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Jump to new posts Re: 5 wks frm CSA realization, 2 wk learning -> Mom by Sonata1 @ 19 minutes 30 seconds ago

RepressedMem I already responded to your post on my intro, so let me just add about not hurting relationships in the healing process: Ask what they are able to handle and respect that. My wife has been awesome with me. It freaks her out at times, bu
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Jump to new posts Re: 2 weeks into realizing what happened by Sonata1 @ 26 minutes 37 seconds ago

RepressedMem, Thanks. I read your intro. Yes, we're on the same timeline for CSA at about the same age, and for when we recovered the memories. I've now figured out I was 5ish. I'm about your age too -- 49. I don't have the added burden of its being
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Jump to new posts Re: He was my friend by JW1230 @ 55 minutes 42 seconds ago

NSM, Wow, I related to so much of what you said; I do the same thing with people. I too keep them at arms length and always have a "way out". When I begin to get too close, I have a pattern of cutting ties. I have hurt a lot of people ov
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Jump to new posts Re: Vocational Rehab by sportinrucks @ Today at 06:15 PM

the last ones never called back.
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Jump to new posts Vocational Rehab by sportinrucks @ Today at 06:14 PM

Anyone having trouble with their vocational rehabilitation services? I've been unemployed for a year I guess and on Social Security Disability at 29. I'm in Louisiana and the ones in the New Orleans area were so overburdened with unemployment cases I
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My first day of Sobriety by Nothing Man @ Today at 05:22 PM

David, I agree with both Jude and Don, especially as I have been through it -- alcohol withdrawal -- myself. The best thing you can do is check yourself into a hospital so the doctors can help you withdraw peacefully, and then get involved in a pro
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Jump to new posts sushi squid scene by victor-victim @ Today at 04:57 PM

a diet to die for. i ate some strange foods in asia, but nothing like this. . . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LzJEGqek3TQ ewwwwwww! i could not "act" like this. where are the out-takes, i wonder?
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: 5 wks frm CSA realization, 2 wk learning -> Mom by NoSimpleMachine @ Today at 04:46 PM

Hi RepressedMem. Welcome to MS. I too uncovered trauma at a young age that was buried to me, about 6-7 months ago at age 28. It's a life changing thing, and it's scary how much it shifts your foundations around but remember a few things: 1) With con
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Jump to new posts He was my friend by NoSimpleMachine @ Today at 04:22 PM

I've spent a lifetime keeping people at arm's length. Few connections, chosen carefully based on my emotional feelings with someone, and always leave myself a way out. Even a friendship that's lasted half my life, there's a way out. And it's really h
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Jump to new posts Re: How many layers do I have to uncover by NoSimpleMachine @ Today at 03:54 PM

Hi tbkk. Thanks for your cogent thoughts. This has been on my mind a lot lately, the whole "am I in a stable enough place to live my life or do I have to just let these changes keep happening" notion. Because it can feel like I have to let
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: An interesting cartoon from the web about shame by BuffaloCO @ Today at 03:21 PM

What I find disturbing is the idea that all survivors are women in these cartoons, and all the perps are guys. Guys are mostly perps I think but not always, and guys are often victims as well, Hence this site. The myths continue.
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Shia Lebouf Claims He Was Raped by Sven @ Today at 03:07 PM

Yeh idk what to think about this either.
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Jump to new posts Re: I back, again..... by Chase Eric @ Today at 02:13 PM

Quote:Yes, I was forced to Participate but that does Not mean that I enjoyed it, even if it for a moment felt physically good, based on physiology!!!!!!!!! Sometimes I wish I was just punched in the gut instead. There would be no ambivalence, no tra
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Jump to new posts Re: 5 wks frm CSA realization, 2 wk learning -> Mom by RepressedMem @ Today at 01:06 PM

Thanks NM, sadly my life has been pretty different since first memory since along with CSA I found a few severe life threatening traumas as well from the same hands. Thus PTSD full bloom hit, which had always been just under the surface. So, I fina
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Jump to new posts Re: I back, again..... by Publius @ Today at 10:45 AM

"It feels as though that I don't deserve this at all...I feel so bad for saying the things I need to get out and I feel terrible for saying so...My only consolidation is that what I say may be of benefit to others by being an example of what som
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Jump to new posts Re: 5 wks frm CSA realization, 2 wk learning -> Mom by Nothing Man @ Today at 10:25 AM

Hello RM. I have an idea of what you are feeling right now because I had a similar awakening when I realized my mother was one of my perps as well. Stay active here on MS. There are an awful lot of us who understand what you went through. There i
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: This was the 'worst part of my abuse,' by Publius @ Today at 10:00 AM

"he kept up his ruse of telling me how special i was and what a 'special, beautiful boy' I was. To be fully honest, the attention felt really good and if the trade off was something so minor, than so be it, or so I thought." You don't hav
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Jump to new posts A Big Mook! by Still @ Today at 09:56 AM

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Jump to new posts Re: Reflection and Being Thankful by sorryson @ Today at 09:38 AM

Woodenshoes you are so right my wife is awesome and I am learning Dad had an awesome second wife. Don't get me wrong Mama did many good things. She was just unable to let her children fly. She needed to be excessively loved by her children, she mea
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Jump to new posts Re: How many layers do I have to uncover by Bardo @ Today at 09:35 AM

As I sit at the beginning of this process, your words fill me with both anticipation and dread. For the first time, when I see my perp's name on Facebook or elsewhere (he is my brother), I am beginning to be triggered with strong feelings of nascent
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Jump to new posts Re: How many layers do I have to uncover by don64 @ Today at 07:37 AM

Hi David, I'm slowly teaching myself a version of it's not the destination, but the journey. I don't intend to ever stop learning, and yet, somehow I believed (past tense) that I would get over something and then be on my way. I don't think that w
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Jump to new posts Re: Don't Tell by sugarbaby @ Today at 02:19 AM

Your welcome. It can AND DOES go the other way. I know you feel the lose of what you had Still. My hope is that one day you will find the joy in what you find on this new path.
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Jump to new posts Re: I back, again..... by Logan @ Today at 02:12 AM

I can not, truly say or even begin to to express how much this means to me truly...... I know That I have been through something terrible ,but We ALL have! (tears). I just want to say thank you soo, so much for these replies. It feels as though tha
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Jump to new posts Re: How many layers do I have to uncover by learning2remember @ Today at 02:07 AM

Hey David, I can relate to wondering how many layers. I really thought I'd be done long ago. At the same time, congratulations on recognising progress. Sometimes uncovering something new is affirming for me it that it is more proof that something i
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Jump to new posts Re: How many layers do I have to uncover by kcinohio @ Today at 01:47 AM

Hi David, Thanks for your post. It does take a while to peel back the layers, but as one eventually heals to the extent possible and finds healthier coping, the new life one's living gets better and that gets to be the history you can draw from. Gl
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