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Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Nightmares/thoughts about sex by Bloom @ 20 minutes 23 seconds ago

Hey Dan, I think this is completely normal, though that doesn't make it any less traumatizing. I periodically have nightmares of a similar variety, some even where my current boyfriend turns into someone who violated me. I think what I've found to h
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Being needed.. by Bloom @ 27 minutes 10 seconds ago

I think nearly everyone struggles with what you've mentioned here at some point or another. I've always found it very hard to say no to friends' request for help or advice, but sometimes that's left me emotionally and physically drained. In college I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I hate sugar by Nothing Man @ Today at 04:18 PM

I'm glad you figured out what was causing you problems. It took only 25 years of hard drinking to realize that it was causing me problems too. I've managed to stay sober for nearly ten years now, but even still, after all that time, I find myself c
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: New...and old by Esposa @ Today at 03:31 PM

I am not sure your husband sounds entirely unhealthy - and I am sorry for how this might sound but I not sure that you are responding in a healthy way. Is there more to the story? Have you wondered, previously about your husband's sexuality? What
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: some song lyrics (maybe triggering) by john22 @ Today at 02:17 PM

And another one I really like. Especially the following part: Dear younger me Itís not your fault You were never meant to carry this beyond the cross MercyMe: "Dear Younger Me" "Dear Younge
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Looking for insights into YOUR recovery journey by NoSimpleMachine @ Today at 01:25 PM

Hard to nail it down in a concise way. My journey feels kinda weird in its order because I was so young when my abuse occurred, it was blocked from me, and I never knew it happened. It manifested itself subconsciously and in weird ways throughout the
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: What are the key books to read? by Sonata1 @ Today at 11:58 AM

Thanks. I've ordered Lew (original version -- hope the update is not a huge change). My abuse was early -- before 5 so I'm guessing Touched would be less relevant to me. Though I hear what you are saying about seeing things from multiple perspectives
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: more high school football "hazing" by tbkkfile @ Today at 11:46 AM

I've written and re-written this post so many times and I just can't do it, but I wish I could, it's so triggering
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I wish you all enough by Nothing Man @ Today at 11:05 AM

What a kind post. I wish you the best also. I wish you the best of luck at college. I hope you do well and thrive as time passes on. I hope life presents you with the opportunities that you deserve and that you can face the challenges with steadf
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Cacoon by Dave PNW @ Today at 10:49 AM

Bardo, all good questions. I have wondered the same as well as I have worked through this. I read recently a journal entry I made in the early couple of weeks of my journey here... I had just spent a wonderful evening out with my wife and daughter wi
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: feel like crap-3 days in bed by Bardo @ Today at 10:33 AM

Jesus, Mary and Joseph. Sending prayers for health and recuperation to the children and for strength and peace to you and your family. Keep strong.
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: SWEET Justice! by Still @ Today at 10:14 AM

We could cite the breakdown of the paper-thin veneer of civilization as the reason for these vigilante crimes. These events above are certainly very different from walking in on your 11-yo being raped. These events above are pro-active, reactive, a
Jump to new posts corruption incorporated by victor-victim @ Today at 09:55 AM

come on, guys, don't be wise... compromise. close your eyes. tell some lies. supersize! you'll win a prize. but memorize your alibis... it's no surprise if someone dies.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Inpatient mental health by sugarbaby @ Today at 09:49 AM

I've never understood the stigma attached to mental health but I think that is because I have some work experience with mental health patients. To me it's the same as any specialist medical care. It's like going to the dentist. People go when they
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My Story by kcinohio @ Yesterday at 11:54 PM

I think the "coping mechanisms" that Chase Eric brought up are a good focus. There are such a variety of them that we use. Figuring out what's what as we heal can be a challenge. Sorry the relationship thing ended recently. What I found is
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Scott Johnson - My Dirty Little Secret by Jude @ Yesterday at 11:48 PM

Only one word comes to mind: DEVASTATING. His story is close to mine in many ways. I have to log off, its just too much right now.
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by lapchinj @ Yesterday at 11:16 PM

Yeah that's a big thing for me not cutting. I don't know what used to set me off to cut but I think that my meds have a lot to do with stopping it. I would make 2 or 3 cuts on my arm and just cut the same cuts over and over for a couple of weeks unti
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Just because by finallyhere @ Yesterday at 11:07 PM

Still- I have no advice but my heart goes out to you and I would like to share a promise you may appreciate ( I hope so ). Read Psalm 37:10,11 just one of so many of my favorites still to come.
Jump to new posts Re: 2 weeks into realizing what happened by gettingstronger @ Yesterday at 09:25 PM

Hi Sonata1, Welcome to the club nobody wants to belong to! Your story is very much like many of ours here: Abuse over a multi-year period, then a time lag of some decades until it rears its head again, then the beginning of real healing. Getting
The triad of current marketing success: Traffic Compelling Content Appealing Design They ALL fail if any one of them fails. It a three-legged stool if you will. So you are competing for traffic. You need some darned loud compelling content and the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Pushy People and Boundaries by une.vie.d.espoir @ Yesterday at 06:51 PM

Hi Husky, its me JP, I just want to share whit you you did a great thing, maybe now you don't or can't realise it, but by getting you hanger out at your mother,(in the bathroom) you permited to yourself two thing that was love and hate. we are supos
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Healing Circle - Cancelled Sunday, November 2 by Anomalous @ Yesterday at 06:46 PM

Hi Guys, The Healing Circle will be cancelled this Sunday, November 2, 2014. Anomalous
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Virtue by SamV @ Yesterday at 04:33 PM

So beyond me at the moment, but this personality trait touched me in a process that has been coming up for about a week now. Virtue. Virtuous. That word seems ambiguous, but really it is specific, like learning how to speak a new language has descrip
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Done by Dave PNW @ Yesterday at 01:31 PM

Anura, not sure exactly what your done with? Relationship problems? Or are you talking about your recovery work? I understand how this is pretty overwhelming. You have done a lot of hard work recently.... disclosed to your girlfriend, joined MS, told
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ironic by Sonata1 @ Yesterday at 01:13 PM

For me anxiety has some connection with the threat of violence associated with my abuse, whereas here I am not in that headspace. So in that sense it's safe in a way that real life may not be. And it's also honest in a way that daily life is not, whi
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