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Jump to new posts Re: Stockholm Syndrome by jas4159 @ Yesterday at 03:38 PM

I couldn't agree more.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I can't stop being angry :( by jas4159 @ Yesterday at 03:35 PM

Hello Magellan, You have been very articulate in describing your feelings. I can relate to your mother. I was surprises to find i was also angry with my mother. Anger was the most difficult emotion for me to connect to and yes i pray and meditate
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How did you feel when you saw a bigger penis? by I Want 2 Thrive @ Yesterday at 03:14 PM

Jeff, My avatar was the last school photo before my CSA began. Thomas told me, it was that smile that first attracted him. It took a very long time before I could even look at that photo again. The hair color was never an issue, the length back in
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts I can't stop being angry :( by Magellan @ Yesterday at 02:50 PM

I've been angry for most of my life. Angry that I was born. And angry that I was born with disabilities. And angry that I was bullied by most of my class for 3 years in elementary school because I wore glasses and hearing aids. Angry about so much.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: the loneliness by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 02:19 PM

Funnily enough tm, the times I have felt most lonely are the times I've been in a crowd of other people. There is nothing to make you feel more alone than sitting watching a large group of other people interact. It also doesn't help that yes, people
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: What is Health? by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 02:00 PM

I really admire your thoughts on Indian phylosophy, but to be honest for myself s/xual health is a contradiction in terms, sinse there is nothing to me positive about my own s/xuality at all. I have seen a positive form of communication in ccertai
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: finally self-acceptance by lapchinj @ Yesterday at 01:56 PM

Hey Cosmos I thought I was the only crazy guy that was married but had a hard time explaining to people that it was not sexual. I never told my wife that I was gay although it doesn't seem you did either, just that you had an attraction to men. How
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Sexual charge post trauma by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 01:45 PM

Myself, I have learnt to view the business much more rationally. Mb is my control. I was never shamed by my parents about s/x or my physical reactions, indeed both parents explained quite kindly in quite medical detail when i was 10 what mb was and
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: I'm Still Here by BluegrassGhost @ Yesterday at 01:44 PM

Thanks for the kind words and open arms everybody.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How did you feel when you saw a bigger penis? by lapchinj @ Yesterday at 01:10 PM

Hey IW2T It's great when I can put a face to a post and I'm glad you put one up. The smile is great even though it might be a coverup. I don't want to pry but I see you look like you have blond hair like I did. Did you find that you were bullied mo
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Stockholm Syndrome by On The Fringe @ Yesterday at 01:03 PM

I idolized my molester. It took a long time to accept that I thought as a child then. I just locked my thinking on my CSA at age 7. It took a few decades to see things as an adult. That is when recovery began. The truth of my innocence in the cr
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Forgiveness & the toughest 16 inches *trigger* by On The Fringe @ Yesterday at 12:55 PM

Vengeance is mine says The Lord. I have turned it over as any vengeance is for God to do. Not that I forgot.... It helps me not be bitter on a personal level a bit.
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Jump to new posts Re: Trying to understand masculinity by pete1973 @ Yesterday at 12:49 PM

Bobcat, I can relate to your feelings. I am 40 and trying to reconnect with the 11 year old boy that got left behind when he was abused. To me he is still stuck in that room staring out the window, alone and afraid to leave because he doesn't know wh
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: finally self-acceptance by cosmos @ Yesterday at 12:11 PM

jd123 thanx for the undeserved accolades! Rustam the whole injured psyche inside is just “sooooo schizophrenic” it’s not even funny; but so necessary for healing, I never wanted to confront myself I lacked the courage to admit what was done that I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ***TRIGGER*** Castration fear by traveler @ Yesterday at 11:32 AM

how are you doing now, Randy? i started this thread over 2 years ago and it is so strange to see it come up again. i have definitely progressed a lot since i first wrote about it. i hope you are better now, too? if it is still an issue for you, don'
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Trusting Him Again by learning2luvme @ Yesterday at 10:49 AM

Ok. I know and understand this stage. My offer stands if he wants a rational independent ear to listen. Being a survivor we all here understand better than anybody and we are great listeners. Best of luck to you and your husband. L2LME
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How did you feel when you saw a bigger penis? by I Want 2 Thrive @ Yesterday at 09:52 AM

Originally Posted By: lapchinjEven when I was an adult and I saw one in the showers it just threw me back to my younger years. The bigger it got the only thing it meant to me was more pain, blood and wishing I were dead. AMEN My BROTHER!
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Jump to new posts Re: Trying to understand masculinity by JayBro @ Yesterday at 09:46 AM

Hey Bobcat, I'm 22 and had been struggling very much with this, especially a year ago. What helped for me was to be my "authentic self", and to gravitate towards friends and others with attributes that I admired. In my recovery, I have fou
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Jump to new posts Re: Mud Season by sentry @ Yesterday at 08:08 AM

Hey Jude. That looks like some serious mud you are dealing with there. You could use a good 4x4 to get you through that. Other than the muddy road it looks like you live in a really cool environment. Just so you won't feel too bad about the weather
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Forgiveness & the toughest 16 inches *trigger* by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 07:14 AM

Izzy Many talk about forgiveness. I believe the first person you need to forgive is yourself--the guilt and shame the abuse left me with created this secret, and silence can be controlling and destructive. With much pain and hurt, I began to forgiv
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Jump to new posts Re: Mud Season by Jude @ Yesterday at 06:36 AM

Woke up this morning to 28 degrees and everything covered with a fresh blanket of snow. Its April 16th. AAARRRGGGHHHH!!!!!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I HAVE SURVIVED by don64 @ Yesterday at 03:32 AM

Thanks Justplainme, Doing this exercise is a continuation of me spilling the beans and not minimizing my experience to myself. Also, doing this and reading others' survivor lists makes me feel like a part of a family. I don't usually need for anyo
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Jump to new posts Trying to understand masculinity by TheBobcatAgain @ Yesterday at 01:30 AM

This is my biggest problem I'm struggling with right now. From "Understanding and Raising Boys; Growing Up Masculine" - "Men are extremely important in giving boys messages about being a man," adds Canada. "Boys want to grow
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Forgiveness & the toughest 16 inches *trigger* by TheBobcatAgain @ Yesterday at 01:22 AM

This is just my opinion. I'm no expert, just another survivor. I've heard some survivors say that forgiving their abuser(s) gave them a little peace of mind. I've also heard other survivors say the opposite - allowing themselves to hate what their a
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ***TRIGGER*** Castration fear by randy2000 @ Yesterday at 12:14 AM

It was the night before my hernia operation. I was a senior in high school. My abuser continued to control me. I overheard my dad telling my mom that if the doctor wasn't careful, I would be castrated. When I heard that, it excited me. I don't k
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