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Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Shame by lostc @ Yesterday at 05:34 PM

thank you NM
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Difficult Day, Terrible Thoughts by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 04:42 PM

My therapist told me today that he believes my need to watch the health and death of the abuser is tied into an emotional need the abuser created with me, identifying with him as someone who cared for me. Whatever he did or said tied me to him emoti
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: CSA and PAS by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 04:35 PM

sorryson, you were very courageous to tell your story here. I am so sorry for what you have been through and identify with a good bit of it. I too had an abusive and controlling mother. She was also one of my perps, which made the relationship we
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: CSA and PAS by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 03:59 PM

Sounds like your brother is making progress. I hope he soon realizes he is worthy of a good life. He has endured much, childhood and a large part of his adult years robbed unnecessarily. He spoke words of wisdom about your father and the terminolog
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Was porn part of the ritual of your abuse? by lapchinj @ Yesterday at 03:52 PM

*TRIGGER WARNING* I have no memories of life before I was 9 years old. I had seen pictures of me and my best friend in porn magazines of the '60s, but I was between 9 and 13. This was because my best friends sister had taken pictures of us fooling
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Epiphany: I don't have to change by don64 @ Yesterday at 03:38 PM

Hi Winhamness, For me, one of the culprits with what you are talking about has been contingent thinking. I never learned how to just feel how I actually felt about anything. The "I" just wasn't there. All my choices were fear driven, wh
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Shame by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:25 PM

(((lostc)))
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: remember this case? by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:23 PM

How dismal and how depressing. If that woman really loved the boy, she would have left him alone until he was an adult.
Poetry
Jump to new posts Re: I don't feel myself today by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:20 PM

Hi (((Sven))) I am sorry that you feel so isolated and sad. It is something I often go through as well. You are not alone. I just know that after a while the dreadful feelings pass. Please know that I stand in your corner and I truly hope you fe
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Think i can post this here ... -trigger warning by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:17 PM

Hi tryingtolive. I think many, if not most, of us survivors experience doubts or questions about our sexuality as a result of being abused. I think it is a natural result of sexual trauma being inflicted on us when we were not yet physically or psy
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: To Forgive, but not to Absolve by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:03 PM

I would find it so much easier to forgive the people who abused me if I saw genuine contrition in their apologies to me. Fact is, my mother never apologized to me for anything. Literally. Every disagreement we ever, ever had always ended up being
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Shame by lostc @ Yesterday at 01:39 PM

Thank you gaatt, I appreciate your reply it means a lot. thanks for your thoughts and sharing, i'll try to keep this in mind. I feel very similar. thank you.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Hello Again - An Update by concerned_husky @ Yesterday at 01:29 PM

NM - thanks for those kind words, I really appreciate it. I think the amount of support you give to others on here is incredible and we're definitely lucky to have you too. Will - you mentioned projecting a couple of times but jeez, I can relate to
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Responsibility by gaatt @ Yesterday at 12:56 PM

Hi Focussed, Originally Posted By: focusedbody it's also important to take a moment and mourn what didn't happen before starting on a new road. I got a taste of this the other day. My mother was trying to figure out what to do with my father's old mi
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: .gay for me. by Sterling @ Yesterday at 11:27 AM

thanks Peterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! Yea I think I am gay. I am in the closet, I think. I have never looked at a women's ass as much as a guy's. Hate that I put so much weight in the last year. I have to settle for a man who is chunky
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts NY Times op ed on abuse in the news by GoodHope @ Yesterday at 11:05 AM

Excellent piece http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/06/01/opi...0&referrer=
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: To Forgive, but not to Absolve by Halster @ Yesterday at 11:01 AM

"Forgiveness results from the power of an autonomous decision to act deliberately, rather than react impulsively." I like that - and find it very helpful. Thanks!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Epiphany: I don't have to change by Winhamness @ Yesterday at 10:58 AM

I've been struggling a lot lately. I've been really sad. Feeling a lot of despair. I've been on the healing path for a little while now. It really started about 4 years ago. 2 months ago, life put me in a place where I decided it was time to mak
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Parenting and Prevention by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 10:57 AM

Hey tbkk, You've made some excellent, valid points. It's always been risky, but now there's just more awareness. Dr. Dobson has used the old familiar "Be afraid, be very afraid." gimmick that's so effective as a fund raiser for his organ
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Feelings of guilt and shame by Halster @ Yesterday at 10:55 AM

There are absolutely no stupid questions here! I'm so glad that you have lifted-up the issues of guilt and shame. I suspect that I'm troubled more by shame than by guilt. Perhaps, because I define them in very different ways. I define "guilt&qu
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Think i can post this here ... -trigger warning by SmartShadow @ Yesterday at 10:53 AM

Hay tryingtolive, it is good to see you reaching out for answers. You are not alone in your experiences. I have a long day ahead of me so I don't have the time I would like to respond to your post right now. But know you are not alone in this. A
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Think i can post this here ... -trigger warning by Tryingtolive @ Yesterday at 08:20 AM

.... If this is in the wrong category I will remove the post
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Think i can post this here ... -trigger warning by Tryingtolive @ Yesterday at 06:39 AM

Wasn't sure where to post this so I thought this would be the best place...... Just doing some thinking tonight and wanted to share some of my thoughts ..sorry if this is everywhere just have a racing mind right now and wanted to share.... So here we
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Parenting and Prevention by tbkkfile @ Yesterday at 06:24 AM

Quote:The world has changed, he says, and has become too dangerous to allow your children out of your sight for so long. In his book Bringing Up Girls, he says: Has it really changed or are we just more aware of it. Quote:Sadly, the world has chang
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Vicious Scum ****TRIGGER WARNING**** by GoodKiwi @ Yesterday at 05:44 AM

I lasted five minutes with this documentary and it's scarred me for days, if not life. I wouldn't recommend it for anyone as fragile or naive as myself. Seeing life through the lens of those *^%^! bags really haunts me.
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