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Jump to new posts Re: Reading literature and the so what's so bad fairy by tbkkfile @ 51 minutes 45 seconds ago

I tend to keep the books that I read that are concerned with real life events or real people, most of the sci-fi and fantasy books go to the local charity shop other than a few such as Lotr and the Hobbit, the complete Thomas covenant books and a few
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Jump to new posts Re: Reading literature and the so what's so bad fairy by dark empathy @ Today at 01:23 AM

Well txb, that won't be a problem in Lotr, indeed Lotr is one of these things I reread everysooften just because I love it's music and style. Oh, and it might not have been your dad's fault. There were some editions where the chapter where Danny is
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Jump to new posts Re: Does society care? by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 10:53 PM

That's a pretty profound statement Originally Posted By: GoodKiwiThen I realised I canít think of a single survivor story where the victim was listened to, taken seriously and treated in an appropriate and compassionate manner. And I think there's
Jump to new posts It's Ok by zip14 @ Yesterday at 10:44 PM

it's Ok is what you said the words you whispered in my head frozen in my terror then you made your choice, you made your sin and now i write my truth for court so they know how you did distort the life i've lead throughout my years my sleepless nigh
Jump to new posts Re: Your life in Six Words by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 10:38 PM

a normal life, i was denied. i do not accept any blame. i cried until my eyes dried. i refused to play the game. resistance was futile, though i tried. i could not avoid the flame. i did not consent, i complied. i feel no guilt or s
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Jump to new posts Re: To Forgive, but not to Absolve by Suwanee @ Yesterday at 10:28 PM

txb, victor-victim provides a good response below. Without getting deep into the philosophy of Immanuel Kant et. al., I'll also give it a go since I started this thing: Forgiveness and absolution are related but neither the twain shall meet. The r
Jump to new posts Re: Shhh by zip14 @ Yesterday at 10:17 PM

Great stuff. Thanks. Just what I needed.
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Child Bride (1938) by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 10:09 PM

Child Bride (1938) A schoolteacher in a rural community campaigns to stop the practice of older men marrying young, underage girls. Child Bride is a 1938 American film directed by Harry Revier and produced by Raymond L. Friedgen. The film was prom
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts I'm a back Hi! by forgive777 @ Yesterday at 09:33 PM

Hello gentlmen I been out been working! And I kind of Dont want to bring back my feelings and flash backs of my sexual abuse do to weird mind shifting to the past I feel as I'm the same lil boy if I start remembering the abuse.. But one thing that ha
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Jump to new posts Re: To Forgive, but not to Absolve by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 09:20 PM

dear txb, your post got me thinking. if a one has no ill will against one's abusers, and one does not wish them harm, one does not need to forgive them. if the sight or thought of them does not trigger a deep negative emotional reaction in one's
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Wendy Maltz's "The Sexual Healing Journey" by gaatt @ Yesterday at 09:17 PM

Originally Posted By: focusedbodyWendy Maltz's book "The Sexual Healing Journey" has a good list of ways to think about sex that are healthy. Hi FB, I imagine that you are talking about the chapter called "Creating a New Meaning for
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Does society care? by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 07:39 PM

so true, txb. if one asks the question, "Does society care?", one must specify the society about which one is inquiring.
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Jump to new posts Re: To Forgive, but not to Absolve by txb @ Yesterday at 07:18 PM

What is the difference between forgiving and absolving? Aren't they the same thing? What is it exactly that people are doing when they forgive someone? I'm sorry if those seem like really dumb questions, but this hurts my head to think about. Why do
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I don't think I've ever read the same book twice. Maybe that makes me weird? I have been rereading some books that were read to me as a child, so maybe that counts - mostly Roald Dahl too, and also A Series of Unfortunate Events (that was still as go
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Jump to new posts Re: Does society care? by txb @ Yesterday at 06:41 PM

I didn't know if I should share this or not. I am lucky and have had far more help than most other people have. It seems kind of obnoxious to talk about it. But this is recent. Like 5 years ago. Maybe it helps to know that things have changed and kid
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Difficult Day, Terrible Thoughts by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 02:43 PM

Well life is back to me. My friend left this morning for a meeting than off to the airport. It was a wonderful time but too bad it had to be impacted by such a mean spirited posting on social media to promote a personal agenda full of missing facts
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I am falling apart by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 02:42 PM

Hey Bluesky, No need to go into it now. Or for that matter, to ever go into it if you choose. It's all up to you. But, please remember you are not alone as you try to deal with these unsettling sensations. Many times when we feel as if we're fa
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Will we ever be "us" again? by Mishka95673 @ Yesterday at 01:49 PM

Hi Trishy, I really understand the sense of loss you are feeling. I have asked myself the same I willing to forego the physical touch to be in this relationship with him. What helped me is to realize that the physical touch aspect was
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Old dog,new trick by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 01:43 PM

Yes yes, only you can choose your future, you have the power, today is the first day of the rest of your life, tomorrow is another day, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, etc, etc etc. Maybe for some people this is true, hell
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Jump to new posts Re: CSA survival with disabilities by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 01:22 PM

Gender makes a difference, I've seen the stats on married vs single and it's shocking, out of all married disabled people, five out of six are female. Don't believe me? read This story of another blind surviver My councillor found it for me, but bas
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Jump to new posts Re: I am falling apart by bluesky @ Yesterday at 01:21 PM

I thought I was falling apart and I was and am. But at the same time the hidden wounds are being reveled. The past few weeks have been a complete mental confusion but I am working through it. I am just very numb in the head and disassociated and angr
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Jump to new posts Re: Anniversaries by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 01:21 PM

Hey BDD, I think what I would have to say for your statement can be summed up in one word Originally Posted By: BDD You know, this year is different. I am not apologizing for being sad. And that word would be CONGRATULATIONS Sometime there's just n
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Jump to new posts Re: Reading literature and the so what's so bad fairy by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 12:52 PM

Your experience with this lady sounds remarkably similar to an experience I had with a friend of mine's husband (also a friend though I don't know him as well as his wife who is sort of like a brother to me). He felt a huge amount of depression due t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I am Frankenstein by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 12:38 PM

"something for those guys who are in the early stages of therapy today: you won't believe how much the pain and the memories will fade." "those memories first became more vivid, and then they've faded." "they do fade. Just
Jump to new posts Re: greetings by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 12:31 PM

Hi ScardyCat, welcome to MS How many times I heard that name growing up! I didn't understand a lot of what was going on at the time, but I knew that wasn't a name to be cherished. By joining in with other survivors you've made another courageous
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