Newest Members
JohnWC, KKumar, J44, Anura, reynel5
12420 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
MADcHATTER (54), Ready2MoveOn (44)
Who's Online
2 registered (TW16, 1 invisible), 33 Guests and 5 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
12420 Members
74 Forums
63788 Topics
445453 Posts

Max Online: 418 @ 07/02/12 07:29 AM
Active Topics | Active Posts | Unanswered Posts Past 24 hours | Past 48 hours | Past 7 days
Forum   Subject
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shame Binding by justplainme @ 50 minutes 12 seconds ago

Try and make time to listen to this, i'm sure you will not regret it.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Don't know what to think by Jude @ Today at 01:07 AM

OCN, You are exactly right. Anything you do with this should be on your own terms. Not your brother's, your father's, or anyone else. Great job. Jude
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapy -- Does/did it "work" for you? by Jude @ Today at 01:03 AM

I have spent years in therapy, wasting both the therapists' time and my own. You don't make much progress in therapy if you never tell them the truth. So I think being honest is one part of what can make therapy successful. The other part is finding
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Jude @ Today at 12:45 AM

Still, For 30 years, drinking and drugs were my medication of choice for coping with the pain from all my baggage. In one sense it worked well, kept me alive, and got me through each day and night without having to feel or face anything. But in an
U.S. & World News
I'll volunteer to chair. I suspect the outcome of the UK scandals will end-up exactly the way the Canadian cases have: Long, drawn-out hearings of no consequence, stretched over such long time periods that victims expire or are scared-off. Eventual
Male Survivors
Dan, I can understand your feelings about this. Its one of those situations where afterward you thyink of all the things you could've should've said or done, but at the time you just kind of freeze. Just don't share a room with this pair again. The
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Attraction to specific type of men- reason? by don64 @ Yesterday at 11:21 PM

Thank you guys for continuing this topic. I don't have anything to add right now, but there are things here that feel like they are fertilizing and watering places in me that are helping me somehow. Perhaps it's just permission to not have all the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Feeling so much old sadness as things improve by don64 @ Yesterday at 11:09 PM

Tbkkfile, thanks for the well-wishes, and I hope you don't give up on having satisfying, personal, passionate expression in your life. Kevin, thanks for reminding me that as I clear on this old, difficult and previously hidden stuff, I create larger
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by don64 @ Yesterday at 10:40 PM

Hi Sorryson, It has taken me into my 60's to clear enough of the poison of my family of origin out of my system to understand that I also have the power to keep that energy out of my life in my external world. Two things have happened in this proce
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Can coffee aggravate PTSD? by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 07:48 PM

I have read where stimulants can aggravate PTSD. I am still coffee free and had turned to green tea but now if I have three cups a week it is a lot. I have not been troubled as in the past with the nightmares and flashbacks. Is it the lack of coff
Off Topic
Jump to new posts 7 Dwarfs Mine Train on-ride video by Obi @ Yesterday at 01:14 PM

Our on-ride video of the 7 Dwarfs Mine Train ride that my wife and I rode during our honeymoon last week. if you look closely you can see us in the 4th car back seat.
Jump to new posts Re: So this is me by Luther @ Yesterday at 12:58 PM

Thanks, all of you, for the welcoming words and for sharing. I don't know how often I'll post here... seems like I need to review every potential post in my head for days beforehand. Slows down the process :-) I didn't mention, I have seen a few d
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Under aged sexual exploitation or art by Still @ Yesterday at 12:07 PM

Originally Posted By: ShortedDiode a book called "Show Me" that he said had been banned by Ontario's censor. It was a volume of black and white photographs of very young kids in the nude. Was it fine art photography or pornography? Th
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Am I the only one......? by newground @ Yesterday at 11:58 AM

Have I accepted His love? Not completely. I've vented at Him lately telling Him my honest beliefs. Made me cry. Lots today. I know that feeling so well man. I know...I believe that God loves me. do I accept that love? I think what don said has som
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Speaking to my son (before he was born) by OCN @ Yesterday at 07:35 AM

He FB I recognize it as a man. I like my more childish side a lot, so i tend to let fantasy run wild and free every now and again. After finding out about the abuse, i find myself talking and cherising the younger boy in me more and more. I guess
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Nightmares by TW16 @ Yesterday at 01:00 AM

I have been having nightmares almost every night for about the last three or four weeks. I am not sure exactly why as nothing out of the ordinary has happened in my life. Although I have been having memories surface from my abuse as a teenager for
Jump to new posts To a dying old man by kcinohio @ Yesterday at 12:07 AM

Just breathe easy You're almost there Glad for this time With you to share Not easy now, But was not then Abused and hurt You chose love when You could have died Or hurt others But love pulled you Away from lures Of bitter bile Wasted regret, Inst
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: Love Driving Stick by Suwanee @ 10/21/14 10:47 PM

This thread popped up as "being viewed." I like manual transmissions, so I had to click on it. It's getting harder and harder to find cars with manual transmissions. In some cases, all the literature indicates a model comes in such and suc
U.S. & World News
BTW: Sayreville Police Department has no mode of contact on their home-page. But they DO have a very open facebook page. Some police departments need a little encouragement to do the right things.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Starting recovery by Anura @ 10/21/14 05:47 PM

Just being able to see that I am so far from alone in this, and having people to share with, is already making all of this less difficult. I have been in tears so many times lately, and I'm not usually that emotional of a person. For most of my life
Military Survivors
Jump to new posts I just called an MST's what happened by GeorgeMartin @ 10/21/14 04:48 PM

I called an MST personnel (a woman) who was nice and seemed to listen. They she gives me another phone number to contact (safehelpline)... Then I get another 1 (800) number ... and then another, and another and another. Finally, I get to yet another
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: bull shit- taking responsibility by Sterling @ 10/21/14 03:25 PM

hey ". hey! "what is going on?" not much. I have been trying to focus on too much. I don't know what to ....I am working hard to want to do something with my life. Pissed off that I have these injuries, have a big debt and am sca
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Distressing morning ahead. by Nothing Man @ 10/21/14 10:51 AM

I'm glad you are feeling better. I am sending you my support as well. Mike
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I had a bad feeling today....... by Nothing Man @ 10/21/14 10:45 AM

We have already been through and survived the hardest thing ever, the abuse. Now we just have to learn to heal and you just gave us a great exemplar of how we should deal with our feelings. Thank you. Mike
Jump to new posts Re: My intro by Nothing Man @ 10/21/14 10:22 AM

Dave, I'm sorry for the reasons you are here but glad that you found us. We have all suffered in one way or the other but what we do have in common is a sense of comradeship and a strong gift of support to each other. Congratulations on your first

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.