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Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll part 2 by Nothing Man @ 5 minutes 1 second ago

I consider myself straight. I have had sex only with women, never with men. But I think it is clear that the CSA also made me doubt my sexuality, having been introduced to sexual activity at such a young age.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: How long did you keep it secret? by Nothing Man @ 11 minutes 32 seconds ago

I was eight when I was raped, and I was also serially sexually molested by my mother until I was about 16. I did not officially tell anyone about the abuse until I was about 45, so I kept the secret for decades. From what I have read this is not un
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll by Nothing Man @ 16 minutes 13 seconds ago

After I was raped I lost so much self-confidence. I became a people-pleaser and as a result suffered some bullying. That just made the lack of self-confidence even worse, and it turned into a spiraling effect that took decades to get out of. But t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Flashbacks at the office -- *triggers* by unhappycamper @ Yesterday at 11:29 PM

Luther: THis sounds like another corny cognitive therapy trick, but sometimes it can get you through a FB or panic attack: Just tell yourself in words--either silently or aloud--that "That was then, and this is now." In my experience, FBs e
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll by Tryingtolive @ Yesterday at 09:18 PM

For me I picked everyone but denial ... A part of me tells me I'm in denial while another part tells me I'm not
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: god------trigger by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 08:11 PM

if God is a trigger! i say "Pull it!" Concrete Blonde says "God is a bullet"
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Films anyone? by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 05:15 PM

Joseph Gordon-Levitt starred in a film called "Mysterious Skin" which dealt with the effects of childhood sexual abuse. It is a powerful and moving film, but features a rape scene which can be triggering and very uncomfortable to watch.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Isolation... by iaccus @ Yesterday at 05:12 PM

You are not alone brother, its safer there.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Inspiration Just for today by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 05:09 PM

“Dissociated trauma memories don't reveal themselves like ordinary memories. Like pieces of a puzzle, they escape the primitive part of our brain where the trauma has been stored without words. These starkly vivid and detailed images are defined by
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Subconsciousness vs consciousness by Tryingtolive @ Yesterday at 04:30 PM

Anyone struggle understanding these two things ? My subconciousness is like my data place in my mind while my consciousness is my current thought right ? How can I eliminate my subconscious thoughts? I feel like I'm never in the moment with thi
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Jump to new posts expressionism by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 04:18 PM

this is not some oddity. this is an epic odyssey! journey to the center of the soul. don't stop until you reach your goal. the trip is the destination, dear sterling. i believe you will find the core of your being.
Jump to new posts Re: I thought it was the end by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 04:03 PM

this poem gives me a truth ache. how much pain can one man take. reality and fantasy collide. one hell of a crazy ride. violence is extremely intense. justice? revenge? self defense? i kept murder in my heart. but it ripped my soul apart.
Jump to new posts Calling all angels! TRIGGERS by iaccus @ Yesterday at 03:38 PM

Calling all angels To come to my side And grab the knurled grip of my weapon And pull it away from my head Are you there? Where were you when I needed you most? On those dark nights with him How can I expect you to save me now? When you failed to s
Jump to new posts Re: fearless by victor-victim @ Yesterday at 03:29 PM

great sentiments, bey. i can totally relate. i fight against fear. i battle against hate. “Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared.” ~ Eddie Rickenbacker Edward Vernon Rickenbacker was an A
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: I am tired. by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:21 PM

Simba, just checking back in with you. How are you doing? Mike
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Straw poll part 4 (incest survivor poll) by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:16 PM

My mother, who was one of my abusers, has been dead for 17 years now and I can honestly say I do not miss her, nor do I mourn her passing. She was also physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward me. I think that even if she were alive
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Are You a Carrot, Egg or Coffee Bean by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 12:49 PM

The egg seems like the fall back place to go. We try to protect ourselves in life and for survivors it definitely is a way of life. You said it, the egg is a false sense of strength. Undoing and reprogramming can be hard--like they say you cannot te
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: He made me gay by 1lifenow @ Yesterday at 12:49 PM

Cant The struggle is real. What is the fall out of a childhood so twisted? I have been on and off this site for almost 5 years now and I think Chase Eric's comment and insite about the Conclusions you/we can draw are DEAD ON. We do have the po
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Mankind Project? by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 12:17 PM

I'm always skeptical of websites that offer those types of "services"
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My mind is spinning *triggers* by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 12:12 PM

Hey (((Sven))) I am so sorry you are hurting right now. I hope it will pass quickly. Please reach out and talk to someone -- your therapist, a trusted friend, a spiritual advisor -- and remember that you are not alone. We stand behind you and man

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