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Jump to new posts Re: OMG! Planet Earth is Screwed by WriterKeith @ Yesterday at 10:25 PM

Nauseating and numbing. The show "To Catch a Predator" was taken off the air because of public outcry from a very large and very vocal group of Americans. Why did they rally to shut it town? They rallied IN FAVOR OF PERPETRATORS. Unbelievable.
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Jump to new posts Re: my last day by Jude @ Yesterday at 09:33 PM

Dear Lee, Thank you for all your wisdom, and your willingness to share openly and honestly here. You will always be a friend at MS, and I hope that you will find access in your new home. Be well, Jude
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Jump to new posts Re: Grueling tourture. (Trigger Warning) by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 08:39 PM

Obi, I think you're right to be concerned. His last post was not too upbeat, to say the least, and the one before that concerned a friend of his who had committed suicide. I hope a mod, or whoever has access to his email, will try to contact him fo
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Jump to new posts Re: mom by bey @ Yesterday at 08:09 PM

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Jump to new posts Re: A fresh memory from the past **trigger warning** by toddop @ Yesterday at 08:01 PM

NoSimpleMachine, Yeah I have learned the same thing that you describe in terms with dealing with the negative memories and emotions. It took me a long while to get there. I had blocked out any conscious recollection of my abuse for well over 30 yea
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Jump to new posts Re: Grueling tourture. (Trigger Warning) by Obi @ Yesterday at 06:31 PM

Has anyone heard from cf?
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Jump to new posts Re: my last day by traveler @ Yesterday at 05:39 PM

thanks so much, Still, Puffer, Don, & Kevin! i have a couple more weeks before venturing out but hope to take you all with me. that is one way that this community is even better than the people i can see and touch - you are always accessible - w
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Jump to new posts mom by traveler @ Yesterday at 05:25 PM

i know i will cry at her funeral and everyone will assume that it is because i loved her, but only i will know that it is because i didn't. i'll be crying not for her, but for me the child-aged me, who did not receive love, protection, nor respe
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Jump to new posts Re: (trigger) Should I send this letter to my abuser? by WriterKeith @ Yesterday at 04:46 PM

Ocellaris, Another option.... Set up a blog and say what you need to. Tell about your struggles, your victories, your journey, encouragement and links to resources for others. You don't have divulge your name. If you do so, keep in mind: Do not i
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Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by WriterKeith @ Yesterday at 02:43 PM

D.E. Wanted to specifically answer your closing question. I'm not a pro in the field, so I'll have to generalize.. ..but there is more than "just memories haunting us" at work. Physiology, genetics, personality, and environment all come into play,
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Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 02:34 PM

Lol Kieth, as I'm about to order a pizza this made me laugh! . About your contributions, I tend to like reading what you write sinse you put forward your thoughts in a very clear and articulate way. Your monica of "writer" seems quite appr
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Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by WriterKeith @ Yesterday at 02:03 PM

Hi, D.E., I don't know why I kinda felt a nudge to log in and peruse the forums this morning. I saw you're note saying "hi" here and it gave me a boost. Like a lot of survivors, I undervalue my presence anywhere. I completely understand what you me
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Jump to new posts Re: my little town by Still @ Yesterday at 11:31 AM

Originally Posted By: travelerwhat would I do if I came face to face with one of the bully leaders the older boys that I idolized, envied, feared, hated, and longed to have like and accept me? There is the suspicion that they would be as anonymousl
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Jump to new posts Re: my little town by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 11:28 AM

Well lee, myself I actually have moved over 100 miles away from the city of Nottingham. I go back to visit my parents, and see my singing teacher, but I avoid going into the city as much as possible, heck I even dislike the accent. Then again sinse N
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Jump to new posts Re: the loneliness by don64 @ Yesterday at 11:01 AM

Sending you love and good will, 96789594. Don
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Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 10:56 AM

Hi lee. Well it actually turns out from a conversation with my mum that she phoned a cbt expert (there are some advantages to having a father who was a senior psychiatric nurse), who recommended this particular charity as being the best possible op
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Jump to new posts my little town by traveler @ Yesterday at 10:37 AM

For the past couple of weeks, I have been staying with my brother in the same area where my family lived during the period of my life when all the abuse took place. We lived here from the time when mom married the step-dad when I was nearly 6, until
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Jump to new posts Re: OMG! Planet Earth is Screwed by Still @ Yesterday at 10:06 AM

The decay is relentless and very real. The 2nd Amendment has The NRA defending and propping it up. Drunk Driving had MADD. NAACP influences Civil Rights. But CSA proliferates not from just lacking a lobby. Its not just lacking a champion. CSA
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Jump to new posts Re: the loneliness by 96789594 @ Yesterday at 09:50 AM

[quote=don64]I'm mostly alone because of after watching 55+ years of me continuously re-creating abusive situations, I decided I needed the isolation to figure out ME. And, it is working. i truly relate to that , for years i felt bad and inferior
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Jump to new posts Re: Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by traveler @ Yesterday at 09:26 AM

d e - i, too wish you didn't feel the need to be here. but it is good to hear from you again and know that you are still in the fight. and i applaud you for your (perhaps intermittent) persistence in dealing with the old recurring wounds. i wish you
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Jump to new posts Re: (trigger) Should I send this letter to my abuser? by Chase Eric @ Yesterday at 09:24 AM

I think you made a very wise choice, Ocellaris. I suspect you derived quite a bit just by writing the letter and getting it out in front of you. And who knows- this may be the first indication that maybe you do have something to say to him. If so,
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Jump to new posts Re: It's no big deal- that's why I can't talk about it by 96789594 @ Yesterday at 09:05 AM

<<I was/am very leery of therapists and doubt their efficacy. And that coupled with my tendencies of minimization and avoidance helped me to avoid even recognizing that I was not handling the trauma well at all>> I guess i'm exactly lik
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Jump to new posts Re: (trigger) Should I send this letter to my abuser? by Ocellaris @ Yesterday at 07:22 AM

Thanks for everyone's responses. I have decided not to send the letter at this time -- and perhaps not at all. I did think about the possibility of a defamation suit, but I'm prepared to defend one as I have kept several artifacts from that time incl
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Jump to new posts Yes I'm back, with the therapist question by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 06:10 AM

Well hello guys. I admit to be perfectly honest I'd rather not be here again. This is nothing to do with anyone here, or because it hasn't been helpful in the past, in fact I'd like to say hi to Magellan, Pero, Writer kieth and everyone else. Th
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Jump to new posts Re: Constant media barrage of CSA in the UK by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 05:48 AM

My problem with all these stories is that they're one sided and severely lacking. They're always about the creepy old men and the beautiful, innocent young girls. Very occasionally it's boys, but only as an after thought. That's what tends to piss
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