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Jump to new posts Re: Mud Season by sentry @ Today at 08:08 AM

Hey Jude. That looks like some serious mud you are dealing with there. You could use a good 4x4 to get you through that. Other than the muddy road it looks like you live in a really cool environment. Just so you won't feel too bad about the weather
Spirituality and Survivors
Izzy Many talk about forgiveness. I believe the first person you need to forgive is yourself--the guilt and shame the abuse left me with created this secret, and silence can be controlling and destructive. With much pain and hurt, I began to forgiv
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I HAVE SURVIVED by don64 @ Today at 03:32 AM

Thanks Justplainme, Doing this exercise is a continuation of me spilling the beans and not minimizing my experience to myself. Also, doing this and reading others' survivor lists makes me feel like a part of a family. I don't usually need for anyo
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Jump to new posts Trying to understand masculinity by TheBobcatAgain @ Today at 01:30 AM

This is my biggest problem I'm struggling with right now. From "Understanding and Raising Boys; Growing Up Masculine" - "Men are extremely important in giving boys messages about being a man," adds Canada. "Boys want to grow
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: ***TRIGGER*** Castration fear by randy2000 @ Today at 12:14 AM

It was the night before my hernia operation. I was a senior in high school. My abuser continued to control me. I overheard my dad telling my mom that if the doctor wasn't careful, I would be castrated. When I heard that, it excited me. I don't k
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts The Bar Keeps Moving by Airmid @ Yesterday at 11:48 PM

I feel like I'm being sh*t tested so often now...improvements happen, but it feels like they're all for show. He'll never let me in. I cannot say anything at all when he makes mistakes, or backs out of plans, or runs the family late, goes on
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: This American Life: Interview With A Pedophile by JayBro @ Yesterday at 10:53 PM

Thank you for sharing this! This reminds me of something posted on the CBC News Toronto website last week which was a snippet from a local CBC Radio 1 show; a man called in who admitted that he had been convicted of possession of child pornography a
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Trusting Him Again by YYZGIRL @ Yesterday at 08:44 PM

L2LME, My husband has joined was was reading threads on here but is now saying that he is going to delete his profile and is done with everything. Thank you very much for your offer of support, I will pass it along to him but right now I am not s
Jump to new posts Re: I'm Still Here by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 08:43 PM

BluegrassGhost You are not a ghost, you are a visible human being who knows he needs support. You have come to a place that will give you non judgmental support. As others have said, you know what you want and what you need to do. You have taken
Jump to new posts Re: New member by learning2luvme @ Yesterday at 08:16 PM

Mike, We all end up back here at some point because their is love and wisdom here. We all get better, have shortcomings and pitfalls, but we do find strength in numbers and in the wisdom of those that have walked this path. It's ok to be "bac
Jump to new posts Re: Of all they took, miss my smile *****TRIGGERS***** by learning2luvme @ Yesterday at 08:12 PM

IW2T, Thanks for sharing your story. We unfortunately have alot in common as I was also used and passed around by my abuser. One of my nightmares involves a Polaroid camera that he would use to take pictures of me and the other abusers. He would
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to Start by learning2luvme @ Yesterday at 07:48 PM

Please check back in. You made a very positive impact on me my friend. Know you are always loved by your friends here at MS. Warm Regards, L2LME
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Sexual charge post trauma by nuriah @ Yesterday at 07:06 PM

I've experienced this, turning to porn or simply masturbation in response to stress in general. I've also wanted to escape away into porn/masturbation as a stress response when visiting or being visited by my parents. I've also turned to sex in gene
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Your Mother's Abuse? *Triggers* by nuriah @ Yesterday at 07:02 PM

My mother *hasn't* talked to me about her abuse - we only really have best guesses at it. Aside from the obvious (her having abused me), she has many of the telltales of childhood abuse, including telling very, very few stories of her childhood. Our
Jump to new posts Re: My Dark Passenger by zip14 @ Yesterday at 03:16 PM

I received an update from Police today. My perp is alive and Police have an address on him. This news was received with a mix of fear, anger and anticipation. I feel good knowing that I wasn't chasing after a ghost. I feel good knowing that he will
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: New MJ Album Includes Song About Child Sex Abuse by Canuck @ Yesterday at 02:29 PM

No, actually, it's just *not* that complicated. I've followed many child molestation cases in the news, and in *every* case that's made the news that I've read about, there are plenty of "people" who come out of the woodwork to accuse the
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: finally self-acceptance by JayBro @ Yesterday at 01:15 PM

Interesting. I think for me, I accepted that I was gay when I was 11 or 12 and it inspired me even then to want to understand those in society that the mainstream didn't largely accept, and to not judge others for their differences. I think it made m
Jump to new posts Re: Hurting by JayBro @ Yesterday at 12:38 PM

Thank you for sharing your poetry with us. I am sorry to read it, but I do not think that your vulnerability from being abused makes you what you convinced yourself you were based on what your dad said. Both men have done tremendous damage to you as
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: The Neurobiology Of Child Abuse by justplainme @ Yesterday at 12:32 PM

Originally Posted By: don64Hi Justplainme, "There is only one thing I dread, not be worthy of my sufferings." I do get the serious implications of the statement and agree. There is also, for me, a hysterically comic aspect worthy of Osc
Jump to new posts Re: I quit by bey @ Yesterday at 12:02 PM

thanks lee yeah, i will think about it. and no, i won't quit entirely. ben
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Finding Strength through Faith - Triggers by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 10:58 AM

this all sounds very positive. glad to hear you are feeling better. always happy to hear good news.
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Salvation and The CSA Boy by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 10:55 AM

dear still. very inspired piece of writing, i agree, i'm tired of fighting. amen, brother.
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Masturbation Flashbacks and Sexual Self-Abuse by JayBro @ Yesterday at 10:38 AM

Hey Mountainous Buck, I am reading your response again now, and I know exactly what you mean. I am experiencing that now and feel so much better! I tried and I did!! (((Mountainous Buck)))
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: SSA, Imprinting, Orientation and Addiction by don64 @ Yesterday at 09:50 AM

Hi Litourski, I've always known I'm gay. At 64, I grew up in a time and region of the U. S. (rural south) where being gay was so not ok, dangerous even. Even in the big city of Atlanta in the 70's gays would be viciously attacked in parks when cru

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