growth and healing. i read your story - and relate to a significant aspect of it. the ambiguity of some of the events can leave you uncertain whether it really was abuse or not - whether you are imagining or exagge
Jump to new posts Re: coping by traveler @ 04/19/14 01:53 PM

thanks, guys. i wrote this recently while working through a 12-step program and taking a moral inventory, in an attempt to take responsibility for my own actions and reactions. i guess i should add that most of the tactics i have abandoned as ineff
Family and Friends
Thanks for posting this. I often feel that nothing I do as a spouse of a CSA survivor is enough to be of any help. It's nice to see that some of the things I can do can make a difference.
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